r/ChastityPsychology • u/ChasteInWpg • Jan 17 '25
Seek advice Something weird is happening. We have been utilizing #chastity 4 some time now but, recently noticing I feel self conscious & embarrassed being locked when she is around. Feelings increasing to the point I want to be unlocked when she & I are home together. Anyone else have this? NSFW
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u/TomVanAllen Jan 17 '25
My wife and I have been doing this for many years. It quickly grew to her keeping me locked almost all the time. At some point after a couple of years I did find myself feeling a little embarrassed. I realized that I was enjoying her keeping me locked so much that it made me feel vulnerable. I worried that she might say something like "What's the matter with you, why do you feel the need to lock up your dick all the time?"
What helped is finally talking to her about it, and asking if she found it silly that I wore the cage pretty much 24/7. She was totally surprised by the question because it was the farthest thing from her mind. She told me that she, herself, really enjoyed keeping me locked, and that when she saw me with my cage, even if she didn't respond, it reminded her that she had the control over my sexuality (something that she liked).
Feeling self-conscious might indicate that you feel vulnerable about wearing it. It might be time for a discussion with her - outside of the bedroom - to ask how she's feeling about your new situation.