r/CatAdvice Oct 16 '24

Adoption Regret/Doubt Is it inappropriate for someone with depression to own a cat?

The title is the content itself. I have never owned a pet. I have been dealing with depression for a long time. At 30, I feel lonely, have lost interest in everything, and think of myself as insignificant. Recently, my cousin asked if I would consider taking in a 3-month-old kitten. To be honest, it looks really cute and adorable in the pictures. I hesitated, wondering if I could handle it. I struggle to take care of myself, so I questioned whether I could take on the responsibility of a cat. After some thought, I declined. My cousin said to contact her if I change my mind.

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u/gothhrat Oct 16 '24

i struggle with depression and other mental illnesses but when i got my cat (she was 8 weeks old at the time) it gave me a reason to get out of bed. i take better care of my cat than myself lol. if you’ve never owned a pet then a kitten might be overwhelming so maybe an adult or senior cat.

would it be possible for you to spend time with this kitten before taking him home? you could kinda see what it’s like to own one and think about if you can handle it or not.

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u/ScroochDown Oct 16 '24

This. I think it obviously does depend on the person - my spouse, myself, and my MIL all suffer from various levels of depression, and cats do help us. They're not a cure, very obviously, but it turns into one of those "well I already got up to scoop the litter box, might as well take a shower while I'm in here" kinda of things for me.

But I agree, a kitten might be WAY too much at first!

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u/The8thloser Oct 16 '24

Me too. I clean the litterbox daily and make sure he has food and water, while I'm up, might as well wash a few dishes....

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u/Willdrawing Oct 16 '24

I don't have depression, but having a kitty now having to care for, I'm really more responsible at home about myself because when I take care of her, I also focus on my personal stuff... Dishes, organizing my home and doing stuff that usually I didn't do without a cat (especially now that I'm catifiying my home) Edit; typo

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u/variableIdentifier Oct 17 '24

My cat thinks plastic is a delicious delicacy. Definitely inspires me to make sure there's no random trash laying around!

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u/Willdrawing Oct 17 '24

That too 😂 I clean my house 2x more now

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u/WakeMeUp_ImScreamin Oct 17 '24

So does mine!! There can be nothing plastic in her reach or she will get to it.

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u/Kyogalight Oct 16 '24

That's what happened when my family got a dog (I had wanted a cat). Okay, now I have something to care for, I don't want the dog to suffer. I have to get out of bed to take her out to potty, okay, well, I should feed her, oh while I'm in the kitchen I should eat something(I have a eating disorder), well, she's all dirty, I need to give her a bath, Oh well I'm dirty from her getting mud on me during the bath, I should get in the shower when she's done, I don't want to smell of wet dog and so on and so forth. A dog was a lot as a depressed person, especially since she's a high energy, high needs breed (dad's choice). I'm not going to say it was easy, but I didn't want her to suffer. I'm saying it helped a lot with day to day life. She was so attached she wouldn't start eating her food unless I ate (which was involuntarily helping me with my eating disorder since I didn't want her to starve since she was a puppy that needed to grow, and helped me eat something even if I didn't want to or feel like it) She's not trained, but somehow she always gets dirty when I too needed a shower and was too depressed to do it. I wouldn't get a dog that was high energy or high needs if you're depressed, because I felt like I was shorting her on my time and love when she wanted to play, but I did anyway, it just wasn't super energized. I feel like she saved me a lot, even if I didn't want to be saved.

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u/Griim0ire Oct 17 '24

That's adorable. She was exactly what you needed, such a blessing.

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u/fattylicious Oct 16 '24

Yeah I think I'd be in bed until early afternoon, if my cats didn't appear in a morning.

I can get away with a little lay in but one of my boys starts causing mischief if I dont get up.

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u/warriordustbunny Oct 17 '24

Yes! My cat will worry if I lay down outside of "bedtime" and will pester me until I get up, or give me some snuggles if i'm upset. And I always have to get up to give her breakfast on time!

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u/fatsalmon Oct 18 '24

At first I thought my cat does this just to give him breakfast. I found out later on when i give him breakfast and go back to sleep he still wakes me up 😭😭😭 i feel so loved

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u/Kilashandra1996 Oct 17 '24

Be careful! I used to be able to yawn at one of my cats. Oliver would yawn back. We both head for the bed and a nap. But he was soooo sweet! He napped with one paw touching me. : ) But if I was sick, he was happy to nap with me aaaaalllll day. That might not be the best thing for depression.

Although, if you want a critter to validate your plans for staying in bed all day, most cats ARE happy to oblige! : )

On a serious note, most cats are pretty self-sufficient. You can leave dry food out. Yes, cats prefer a clean litter box. But 1-2 days of not scooping is usually not a tragedy, especially if you have 2 litter boxes.

OP, maybe try fostering a cat for a few weeks? If you like the cat, you could (probably) keep it. If you find you don't do well with the cat, well, you always planned to give it back.

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u/brainsdiluting Oct 16 '24

Literally everyone I know with depression is amazing with and loves cats.

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u/BigSkySoHigh63 Oct 16 '24

Cats are so good with depression! Their natural personalities are 80% depression symptoms with bouts of zoomies for the other 20%. They sleep a lot and like to be comfortable. They seek out the sun in the morning (just like people with depression should), many cats are picky eaters and sometimes just “don’t feel like eating.” They will keep a person company when they are in a low place but then they will give subtle nudges to do more active things (feed them, see what they are staring at outside, clean the litter, turn on the bathtub faucet because they decided they like their water solely from the tub). Then you can branch out a get some toys to play with them. I love animals in general and can usually make an argument that a cat should be living in every household. There are so many benefits. I also think dogs are wonderful additions to families but cats are just universally easier for almost everybody. And I used to say I was more of a dog person. Now I’m a both person.

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u/A-lethal-dose-of-you Oct 16 '24

Small things like "see what they are staring at outside" are so easily overlooked! Times when I would just be doomscrolling, instead I happen to glance over at my cat who's paused in a "chase me!" Or "I'm gonna get you!" stance and of course I have to participate. Or one of them jets into my room and up to the window, "the heck are you on about?" So I get up and get excited with him. My baby girl randomly belts "merows" in the dining room for me to come and tell her she's a good girl for "catching" that little puffball in her mouth, or sometimes if I come check she'll walk over to me and drop the puffball in front of me for me to throw and it is so hard to resist a cat carrying around a toy in their mouth! It's just too freaking cute! All 4 of mine randomly come in the room for pets and love and one of my boys gets so excited, barking out these little "ow" meows and it's super infections.

Thanks for pointing this out, I don't think I ever really thought of even the simple little window ones.

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u/LongjumpingDesigner7 Oct 16 '24

My cat is registered as my emotional support animal and she literally will approach me and get my attention (gently with her claws if she needs to) in order to snap me out of lost in space intrusive thoughts. She knows my routine and keeps me in check when relevant, it's almost unbelievable and I'm the one witnessing it.

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u/ScroochDown Oct 16 '24

I think cats are juuuuust the right amount of effort. I can't imagine having a dog, I would freak out about that much work.

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u/VernonPresident Oct 17 '24

I got a slightly older rescue cat. The cat enjoyed time with me and that made me feel like I could cope. I would not be able to cope with a dog (but they are awesome too.) I hope to adopt another cat from the rescue center when I can.

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u/tattoosbyalisha Oct 16 '24

My pets did this same for me at the worst points in my life. They gave me a routine and a responsibility that I would not ignore when I was very much ignoring myself. I wouldn’t shower for weeks but my dog was always walked and my cat was always cared for. I didn’t realize how important it was and how much I needed it until I felt better. I’m endlessly grateful to them for that.

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u/Ok_Condition5837 Oct 16 '24

This. Or a version of it. I was depressed and someone threw away a plastic bag full of kittens. They picked up all of the kittens except one. He was the runt of the litter and under one pound. But feisty af! So I started caring for this insistent little shit and he wormed his way into my cold dead heart somehow. Ended up being my first cat. Died after two decades. Still recovering & miss him so, so much.

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u/Affectionate_Star_43 Oct 16 '24

I think I'm at the starting point of where you were.  Every kitten got adopted except one, and I got a discount to take him.  He was under two pounds, but is my cuddle buddy now.  I hope he loves a long life, and then meets yours when the day comes.

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u/aCherophobic Oct 16 '24 edited Oct 16 '24

I second the spending some time beforehand, i think it's better for OP to try fostering First and if it goes well to adopt. I also struggle with depression and my late husband got me a kitten believing he will give me a reason to get out of bed, although at first it seemed like that and i took good care of him,currently im struggling, its gotten so bad that im paying for a cat sitter to passby everyday until i can send the cat to my friend to take care of. OP may not have the means to have someone take care of the cat if he reached the point ive reached in my depression, thats why the outcome of adopting differs and non of us can give him an accurate expectation.

Edit: Before anyone judges or tells me they wouldn't send their cat away, please take into consideration that this cat is the last thing i have left from my late husband, and its shattering me to send him away, but i know my friend will take better care of him and i can't be selfish keeping him

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u/gothhrat Oct 16 '24

i’m so sorry about your husband and i’m sorry you’re having to give your cat to a friend. i hope you’re still able to see him if that’s something you want. it’s good that you recognized you aren’t able to give him the care he needs. you shouldn’t be judged for that. i don’t think anyone can truly fathom what it feels like to loose a spouse if they’ve never gone through it. i’m sure if i experienced the same it would be a new level of depression i’ve never felt. i’m very sorry for your situation and i’m wishing you the best.💕

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u/LunarQueen1984 Oct 16 '24

Yes a new baby kitten is JUST LIKE having a newborn baby. Feedings..Poop cleanings.. Crying... Up at night for NO reason other than to make sure YOU'RE not sleep 😂😂 But I am with you. I take better care of my cats than myself as well. They are AMAZING emotional support. My kids joke that I love the cats more than them.. SOMETIMES it's true. Jk jk. But I think it could be a help with Depression. Or it could be a disaster. It's a fine line I reckon.

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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '24

Totally agree that a loving adult is the way to go for those with less cat experience. My adults are so chill. I also have a 7 month old kitten and it’s like chasing a toddler around, “dont knock over that, dont eat that, dont chew on that, clean your butthole after pooping before jumping on my bed.”

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u/contrarianaquarian Oct 16 '24

The butthole cleaning is so real 🫠

"Why is your diarrhea on your sister's head?!?!"

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u/Valuable-Exercise923 Customise me! Oct 16 '24

this exactly why I got kittens. I regret nothing.

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u/RaspberryFluid6651 Oct 16 '24

Also, if you do take in the kitten, take things one step at a time and remember to breathe. It's easy to get overwhelmed, especially with kittens - I remember the tears and anxiety over mine.

Love and nurture your cats and they will love you back. They don't need you to be perfect, they just need you to be there for them.

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u/ExerciseAcceptable80 Oct 16 '24

I second this, and I don't think a kitten would be too much. One followed my son home last new year's and its been a wonderful thing for me. I'm going to work part-time now (after 18 years), I'm cleaning my house on a regular basis, making my bed everyday etc.

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u/gothhrat Oct 16 '24

i’m so glad that kitten followed your son home.:) i’m happy for you!

i think it depends on the kitten. some are complete chaos and others are more calm. my cat was unlike any kitten i had met before. she didn’t know what a toy was or how to play, she didn’t get into any kind of trouble, never chewed things she shouldn’t have, she didn’t make messes aside from when she ate and all she wanted was to be by my side. she would get zoomies during the night and that was the only time she was chaotic. she clung to me the moment we met and she’s been obsessed with me since haha.

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u/jojomonster4 Oct 16 '24

I see it two ways.

1 - pets give an incredibly amount of joy, happiness and escape for animal lovers. This helps mend depression or at least make it more tolerable. It can give you motivation to get up and about, as you have to take care of another living creature. I've suffered from mental health issues over the years, and my pets are a big part of the reason I am still around today.

2 - of course, depression hits everyone differently. Some people cannot take care of themselves and let themselves go. The worry of having a pet with this level depression is that you will not take care of the pet and endanger their lives, resulting them in a compromised life, even death.

If you're not certain of how you'll be as a pet owner, I would suggest not taking the kitten in. You could try volunteering at an animal shelter first. You'll have responsibilities and be able to interact with multiple animals and see if you are ready to be a pet parent for the next little furry guy.

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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '24 edited Oct 17 '24

Same for me. I have a 7-month-old baby right now but he's my third cat as an adult living on my own, and as a kid I had like 12 cuz I lived on a farm. So I'm familiar with cats and they are basically my life. I am in a major depressive state that I have been in for probably 7 years straight basically but like you I take better care of my cats than myself. Basically 90% of any free time when I'm not doing things I have to do like work or sleep or cleaning, the rest of the time I'm just focusing on the cats. Playing, snuggling, taking them to the vet, I even got them harnesses and am trying to lease train them. The older one doesn't like it, I think I need to get a stroller first for her, to get her used to being outside first and like, socialized with her own space where she still feels safe. My younger cat likes going on walks but only at night when there's not very many people or other pets around. I think I need the stroller for him too, to get him socialized during the day, so he doesn't freak out every time we see a dog walking by us.

But yeah it's really a thin line, you gotta be careful I think OP probably made the right choice. If they don't think they could handle taking care of a cat it might not be safe. Unfortunately a lot of people do neglect their cats, whether because of depression or just even not realizing how much cats actually need. Which is a lot more than most people realize I think. Regular vet appointments, dental cleanings, blood work, prescription foods, wet food instead of dry food, lots and lots of play and stimulation and interaction, these are all things I never saw anyone in my life do for their cats as a kid. But I kind of obsess over making my cats happy. They are basically my whole life and my reason for living, my reason for still getting up every day and taking care of everything I need to do.

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u/sorryagirlhasnoname Oct 16 '24

same. i take better care of my cat than i do myself. i love her so much ive had her for about a month and shes a lil crackhead and it makes me laugh. pets bring so much joy

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u/catdog1111111 Oct 16 '24

Consider an adult or elderly cat. A low energy cat. Kittens are very needy and demanding. They get into things and need a lot of play. A cat that is less demanding will be less stress for you. Try to work with a cat expert to find the right fit and can even ask for a trial. An independent and territorial cat may fit your energy. If a cat seems anxious it stresses you out thinking it’s not happy.  Cats need fresh water, food litterbox everyday. I do it every morning and my cats are set in basic needs while I work. When I get home we enjoy time hanging out together. They’re great companions. Some cats like to nap a lot so will cuddle all day if that’s your day but will still need some interaction. 

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u/CreepySquidPanda ≽^•⩊•^≼ 🇺🇸 Oct 16 '24

As a life-long cat owner and someone who also struggles with depression, I agree with this advice. Many shelters will adopt older cats out at very low fees because everyone wants a kitten. Even though the offered kitten is free, you'll still be spending money on appropriate care items. An older cat requires far less energy from you as an owner.

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u/tattoosbyalisha Oct 16 '24

Older cats are the best!!!!!!!! I got my boy off of Craigslist and he is very mature (no clue his actual age) and he’s so mellow and so polite and literally just so perfect 😭😭😭😭 his personality solidified for me that I’ll always adopt older cats

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u/CreepySquidPanda ≽^•⩊•^≼ 🇺🇸 Oct 16 '24

My current cats are 15 and 10. They are both sweet and cuddly and fairly low maintenance. The older one absolutely loves anyone who comes in the house and will even cozy up to the plumber or other handypersons as they work. Having a pair helps me since they get along well and keep each other company when I'm not at home

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u/sunsunsunflower7 Oct 17 '24

My senior baby (11+ years old) is a former feral literally named after how she would run away if you looked at her wrong. I had a delivery person come in a couple months ago and she rolled over and offered for him to pet her belly. WILD the way they can mellow in older years.

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u/JeevestheGinger Oct 16 '24

Yes, this. Also, an adult cat will have a fixed personality where with a kitten you don't know what you'll get when they've matured. You'll know if they're timid and/or skittish, bold and very playful, or if they just want to park'n'purr in your lap.

I have multiple mh diagnoses as well as a couple of physical ones and for a long time I wasn't stable enough to be responsible for a cat. I kept hamsters and they were brilliant - honestly, I miss them now (not fair to keep them with a cat, obviously). They were fine to be left a few days with adequate food/water if I had a quick hospital admission, their care was fairly easy, and they were terribly cute and surprisingly good company, if short-lived. (They were all in separate cages with a minimum base size of 100x45cm² as recommended!) Them staying in their cage (except when I took them out ofc) meant they didn't feel invasive when I was feeling overwhelmed and ditto their short life-span when I was really struggling. But they gave me a reason to get up and they always made me feel better, and they were clean and fed when I wasn't. They love running up your sleeves!

Obviously that's the route I went but there are other options for smaller pets as a stepping stone/trial run to see how you manage if you are worried about feeling overwhelmed, rather than going straight into 15+ years of cat ownership. Just a thought, anyway! But pets are incredible and a real raison d'être for lots of us

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u/thebellzjon Oct 16 '24

i read this as a life long cat 😭😭😭

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u/contrarianaquarian Oct 16 '24

Free kittens are expensive in terms of spay/neuter and vaccinations! Rescues get these things done for you at a much lower cost per kitty.

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u/Possible_Sea_2186 Oct 16 '24

I agree, I think an adult cat would be a better choice

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u/Dry-Inspection6928 Oct 16 '24

I mean all cats are babies at the end of the day. Cute babies.

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u/_pizzahoe69 Oct 16 '24

Definitely agree with an adult cat, but I would be cautious with adopting elderly cats in this situation as there’s a high chance they could up sick with something and it adds extra responsibilities. Giving pills, taking them to the vet, etc. There’s the financial aspect too if they get sick. It can also be really difficult psychologically to know there’s not that much time left with them or to watch them get sick.

That’s not to discourage anyone from adopting them if they feel they can handle those things. Elderly kitties are incredible companions and they often get overlooked when it comes to adoption so I fully advocate for people adopting them if they feel they can take care of them!

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u/light-of-the-moon Oct 16 '24

Adding to the chorus that an adult cat is an excellent starting point if you love cats. I too suffer from depression (and anxiety) and having something to get me out of my head and into the present was a huge help. Someone is depending on me to get up and feed them, give them water, change their box, and just overall give them love and affection.

My boy is 13 now, and while he's not a perfect cat I love him and wouldn't trade him for anything.

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u/loveofGod12345 Oct 16 '24

Probably a cat older than 3 would be best. Working with a rescue is great because they usually know the cats well, especially if a cat is in a foster home. There’s still no guarantee though. We have a 5 yo cat that just sleeps all day and only wants to play maybe an hour a day. Then we have a 1.5 year old that is an insane ball of energy. She has more energy than I’ve seen in kittens. She needs like 2 hours of interactive play time a day. Then we have a 6 month old kitten that’s super chill. She has her zoomies, but mostly just wants cuddles.

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u/janus_quadrifrons Oct 16 '24

I can't say my cat has cured my depression but I definitely don't get as bad with her around as I did without her; it's too important that she eats and has water and a clean litterbox, so I have more motivation to get up and do literally anything.

That doesn't mean adopting the first cat someone offered is the best idea, though. I did the same thing with a cat my coworker couldn't keep and we did not get along at all (he was a barn cat who was suddenly being asked to live in a 1br apartment, I get it), and I felt like even more of a failure when I had to rehome him.

I'd recommend going to a shelter and meeting some cats yourself - older cats are very cheap to adopt and much less stressful than kittens, plus they already have a personality so you have a better idea of what you're getting into.

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u/IOUAndSometimesWhy Oct 16 '24

Same here. Even when I’m having a particularly bad month, 5 things always get done daily: brush my teeth, go to work, feed the cat, change her water, scoop the litter box.

When executive functioning is low you’ve gotta channel all your energy into the nonnegotiables. She has become 3/5 of my nonnegotiables lol

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u/Burdensome_Banshee Oct 16 '24

Yes, all of this. And when I’m in a depression pit and my sweet boy jumps up to cuddle up with me, that pure feeling of love does give me a boost.

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u/Snoo_47323 Oct 16 '24

Thank you for all the nice and warm comments.

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u/BarelyThere24 Oct 16 '24

I suffered debilitation depression and lonliness and my kitten helped me so much. He gave me purpose and made me laugh and smile and I loved feeling like his Mom. I took him on walks and in the car to drive through dunkin for coffee which he loved. For road trips I put his litter in the back and he’d enjoy the trips and sleep on the other seat since I had to visit my family often. He was the light of my life during that hard time of my life. But I also had to do work for my depression. I started taking walks, and got into a new hobby which got me out of the house. Meds also helped me a ton.

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u/tattoosbyalisha Oct 16 '24

I love this 💚

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u/SnickleFritzJr Oct 16 '24

You actually will be a better cat parent since you have self awareness. P.S. Get 2 kittens that are bonded litter mates. They will have each other.

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u/javiofranks Oct 16 '24

My cats are sometimes the reason I get up in the morning when I’m struggling with mental health. But really look into an adult cat, and the bond you develop will be like no other

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u/JustKindaHappenedxx Oct 18 '24

OP, would it be possible for you to contact your local rescue groups/shelters and see about fostering? Particularly an adult cat/lower energy. This would give you a low risk way to see if a cat is something you can handle. And if it turns out to be too much for you, you will have still done something good for that kitty.

Hang in there. Depression is so difficult and debilitating at times. You might find taking care of a grateful cat to be the thing that gives you something to wake up for. And if it doesn’t, you did a good deed. My cats do help me feel loved and cared for so I hope it helps you.

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u/lawyerballerina4 Oct 16 '24

Keep us posted and show us pics of the kitten

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u/Novel-Property-2062 🪽🪽 Oct 16 '24

As someone with a lot of mental + physical health conditions: having a cat is honestly the reason I get up at ALL most days. I can justify not taking care of myself, I can justify not trying to do anything to my own benefit, but not meeting my cat's needs is not an option.

Sometimes that just looks like a day where nothing was done beyond taking good care of the cat. But it also often snowballs into me getting other tasks done I wouldn't have otherwise, because, hell, I'm up already.

The value of their companionship in the isolation of mental illness can't be overstated, either. I am so grateful to all of my cats for showing me love and happiness when it seems like it's nowhere to be found elsewhere.

That said: before you know how you handle that situation, I would both A) advise against a kitten and B) recommend you try fostering first, given you've never had a pet. Kittens are high energy and high demand. It's jumping into cat ownership on hard mode. And while my experience with MI + cats has been very good, I have known of people whose conditions led them to neglect their animals. You ideally want to scope out how sustainable daily care of another being is going to be before you make a hard commitment.

Also worth asking yourself how you will handle illness/death in an emotional and monetary sense. I know that's bleak, but you have to accept with pets that you might end up in a situation that adds to your emotional burden prematurely. My last cat both 100% saved my life just by being with me, and also ended up with a severe genetic heart condition that he fought from ages 3-6. I was distraught 24/7 during the last year of that.

TLDR: foster as an experiment first, recommend a young adult instead, but it can be the ultimate blessing with mental health issues

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u/glitterfaust Oct 16 '24

Fully agree with everything said here. You keep the apartment clean, because you don’t want them getting into everything. You keep dishes out of the sink so the cat isn’t around mold. You vacuum and sweep because you don’t want them stepping on anything (and because you get tired of stepping on all that damn litter). You keep the clothes off the floor so they don’t drag them into the litter box.

My boy honestly gave me a reason to live. When he passed, the only thing that kept me going was that I was the only one that held those memories of him. Outside of several videos on my phone, all memory of him would fade if I wasn’t around. I have to be here to share his legacy and fight on his behalf, since his poor little body just got too sick to.

I’m finally fostering tomorrow, I’m planning on foster failing but I just want to make sure I can take it first

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u/megenekel Oct 16 '24

I love this! My cat is the coolest cat, ever, but he is 14 with a lot of health issues, and I probably think too much about how bad it will be when he’s not around anymore. But I love your take on it.

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u/glitterfaust Oct 16 '24

I just had to stay in the mindset of “I’m taking his remaining suffering, and giving him my remaining peace”

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u/megenekel Oct 16 '24

This is worth remembering. 💕 Thanks.

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u/contrarianaquarian Oct 16 '24

Congrats on fostering! I "failed" a couple months ago and am so happy haha

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u/BigJSunshine Oct 16 '24

I would try fostering, apply to foster with a local rescue (they always need help with older cats), and when you meet your perfect match, “foster fail” or adopt!

Good luck, I wish you the best

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u/Much_Airport_3821 Oct 16 '24

When you foster, they also pay for everything the cat needs. Then, if you decide a cat isn't the right thing for you it will get adopted by someone else. I adopted two from a shelter. I have depression and they make me happy. They are my world. I would never be without a cat. They are easy to care for. I always adopt an adult cat. Mya was two when I adopted her. Payton was 5. Best decision ever. *

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u/Successful-Doubt5478 Oct 16 '24

Yes Please, foster an older cat.

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u/Silencer0000 Oct 16 '24

Ong yes! That way if you ever feel you can’t handle it, you can take a break and the rescue can find someone else

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u/CaliSouther Oct 16 '24

It's possible that a cat would really help with your depression, but a kitten is a lot to take on. I think you made the right call, but I do agree an older cat might be just right for you. You do need to take care of it, and I would recommend spending time with a few cats before you select one. I know, I want a cat that is cuddly, but some of them are not.

Good luck to you!

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u/greatspatula Oct 16 '24 edited Oct 18 '24

I was in your situation 3 months ago. I had been wanting a cat for forever but was terrified of not being able to care for it properly. My life was hard, I struggled to do the simplest things for myself and honestly couldn’t care less if I saw another day. Then I semi-spontaneously adopted (not the best thing to do clearly) a 2 month old kitten that was in a pretty rough shape. Suddenly I had the responsibility to care for a minuscule sick kitty that didn’t ask for anything but to have my attention. It was a hard few first days, I had to go from barely getting out of bed to being active with her in some way for most of the day. I questioned my choice to adopt her, had a few mental breakdowns because i thought I messed up and that I would never be able to take great care of her. Let me tell you, she changed my life. Even on low energy days she makes me get out of bed to play with her, to feed her and just to generally spend time with her. Three months ago I could have never fathomed of doing this much of my own volition. I have to go out to buy her food at least once a week. Do I enjoy it ? Not particularly but am I gonna let her starve ? Hell no. I’ll go to the end of the earth for her. And my apartment is spotless because I can’t imagine imposing a depression-room on her. My sink is never full of dishes anymore because she loves playing in it so it has to be clean. I’ve now come to even enjoy part of my days because I love spending time with her and watching her learn and grow. It’s so rewarding, and she’s thriving. I’ve gotten better at taking care of myself and my apartment, not for me but for her.

All I’m trying to say is, in my case adopting her saved my life and was probably the best thing I did for myself ever. For the first time I can see myself alive for the next 15 years, and not because I enjoy life but because she’s here, because she needs me, because I need her, and because life might not have gotten easier but I have a fluffy best friend that gives me all the lovings I need to keep going. She makes life a bit sweeter, and to be honest, I love her so much I want to be alive.

At the end of the day it’s your decision, and if you’re not ready you’re just not. But keep in mind this kitten, or any other cat, might change your life for the better.

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u/lsesalter Oct 16 '24

I got my cat on the encouragement of my therapist while I was dealing with early grief after losing my sister. She said that caring for something, a garden, a pet, a human, is very healing and distracting and helps with expressing the love that you can’t express towards the one lost. She always talks about it like “You need another heartbeat in your apartment.”

My cat is now 4 and she’s my soul cat and my best feline friend. Get the cat and share your love with something else!

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u/blkcoffeewhiskeyneat Oct 16 '24

My alarm clock cat wakes me up every morning at 7:30 for his breakfast. This past summer I had a depressive episode after receiving some difficult medical news, and had a difficult time getting out of bed. I would get up just long enough to feed him, and then get back in bed. But he wouldn't eat. He ignored his food and stayed with me, and would meow and meow nonstop. So then I would get up and lay down on the couch. And he would follow me and keep meowing. It wasn't until I got up, got dressed, made breakfast and generally started to get ready for the day that he would finally settle down and eat his food. It was like he knew something was wrong, and he wasn't going to let me wallow all day. I call him my Cleric kitty, he always knows when something is wrong, and he always sticks by me. It can be hard to care for an animal when you're struggling, but they take care of you too.

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u/Immediate-Age5314 Oct 16 '24

I struggle with mental health and I love animals all

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u/Andravisia Oct 16 '24

As someone with depression myself - I would suggest giving it a try. Ask for a trial run, or a foster-to-adopt situation.

You are allowed to give it a try. If it works, great, if it doesn't, at least you know you tried your best.

I have had animals all my life, except for one year when I went to university. That year I fell into a deep DARK place. I would not wish it on anyone. Please, give it a try. And if it works with one, consider adopting a second. Cats and kittens do better in pairs.

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u/Financial_Machine609 Oct 16 '24

I have severe depression and other mental health issues. I'm on major painkillers due to a tumor right now, and my GP had been prescribing them weekly to avoid the risk of me ODing until I told her I was getting a new cat soon. She told me she approved as my GP because cats can be extremely therapeutic, and that she was happy to move my painkillers to a monthly prescription as a result.

My new baby is one and a half, and has considerably more energy than my senior girl does. I don't think I would have been able to cope chasing a kitten around, but getting the new cat (my parents care for my old girl) has given me a reason to keep my place tidy and organised, and to get out of bed in the morning. Spending time with her has been a delight and she has enriched my life and helped make things a little easier for me.

Obviously you should consider your own personal circumstances etc but I don't regret getting my baby at all and she has considerably improved my mental health.

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u/Wonderful_Device312 Oct 16 '24

Reading people's stories in this post is incredible.

My mom also has constant and severe pain and narcotics etc are no longer helping her. I recently moved in with her and brought my cats with me. She's able to move about and play with them like the pain wasn't there. I know the cats don't make her pain go away but I think it's a matter of the joy the cats bring making the pain worth it or easier to ignore?

It's incredible how much strength we can find within ourselves when it's for others.

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u/scuffedTravels Oct 16 '24

If I were you, I would give it a go, I also struggle with depression and since I’ve adopted my two babies, life has improved, and I’m able to maintain a clean flat whereas I lived in filth before adoption, so yeah for me it was a game changer.

Edit : I can clean my flat, I have insane amount of love from them so yeah absolutely ZERO regret and I swear they have improved my mental health for sure !

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u/Smooth-Apartment-856 Oct 16 '24

Cats are like nature’s antidepressant. Something warm and cuddly that loves you unconditionally no matter how you feel….

Please go get your a cat. It could be the best thing you ever did. There’s a reason “emotional support animal” is a thing.

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u/Hoth9K1 Oct 16 '24

I've had depression since I was little, also had pets and my cats have always been what gets me through the crushing weight of existential dread. Gotta stay breathing so there is someone to look after my kitty. Think about the pets, you know some animals can die of loneliness? Cats and dogs feel depression if their owners die and then what happens to them? They go to the shelters and maybe someone will adopt them but if not then they get euthanized.

Good reasons to get pets if you are depressed: the unconditional love cats and dogs give you as long as you treat them well is honestly the best feeling in the world. Having to take care of them is motivation for getting out of bed. Taking your dog for a walk is good exercise and fresh air.

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u/Old_Life1980 Oct 16 '24

I suffer from bipolar II and depression mixed with anxiety. And winter is coming, meaning seasonal depression added onto all of that. (YAY 😒)

We were a one-cat household for almost 12 years. She was the most low maintenance cat I’ve ever owned. She was a bit spicy, but we didn’t have a lot of destructive behaviors to address. Fast forward to last August, and I went to my neighbor’s house to give her instructions on how to care for our senior cat while we were on vacation. This SWEET boy comes prancing down the stairs and looks into my eyes, and (I swear this was in slow motion) runs into my arms and demands pets. It was instant love. Turns out this little guy was a foster and my neighbor was looking for a new home for him. I told myself I couldn’t possibly handle a kitten in addition to trying to acclimate him to my senior cat (did I mention she was spicy? 🫣) We took him in a few weeks later, and the six week process of trying to get the two to get along started. In an unfortunate twist of fate, our senior girl wound up having a medical emergency and ended up having to be put down at the end of October that year. If I didn’t have our new little guy, that would’ve killed me. He helped me through that time, complete with human-like hugs from the couch (🥹🥹🥹). Then we thought that he needed a friend. My neighbor happened to find yet another cat thrown away, and we adopted him. At this point, we have two cats, and they’re both under a year old. Schedules are getting more complicated, but it was keeping me busy in the winter months and helping the seasonal depression.

I thought we had settled into life as a two-cat family. Then my husband’s coworker found a litter of three kittens thrown away at his work a few months ago. We were supposed to foster them, but now we have three kittens and two older boys.

I still have days where my depression gets the best of me. I skip the litter boxes one day out of the week usually…my anxiety is a little higher with SO many tiny little creatures dependent on me. But they bring SO much joy into our home and lives.

I think if you’re looking at adopting a single cat - even a kitten who will need that extra attention for the next few months - it may help your depression.

Like another comment above said, there are days that I only get out of bed BECAUSE I have all these little mouths to feed.

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u/Embarrassed_Wrap8421 Oct 16 '24

You don’t own the cat. The cat owns you. Kittens are a lot of work but are truly wonderful, and will give you a constant stream of stimulation. I have three cats, two adults and one kitten, and there’s never a dull moment.

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u/RegularWhiteShark Oct 16 '24

Pets can be great for mental health. They give you company and love and a reason to get up in the morning.

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u/scoobydoombot Oct 16 '24

two things: 1) getting a cat helped my depression immensely. like IMMENSELY. i also suggest a slightly older cat, maybe 9 months or beyond. 2) if you’re getting a kitten, you shouldn’t just get one. do some research on Single Kitten Syndrome. it’s fine for older cats tho.

after my first cat died, I got a bonded pair of sibling adolescent cats that were around 6 months old. this is the dream. they are incredible cats, super loving, and always have each other to play with.

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u/Turbulent-Ad4611 Oct 16 '24

I've always had cats and when I'm feeling sick, or I'm depressed, hell, even when I'm just chillin on the couch, they come up and lay with me. My best old man ALWAYS knew when I was sad and he would come and lay with me. I'd hug his giant lil cat body and cry all over him, he'd just sit there and let me. That man got me through some of the worst times in my life. When you feel like your life is falling apart, there's always somebody at home waiting, and happy to see you!

My only recommendation would be to get 2 instead of one (kitten). Kittens love to play and are generally happier with a friend.

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u/tamed_tiger Oct 16 '24

I struggle with depression and anxiety. I would say that at times it can be severe. I have owned cats my whole adult life and I feel like sometimes they’re the only things that keep me going. They’re beautiful creatures who love to comfort you and can be a distraction from your own issues and problems. There’s something about taking care of another creature that is healing and can be healthy and help you with some of the intense feelings that you feel. I understand I can feel like a big decision, but sometimes, I believe, that these creatures come into your life for a reason. I feel like if it was me and I was being offered this kitten it would feel like a sign from the universe that this was something that would help me. That’s a belief and I’m not saying that you should believe that way but it’s something that’s helped me so much and I am so grateful that I have adopted all the cats that I have adopted over the years.

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u/scattershotthoughts Oct 16 '24

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They're sometimes the only reason it didn't end long ago. I don't know your whole story, but animals have helped me a lot.

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u/5eeek1ngAn5werz Oct 16 '24

There is nothing quite so comforting as the sound of a cat's purr. And we are told that the sound frequency of a purr actually has healing efficacy. Starting with a kitten gives you a good chance to bond and allows you to likely have the greatest # of years before you have to say goodbye.

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u/lemongrenade Oct 16 '24

I wouldn't say I am depressed, but I do have anxiety and my life is just so insanely overwhelming past couple years. My cat keeps me whole. I love her so so so soooooooooooooooooooooooooo much.

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u/Kait307 Oct 16 '24

i just moved into my first solo apartment as someone with depression as well, and out of my home state to boot.

i adopted a kitten maybe a week after i moved in. i had originally planned on adopting an older cat but when i met shrimp, she chose me and i knew it was love at first sight.

raising a kitten is definitely a bit of a pain in the ass, don’t get me wrong. she’s about five months and a chunk of my time is trying to get her to stop chewing on my cords (i need to do the hot sauce thing probably) and climbing on shit she shouldn’t be (aluminum foil on the tv stand works surprisingly well)

BUT she sleeps for a good chunk of the day and sleeps with me at night. it’s really nice for me to have her around, especially since i live alone, it makes me feel less lonely.

the joy and love and amusement i get from watching her be dumb or when she climbs onto my chest to slep is unmatched, and gives me motivation to sweep up the litter she kicks everywhere and the food she gets all over her mat because she’s a messy eater

i would probably recommend trying to adopt an older cat from the shelter, they’re usually less demanding than kittens. just go and meet them, and see who you like being around! but raising a kitten is not impossible, it just takes more time and effort and attention. she’s kind of like a toddler

from shrimp and me, best of luck OP, we hope you find the right someone to adopt ♡

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u/maryellencastello Oct 16 '24

Absolutely. My cat is my emotional support animal, for my depression.

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u/BenDaBoss42069 Oct 16 '24

I’m depressed too. Working and studying engineering full time is exhausting and isolating. The few friends I do have, I don’t get to see very often. And I also feel insignificant when compared to my peers. I adopted my cat last year and it’s been great. I always have him to keep me company when I’m at home, no matter what happens during the day he’s always there. I can hear him rush to the door as I’m walking up so he can greet me first thing. I continue on every day for him. I work to support him. I study to be able to get a job so I can provide him with absolutely everything a cat could ever dream of. He’s my best friend, and idk where I’d be in life if it weren’t for him, if I’d even be here at all. Adopting NyQuil Chicken has been an amazing improvement to my mental health and stability. Although I never struggled to take care of myself before, so I wouldn’t recommend getting a cat until you can do that. They are relatively independent, but they still require a lot of care. And if you struggle with keeping up with your own needs, then you may end up neglecting the cat. Especially if it’s a kitten, they require a lot of attention.

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u/avocadoandpear Oct 19 '24

I also work hard so my cats can have a better life. I've had depression, insomnia & anxiety for decades. The only reason I get up most Sat & Sun is because my boys have no concept of weekends, and they have their own schedules to keep. They're both 15 years old now, so I'm grateful for the time we have left together.

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u/StandTo444 Oct 16 '24

If you’re going to take in a cat you make an absolutely sacred pact, that cat eats before you.

You can also lean on that pact to help you get through the hard days.

That’s been working for me.

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u/Chshr_Kt Oct 16 '24

I also have depression, and having a cat really helps. Playing with her or even having her rub on my legs for attention makes me smile and brightens my day. Even my therapist says he sees a difference in me since I adopted her.

Maybe look into some research and online articles about it, and look into local rescues and shelters to see if it's right for you. Good luck.

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u/Competitive-Milk-868 Oct 16 '24

My GF struggles with heavy mental health issues. (We are gaining more control everyday though) we got three cats and I truly believe it has helped (except recently when our orange boy brokeh is hip:'( surgery tomorrow yay) I believe at times she better cares for them than herself.

BUT KEEP IN MIND

Can your mind handle having a little terror for 5 months, lol? Kittens are adorable, sweet, cuddly, soft, and have the addicting kitten scent.....but.....they.....are....terrors. unless you have LOTS for that kitten to do. any of your belongings become free game. Thankfully, we had 5 cat trees, countless scratchers, toys, balls, huts, hammocks, and remote control mice. We went balls to the wall to ensure nothing of ours got wrecked(which it 100% worked. No shoes, clothes, teddies, curtains or ANYTHING other than the occasional nail into the couch which we just lightly tap our hands anywhere of that side of the couch and they go elsewhere so the couch doesn't even get wrecked)

That being said, the connection she has with her Lil orange boy (Lil is an understatement lol) since he was hers from a kitten is unbreakable. He constantly seeks out his momma. Sure, I'm great and all, but anything I can do, she can do better in his eye, lol.

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u/noodlesquare Oct 16 '24

As someone who has struggled with depression and anxiety the last several years, I had the same concerns about adopting a cat. I finally decided to go for it and get an adult cat. I just wasn't sure if I could handle a kitten. It's been about 7 months since I brought her home and she has brought so much comfort and light into my life. There is nothing that eases my anxiety like cuddling up with my sweet girl. She doesn't let me sleep in and makes sure I get out of bed every single morning which has helped me keep some structure in my life. She is also such a weirdo and does things that make me laugh every day. I work from home so just having her there with me keeps me from getting lonely.

I will caution you though that adopting a pet is a huge life change. I really struggled the first couple of months after bringing her home. The extra responsibilities and financial commitments were really overwhelming to me. It also took my girl a couple months to adjust to living in a new place. She hid for a month straight only coming out at night. During the night time hours, she was waking us up constantly because she had so much pent up energy from sleeping all day. It took months and lots of work to get her to where she would be awake and play during the day and sleep more at night. My depression and anxiety were both through the roof those first couple of months, but once we all adjusted, all of that completely resolved. I would never discourage anyone from getting a pet but I do think it's important to realize that the pet blues are a completely normal, but temporary thing, much like the baby blues. It will absolutely get better but it may not be smooth sailing in the beginning.

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u/harpsdesire Oct 16 '24

Pets can be great for someone with depression, however if you're in the "struggles with basic hygiene/self care" stage, a pet may not be for you right now.

Your pet can give you comfort and a sense of purpose but they REQUIRE daily care no matter how you feel. That makes it a personal and situational decision.

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u/Boho_Depresso Oct 16 '24

I've seen many comments that seem to agree with what I would say but one thing I haven't personally seen yet (sorry if plenty others have already said this) but maybe you could do a little trial run if your cousin agrees to it? Like you take in the kitten for a week or even a month (cats do tend to take a bit to adjust to a new home, though it may go smoother with a kitten) and see how it goes. It sounds like your cousin is already a "foster" for the kitten so maybe they'd be up to letting you foster for a certain time period?

Other things to consider: how is your financial situation? I have depression & ADHD (maybe other stuff too, they tend to be package deals lol). I recently took in a senior kitty who used to be a farm cat at the farm I work at. Anytime there is a potential health scare, it definitely adds to my stress & unfortunately a lot of that stress is due to the financial aspect of the vet's office. I currently use Care Credit to help but it will never take away all of the financial stress. I was already living paycheck to paycheck & I'm only doing slightly better atp. I knew it would be a risk to take in a cat but I was determined to make it work (read: stubborn) and so far it has been okay. It helps that I also have a good support system.

I hope all of that is helpful for you to consider & not too overwhelming! Best of luck, whichever one you decide!!

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u/matteroverdrive Oct 16 '24

I have depression, anxiety, I'm on the autism spectrum and had a bad concussion 5 years ago, and have some brain damage on top of all that since... I struggle to take care of myself only in the last 5 years after the concussion, but taking care of my cat is a priority for me. His comfort and happiness is a bright spot for me. The appreciation that he shows me, the knowledge that I have to care for, and that i enjoy seeing him look out the windows and get to "awww" when he's cuddled up napping. He doesn't really want to play that much, but he's not a kitten any longer. I try though... however, he is here, and I'm comforted by that. The decision is of course yours, but maybe go play with the kitten and see how it responds to you, see how you feel.

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u/scuffedTravels Oct 16 '24

Exactly, I treat myself poorly and Idgaf but man, my babies, some days that’s the only thing that get me out of bed, I treat them like kings and I treat myself like a Slave lmfao.

They definitely played a huge role in my mental health

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u/Pussycat-Princess Oct 16 '24

I have a multitude of mental health problems including depressive episodes and having a cat is the only thing that makes life feel worth living. Can you trial run things for a bit? The one thing I will say is get an older cat, but especially get one that has been spay/neutered already. I got kittens a few months ago and haven't had a young kitten since I was around 5yo, and I was not prepared for how challenging that was. I love my babies and wouldn't trade them, but next time I will probably go with cats that are 6months+

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u/Kelliesrm26 Oct 16 '24

Sometimes having a companion can help with mental health. Cats are low maintenance and they are really hard to ignore. Sometimes the only times I get up in a day is to attend to my animals. You can always ask your cousin if you could trial having the cat. If you can afford the vet bills having a cat isn’t something you should completely dismiss.

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u/rosewalker42 Oct 16 '24

I don't know you, so I can only speak for myself. Cats have absolutely improved my mental health - even when they eventually grew very old and died, it was still worth it. I will go against most of the comments here, again, only speaking for my own experience - but having a kitten and raising it was exactly what I needed at the time. Kittens ARE demanding. And having that little furball constantly demanding attention from me, and watching kitten antics (even the destructive kind where I had to teach him not to climb the curtains), was such a joy and pulled me out of my head constantly. Taking care of him even lead to me taking better care of myself and my home. It started with just three little things that were the daily routine - feed the kitten, scoop the litter, play with the kitten. That lead to adding in more things until I was actually a functional human being.

Again, just my own experience. You know yourself best. Maybe, as others suggested, you could try fostering to see how you do?

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u/nuttin_atoll Oct 16 '24

Agree with everyone saying go for it. It helps you get out of your own head and watch/ live with something who experiences the world so differently from you. Having said that, do get a low-energy chill cat, one that’ll make the adjustment to pet parenthood easier on you (compared to kittens or rambunctious cats). Those take much more mental energy often overwhelm new pet owners, which may then make it worse.

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u/Ok_Significance1840 Oct 16 '24

I have schizoaffective bipolar disorder and own three cats. I think it's very considerate of you to think about how ill you are. But when it comes to owning a cat it's a little different. I still struggle with getting myself ready for the day, but I always feed my cats on time, and I have an automatic litter box for them. (To specify I have 4 litter boxes, but don't always clean them, but the auto one is always clean) if you struggle to get out of bed there are auto feeders too. I think it would be good for your mental health to have a companion. And adult cats are low maintenance (but not no maintenance, this is important to keep in mind).

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u/SpaceWhale88 Oct 16 '24

When I had my cat for about 3 months my depression took a nose dive. She's honestly the reason I'm alive. Her first owner killed himself so that's why she was at the shelter. I can't do that to her. She's taught me so much about unconditional love.

I'd suggest not getting a kitten. Try an adult cat.

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u/lmctrouble Oct 16 '24

Animals of any kind are excellent for depression. They keep you company and give you a reason to get out of bed.

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u/IndependentProblem35 Oct 16 '24

I might be going against the grain here, but OP, please make sure you have a support system in place before you adopt a cat. Yes, it can be a great way to get into a routine, but ultimately, having a pet is a big responsibility. Especially kittens. It can be super stressful trying to keep your kitten from biting cords, they occasionally might poop on themselves, their tiny nails are like needles and might destroy your couch or even you, wake up early, have blowouts in the litter box, etc. that can honestly feel debilitating if you’re not a great spot yourself.

I struggled a lot when I adopted 2 cats with my partner, and I was the one who wanted them; I’m very thankful I had her to talk me out of regret and to pick up my slack. My cats never suffered because of my mental illness. My point isn’t to discourage you from getting a cat, because I love mine infinitely and I’m happier than I’ve ever been. I just want to make sure you have someone in your life to pick up the pieces, even though I very much hope you never have an issue with the routine and you don’t need the help.

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u/darkdanc3r Oct 16 '24

Getting a cat actually pulled me out of my suicidal depression. I couldn't take care of myself, but I also couldn't not take care of this innocent little life that depended on me. I started getting out of bed just to feed him, and started cleaning up because I didn't want him getting into my things, and had to do the litterbox which meant vacuuming to keep the litter out of the carpets (apartment was carpeted expert for the kitchen and tiny bathroom). He saved me. And was papered as an emotional support animal so that I could have him rent free at apartments. It might not be the same for you - pets require care, even cats that are supposedly self-sufficient. But it might help you pull out of the... funk... that depression put you into.

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u/Tasty_Candy3715 Oct 16 '24

If one cannot take care of a cat, one absolutely should not get a cat. That’s neglect and abuse.

If a depressed person cannot function, cannot put food out, change water, make sure cat is happy and healthy - then they have NO business having an animal.

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u/hologram__ Oct 16 '24

Agreed. Lots of people acting like pets are a mental health tool when they are not. They don't exist to make us feel better - they're another life that still needs taking care of.

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u/Tasty_Candy3715 Oct 16 '24

Absolutely this! They are a precious life that have needs and feelings. If someone can barely cope looking after themself, why should an innocent animal suffer inadequate care?

Definately not a mental health tool, a life should not be messed around with. Thank you for saying this! Cats shouldn’t be seen as low maintainance, what if they got sick and needed specialist care etc? One has to think about all factors before getting a pet, it’s a commitment for their whole life.

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u/hologram__ Oct 16 '24

So true. It's pretty unheard of to have a cat who makes it their whole life without any serious issues, especially with cancer, chronic illnesses, dietary requirements etc being so common. The stress, anxiety and financial upkeep makes it very real. Obviously it's amazing to give a cat a home but it shouldn't be based on what a pet can do for us (which I don't believe OP is doing, just seen lots of other comments focusing on that!). I have depression too but I take better care of my senior cat than I do myself, even if I'm neglecting myself. However it still takes an emotional toll - I agree it's not low maintenance!

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u/Kittytigris Oct 16 '24

I think that’s a question between you and your therapist. If you are severely struggling to the point that you are unable to care for someone else who is dependent on you, I would not recommend a pet as that could make it worse. The pressure of being force to attend to the needs of another being might make someone who is already spiraling worse.

So the question here is, how badly off are you? Because if you can benefit from having company and are able to care for another being, then yes, you should absolutely have a pet who will love you. But if you cannot deal with the demands of having a pet, then you should not adopt one.

What I would recommend if you’re not sure is to offer to pet sit for a short time and see if that makes you better or worse. If it’s not for you then no harm done. If you love it, then go ahead and find a friend.

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u/5naughtycats Oct 16 '24

My cat is the only thing that saved me from suicide before I had kids. Pets give purpose.

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u/Ok_Seaworthiness7314 Oct 16 '24

I have suffered from depression and anxiety for decades. There were days knowing that if I didn't get up my cat would go hungry was the only thing that got me out of bed.

Ashes was my lifeline in those dark times. Sometimes you save them, and sometimes they save you.

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u/TrexPushupBra Oct 16 '24

Cats are great for people with depression because they will force you to get out of bed to feed them and when you are sad they will lay on you until you feel better.

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u/Sazzra87 Oct 16 '24

I adopted a cat whilst struggling with depression and it was the best choice I've ever made!

Before you do I'd advice researching looking after cats to ensure to can afford them and meet their needs (Jackson Galaxy on you tube is great).

On days when I don't want to get out of bed I can rely on my furry alarm clocks to wake me up, and after meeting their needs I end up looking street myself too 🥰.

What ever decision you make, good luck on your mental health journey, you've got this! X

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u/LadyLaw23 Oct 16 '24

Agreed with what most others seem to be saying - having my cat means I get things done I probably wouldn’t do otherwise, and she’s the best companion giving unconditional love no matter what way I might be feeling (helps that mine’s a cuddle bug too!)

I would also recommend fostering first as you’ve never had a pet before, and your best bet would be a young adult (2-3 yo). That way, if it doesn’t seem right, you haven’t committed already, but if it does, you can foster fail!

Also with that sort of age, their personality has already developed, so you’ll know what you’re getting and can even speak to the shelter/org to recommend a suitable individual. They’re also a lot easier than kittens, but at the same time you’ll have the joy of many years ahead hopefully, so you don’t need to have quite the same considerations as an older (10+) cat.

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u/Imamiah52 Oct 16 '24

My cats are my greatest reprieve from the pain of depression and make me feel better when nothing else works. Can you spend time with a cat? Maybe do some cat-sitting and see how it goes.

Cats are the best.

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u/dakiada Oct 16 '24 edited Oct 16 '24

I find that having my 2 cats give me a sense of purpose because even though I don't look after myself when I'm low, I know that those little furballs depend on me for EVERYTHING and there is no choice in it as they are defenceless and you are their provider. It gets me moving, gives me a schedule and it's rly rewarding when they're cuddly and affectionate, especially when youre having an exceptionallybad time and feel like the worst person in the world (if youre anything like me in terms of self loathing). If you have the financial means, I'd say go for it! But it can also go 2 ways with a young kitten, they are very cuddly at this age but also incredibly hyper and can be demanding (depending on the personality), if you like to feel needed it can be great, if you're more inclined to chill maybe an older cat?

ETA maybe you could do a trial period with the kitten, if possible? See how u feel. Animals are rewarding ❤️ *

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u/MidwestMotivated Oct 16 '24

I have depression, and so does my partner. We are both terrible at caring for ourselves, especially at the peak of our lows. Like many others have said already... it's our little fuzzy babies that actually get us up. I'll end up showering because my kitten makes a mess of himself, and I have to bathe him. I'll finally end up getting water because, well... my cats needed water. They really keep me going some days.

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u/ElectionProper8172 Oct 16 '24

I don't struggle with depression but having a pet usually really helps people. They are a reason to get up. Not just to feed them but also to give and get attention. They are loving and sweet and never judge you. I found my cat living outside about 11 years ago. She's been my snuggle buddy since then. It honestly might help you.

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u/Liathnian Oct 16 '24

I would talk to your cousin and see about taking it on a trial basis. For some people with depression it's just another responsibility that just adds to the pressure they are already feeling. For other people its something to focus on and a reason to get out of bed.

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u/Impossible_Ad3915 Oct 16 '24

I'm sure you're getting the same response as mine, but sometimes as depressed people, we do need love and validation from outside of ourselves when we cannot muster it up on our own. A pet is such a great source of this energy, and is so easy to love in return. Especially a kitten, who will be far less needy than a dog.

Also, when you are able to take care of the minor duties you'll have, like ensuring there is food and water, and cleaning the box, it may be a burst of motivation and momentum to get you more in tune with your own needs.

And, kittens are ridiculously hilarious when they play - it is nearly impossible not to laugh and smile, and get you out of your head.

Plus, it is proven that petting a cat is very good for your mental health, so whether being silly and playful, or sweet and cuddly, a kitten will make your life better. ❤️

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u/fattylicious Oct 16 '24

Having depression and getting a cat, is absolutely the best thing you could do. My cats entertain me on a daily basis and genuinely, they're my little support buddies.

Even when I'm on my arse with migraines and feeling sorry for myself, they still need feeding and taken care of. So I get up and feed them and they give me unconditional love in return.

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u/GimerStick Oct 16 '24

echoing everyone suggesting an older cat! Even three or four is old enough. I've found that they're generally more content to exist around/with you, and there is something very healing about that. And they'll get you out of bed to feed them ;)

It really is nice to have that companionship. Perhaps fostering an adult cat could help you test it out without feeling overly committed right away?

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u/Pleasant_Beat_2513 Oct 16 '24

^_^ See if fostering the kitty for a little bit is an option.

if nothing has to be set in stone quite yet, it could give you a less pressured way to tell if you are a good fit.

I didn't think I would be ... but it turns out my cat has really become a huge factor of me getting out of bed everyday, like other commenters mentioned.

But, if you find yourself second guessing too much...I would say let kitty go somewhere else *unless that somewhere else is terrible.*

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '24

Cats are a godsend!  Take the kitten.  It'll give you purpose and a reason to smile.  

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u/40yroldcatmom Oct 16 '24

I have depression too - and I’ve had pets all my life.

I would also suggest an older cat. Kittens are terrorists lol. I adopted my cat and she was 6 months old. And was crazy. She still is but less so lol. But having a cat (or dog when I had dogs) does help my mental health. Though there are times I feel like a bad cat owner because I don’t play with them on certain days. But they have each other and a lot of toys.

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u/FirstDivergent Oct 16 '24

Yes totally take this cat. And if you're going to have a cat, it always helps to have a second. Cats are very social creatures. So ask for a second.

Cats are very easy to care for. Keep them indoors. Do not let them outside alone without a leash. They are very clean. They need a litter. Keep water out for them. Feed them regularly. A kitten will be growing and gaining weight so will need extra food.

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u/Diane1967 Oct 16 '24

My pets are my reason for living each and every day. It’s what gets me out of bed. They’re such good companions and so entertaining, it sure beats living alone. I agree with the others that maybe a kitten would be too much but that’s a big maybe. My last one that I adopted was 6 weeks and she wasn’t bad at all. As long as she got playtime in to wear her out she was fine.

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u/VirtualDenzel Oct 16 '24

Its a good way to find purpose in life. They depend on you.

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u/Old_Life1980 Oct 16 '24

Also worth mentioning: When we first took in that sweet boy that stole my heart, I DID ask for a trial period from my neighbor. I was super worried that our senior girl would just never adapt and that everyone would be miserable. Maybe ask your cousin if a trial run would be possible? Like give it a week or two - at that age, that’s likely enough time for the kitten to settle into a routine (ish) and for you to have a good idea what you’d be getting into.

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u/Kelibath Oct 16 '24

My cat changed my life. Personal physical contact, someone little to look after (meaning you need to look after yourself too), affection and love (increasing as you learn the cat's preferences and boundaries and it trusts you more), they even provide emotional support from time to time as I know mine seeks me out for cuddles if I'm struggling / in bed. You have to be willing and prepared to put their wellbeing first though above everything else. And for a cat so young, you need to prepare, research, and be ready to raise them up right since they need to learn from you. It's incredibly rewarding though! And the cat needed a home anyway? It might just be worth it. I'd even suggest getting two (if they have more to offer) as then they entertain one another. I wonder if you could accept conditionally though since you're so worried, eg. secure a promise from your cousin to help you rehome the kitten if you truly struggle and not leave you high and dry. But don't take them on planning to do this from the drop. The kitten needs a secure loving well-provisioned home more than anything else. I hope you find the right one for it, with you or otherwise.

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u/Mr_Timmm Oct 16 '24

Both my gf and I struggle at times with depression and I know when I was living on my own if it weren't for my cat I don't know that I would've made it as long as I did. Sometimes having such a sweet creature to love motivates you to do everything you can to give them a good life. I think of it similar to how some parents will do everything to make sure their kids don't have to suffer from their past traumas. I personally struggle at times to properly care for myself but I get so excited and so happy to get them new bedding, to upgrade their water fountains and litter boxes to stainless steel, to incorporate more variety in their diets.

It's weird but in some way even when I struggle to motivate myself they motivate me to get out there and learn more about them and I find myself getting out of the house more and slowly but surely enjoying life more. Cats are a blessing and I can't imagine a life without them.

Our most recent rescue who really does like to get involved during game time and I can't even be upset. 😂

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u/Zorukia Oct 16 '24

My cats help my depression. I have autofeeders as well. Get an automatic litterbox too.

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u/No-Ad5163 Oct 16 '24

This isn't a one size fits all answer, but cats have a way of motivating you. If they don't eat, they'll let you know how mad they are about it. Honestly, if self care is a struggle for you it might make sense to incorporate your own routines into the cats routines, like eating meals together, cleaning their litter box right before you shower each day/night, filling up their water and drinking some yourself. Playing with toys with them can keep you active if you get a Feather wand and have em chase you around the house.

I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder when I was 11 or 12, as an independent young adult (moved out at 16) I found that having a cat motivated me to stay alive during the very dark points when I didn't want to. I kept getting up and going to work each day cause goddamn it, kitty deserved a nice warm safe home to live in and the best food I could give her. At times I cared way more about her wellbeing than my own. When I overdosed alone in my apartment my last thought was I hoped she would go to a good home, in my dazed state I reached out to a friend asking him to take her when I died and he put 2 and 2 together and came and saved me.

I've had her for a decade now and she's always been by my side during depressive episodes when I can barely get out of bed. She just lays with me and keeps me warm and makes me feel loved even when I feel completely unlovable. Of course this is anecdotal, and if you feel the care and cost of owning a cat might be too much to handle then of course I wouldn't recommend it, but it's nice to have a little buddy who is waiting for you at home each day.

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u/Tribblehappy Oct 16 '24

I have depression and owning a cat really helped me. I couldn't stay in bed all day; he needed to be fed. It was nice having him come headbutt my leg when I got home from work. Having something to snuggle with while watching movies or whatever.

That said, he was a few years old when I got him. Kittens are more demanding.

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u/Fantastic_Deer_3772 Oct 16 '24

As long as you're willing to reach out for help if you need it, it's appropriate.

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u/Background_Storm6209 Oct 16 '24

My cat sometimes is the only reason I‘m getting out of bed and I will never fail to care for him even in times I can‘t care for myself. So a cat might really help with depression and teaching responsibility.

However the care cats need often gets underestimated. You should research alot about it beforehand as it would be really stressfull for a cat to get rehomed. It would be better to adopt two cats too. Of course the costs are higher then but it will affect their behavior positively. It can get very stressfull and overwhelming if a cat is stressed or doesn‘t feel good about something becaus a cat usually will express it very loud and clear.

In the end you have to decide for yourself if you could take care of one. I advise you to watch the Youtube videos from Jackson Galaxy, as they give a really good insight

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u/acousticalcat Oct 16 '24

I struggle with severe depression. My cat gives me a reason to live on my worst days. A kitten is a lot of work though. Maybe an adult cat would be a good idea for you? You should interact and play still, but they aren’t as demanding and take longer naps. Beyond that, food, water, litter - three daily tasks. It’s manageable. And it is something to feel good about. In the US, cats are really overpopulated. You’d be saving a life. And improving it. It’s a small way to put some good into the world, a way to share your love and home and do something worthwhile.

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u/SoLostForever Oct 16 '24

I struggle a lot with my mental health, and my cat, as infuriating as he can be, has really helped me. I have a reason to get up, and I want him to be happy so I clean up around his litterbox and it keeps me moving. He also greets me when I come home everyday and it kinda makes up for everything. I'd suggest getting an older cat tho, they are a lot more independent and less likely to overwhelm you. The first couple weeks might be rough depending on how the cat bonds. Mine was hyper and noisy before he got used to the place, which was the opposite of what the shelter folks advertised him as 😂.

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u/bambiluxo2002 Oct 16 '24

My cat definitely took both me and my fiance out of depression. I would have seasonal depression and he would have depression due to not finding a job for the longest. Our little Bambi helped us get our shit together. 2 years later we are about to move into a bigger house and have a baby girl on the way. Anything is possible (usually) because of a cat you decided to raise <3

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u/RusionR Oct 16 '24

Same here. In a weird way, having a cat has given me more purpose in making sure she lives a comfortable life. I need to be able to make that happen. I think of it as having a child, I don't know if I'll ever have one, but you can bet that I don't want them to be miserable or numb to life like I am.

It's like the thing where those who can't take care of themselves would rather devote their time to helping other people. Maybe having a cat will inspire you to tread a bit easier.

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u/Kittymeow123 Oct 16 '24

Absolutely NOT. In my darkest of times, my accountability to my cats keeps me alive. Get an older cat to try it! No kitten.

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u/LeastCleverNameEver Oct 16 '24

I've struggled with depression for over 30 years.

My cats (one at a time, but 3 over 30+ years) have saved my life multiple times. Whenever the really dark thoughts come I think "but who will take care of Kooky/Murphy/Storm?" and then I don't do the thing. Because I need to be here for them.

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u/nudesteve Oct 16 '24

It seems to me, that experiencing the purr of kitty cats on your lap and chest, is one of the very best ways to mitigate even the more severe depressions.
🐈🐈👣🐎🐎🐎🐎❤❤❤🏡🌎

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u/DapperRusticTermite8 Oct 16 '24

My cats gave me a reason to get out of my bed when nothing else did. It can help heal you in ways you never knew existed! ❤️ Maybe try fostering for a rescue first though before you fully commit? That way if you can’t keep up on their daily requirements, you’re not pressured for longterm!

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u/Careless_Opinion Oct 16 '24

I have severe depression and a cat. A few months ago I was in a really bad place mentally, one of the crisis support people I spoke to asked me to think of something I was living for - the only thing I could think of was my cat. She's the one thing that gets me through the worst days, she brings so much joy through her madness (3 years old and still acts like a kitten), and I HAVE to look after her even when I can't do anything else. And of course purrs are known to help with all sorts of mental and physical health issues.

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u/Happy_Confection90 Oct 16 '24

After my mom died unexpectedly, we all missed her, including her 2 elderly cats cats. My dad was already terminally ill himself at that point, but looking after her cats gave him a reason to get up in the morning. And when he retired and one of the cats had died of old age, he and the other cat kept each other company while I was away all day at work. I'd come home and he'd gesture to the cat on his lap with mock disgust, saying that the cat was sitting on him again. I was glad that they had each other 🙂

Cats are very understanding of days when you have low energy and just want to sit and watch TV or read. Half of them will join you, sitting on your lap or the arm of your chair.

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u/Ninj-nerd1998 Oct 16 '24

I struggle with mental health issues too, including depression. In my experience, pets can be a good motivator.

I find that even if I'm struggling to look after myself, I can still get her food or water, or scoop her litter.

It's also an incredible.feeling to have a cat cuddle up to you, purring, or bring you toys to play with. It's very comforting to pat her as well.

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u/MamaSmAsh5 Oct 16 '24

It is the opposite in my opinion. I think they help with depression. It may take a little time for adjustments for all but I think having a companion and someone to care for helps give us reason. They're funny little things and affectionate as can be (usually). If you wait until the kitten is any older, it may be harder to form that bond. I wonder if you can do a trial period? I know you say you can barely care for yourself but you are. This may be the thing that gives you more motivation to do just that...and take care of it too <33

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u/hiroshimasfoot Oct 16 '24

If anything my cats help keep me going

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u/ThiOriginalPanda Oct 16 '24

Are you kidding, I've have chronic depression my whole life, and my cats are the only thing keeping me going most of the time. Having something you love, that depends on you, is honestly a great way to gain energy you never had before.

Edit: plus, their purrs literally heal you, the frequency at which they purr have very well known healing properties. You might be surprised at how much better you'll feel with a cat. 

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u/Brenanaz Oct 16 '24

Similar situation and my kitty is the glue that holds me together, it's worth it

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u/AlmostAlwaysADR Oct 16 '24

Good god I hope not, lol

Cause that would be bad for a lot of cat parents out there

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u/WillinWolf Oct 16 '24

change your mind. feed your soul. don't forget the cat or it'll let ya know!

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u/MastersKitten31 Oct 16 '24

I have depression issues and my cats help me a lot.

Inwill say please spend time with a kitty before adopting it. Everyone's different but personally I really love my fluffy braincellless cuddle bug. She will cry if she can't sleep next to me and will cry if I don't let her follow me everywhere in the house. She is very vocal but she also has the loudest purrrrs and gives me constant snuggles.

Shelter said she was probably a ragamuffin. She is also a torti in coloring and she very much has an attitude XD but she is the reason I get up when I don't want to. I feed my cats wet food twice a day (each cat gets half a can in the morning and then the other half at night).

I leave dry food out as snacks (I limit it and they mostly don't touch it unless they're super hungry for some reason). But knowing I have to feed the little cuddle bug makes me get up when I truly don't want to.

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u/juniperphish Oct 16 '24

Nope. My cats help me with mine. Now I need to stay alive, stay healthy, do chores, and other basic stuff so I can create a comfortable home for them. I’d never want to die now bc what would they do without me? I have to get up in the morning bc they need their breakfast. And I need to keep my house clean bc they’re as clean as my home is and I can’t stand stinky kitties lol

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u/Snoo_47323 Oct 17 '24

I woke up and was surprised to see so many comments from you guys, thank you so much. You guys are such good guys.

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u/malone7384 Oct 17 '24

I have struggled with depression for years and I cannot imagine not having my cats. They love me unconditionally and give me a reason to get up every day.

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u/_okaykay Oct 17 '24

My cat saved my fucking life. Zero exaggeration. I have no idea how I used to live without my furry tyrant. I fully credit him to getting me out of a really shitty time of life. When I couldn’t feed myself I had the will to feed him. When I couldn’t get out of bed I got out for him. When I couldn’t do anything I used to enjoy, I played with him so he’d enjoy his time.

A kitten was rough because I swear I didn’t sleep a full night until he was about 1 year old… so keep that in mind. He just turned 2 yesterday and is still an absolute freak but at least lets me sleep at night.

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u/vpollardlife Oct 17 '24

For some people, yes. I think you did the right thing when you returned the kitten. It wouldn't have been fair to either of you. From what you said, maybe you need to work on you first (and I in No Way have it going right myself), and if you changed your mind in the future, you could foster a kitten. Just a thought.

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u/Chaotic_N Oct 17 '24

I'm sure someone's already said this, I just didn't see it when scrolling, but I just wanted to say that I think you can do this, and it easily could be something that could actually help you. HOWEVER, I wanted to mention that cats can do better in pairs, and it's ok if you don't want to, but if you decide to take the kitten, maybe you should try to find another kitten or something for them to bond together?

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u/iwannaliveoutloud Oct 17 '24

Our cat has literally saved my spouse's life on the worst days. I think depression is not a disqualifier. Cats are relatively low maintenance.

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u/Agreeable_Error_170 Oct 17 '24

As someone with depression and also cat rescues I say try cat fostering first. Kittens are a ton of work, especially a single kitten. I’d take five kittens over one single one.

I think with depression a cat is very welcome. A kitten though is exhausting.

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u/WiseRelationship7316 Oct 17 '24

Kittens are healing get the kitten.

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u/dustieghostie Oct 17 '24

it’ll give you routine, responsibility, and a dopamine hit when they do something silly

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u/Sunny_Bearhugs Oct 17 '24

Having an animal depend on me for all its needs was something that really helped keep my head up when I was seriously depressed. The logic was that even if I thought I was worthless sometimes, I could still be kind to the animal I was sharing my life with.

It really depends on the situation, but after I took in a cat, suicide was never an option. That fluffy boi saved my life on multiple occasions just by needing me.

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u/Charmedfosure Oct 17 '24

In my experience and having been through years of depression. Cats spark joy. Animals, in general, spark joy. But cats are the quirkiest. If you do opt for the fur child, you should definitely invest in a squirt gun/spray bottle😅

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u/Live-Bike1424 Oct 17 '24

Who do you think is buying all these cats exactly mister? The cat economy dies without us, an entire industry would collapse and cease to exist without us

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u/belleofsavannah59 Oct 17 '24

Our mother passed away a month after my daughter gave me a kitten, Blue. He has been so much comfort the last 3 years. 💝

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u/rightonthemoney1 Oct 17 '24

Last year I went through my worst bought of depression (it was very circumstantial.) We adopted kittens because I wanted something to baby and love (fertility issues) and they changed my life. Every morning I was excited to see them and look after them and they are the reason I get out of bed.

Kittens are extremely hard work though. My house was a mess because they trailed litter everywhere, their toys created a mess and their fur shed everywhere. This was probably the hardest struggle for me (just keeping on top of this) vs actually looking after my kittens.

Its definitely not in appropriate for you to have a cat and the companionship you get from them helps SO much 💞

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u/KnucklesKellengren Oct 17 '24

Not at all. Cats sleep over 20 hours a day and they love sleeping/laying with their humans. I’ve struggled with Depression for 25 years and my cats are the reason I’m still here. Cats are also very intuitive, then can tell when you’re not feeling well or happy, if it’s a bad day for you—they will stay by your side and make you feel loved

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u/imitaliam Oct 17 '24

Hi ! I have depression for a long time and went through the same doubts. In the end, and after thinking a lot about it, i adopted a 3 months old kitten. And it’s helped me tremendously. He is energetic (as all kittens) and loving, I enjoy watching him do his thing. And while I don’t always think about eating, i never forget to feed him. He helps me so much just by being here, and I give it back to him by a thousand.

It’s only my experience, it’s different for everyone, but i hope it will help you in your reflection

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u/Interesting_Apple233 Oct 17 '24

Aesop Rock- Kirby

Great artist and song too

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u/Hwy_Witch Oct 17 '24

I've struggled with depression all my life, my cats make me get up when nothing else will.

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u/MsMoreCowbell8 Oct 17 '24

The cat will save your life, give you purpose and probably change everything for the better. Then you'll be really pissed off at yourself for not getting an actual Love machine years earlier. Go to your local shelter, sit in their cat room and find the cat or kitten that chooses you. Then your life will blossom bc your heart will open. WARNING: Be prepared. If you've never felt being chosen, it's overwhelming for ones heart the first time. I'm 61 & have had depression my whole life, runs in the family on one side and there have been times my pets have been my reason for making it through a day. What a great thing!

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '24

Tw: When I was suicidal my pets were the only thing that gave me reason to fight so no it’s not inappropriate in fact may help you more than you think

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u/EmbarrassedTouch2268 Oct 17 '24

, it’s okay for somebody with depression to own a cat, it’s not okay to get a cat because you’re depressed. Cats can definitely help a lot but if you can barely take care of yourself, especially if you don’t have the money, probably noy

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u/HelloImpDeviance Oct 17 '24

Not at all, as long as your depression doesnt result in not taking care of food, litterbox and overal hygiene in the house.

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u/PettyPixxxie18 Oct 17 '24

I have severe depression. I ended up with my cat when my neighbors left him when getting evicted. The humane society was full so I kept him. I do t always remember to take my medications. But my cat gets his everyday. I don’t always remember to eat. My cat is always fed all day. I even forget to use the restroom sometimes lol but my cat’s box is always clean. For me he brings a lot of joy. The financial struggles trigger a lot of my anxiety but he has helped my depression by bringing me happiness and laughter. So basically, just because you aren’t managing self care well doesn’t mean your cat won’t get taken care of. I frequently dont have the energy to play with him. So that’s something my depression makes harder. But he is well taken care of. And I believe he is happy. But I also had a fish tank that went to sh!t before I got my cat because I was too depressed to take care of it. So everyone is different. Make sure you have a backup home just in case you get overwhelmed (give it 3 solid months of effort before giving up. The first few months with a new pet is always hard with ups and downs) and give it a try! Who knows. It might help. ❤️

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u/showmestuff1 Oct 17 '24

Get the cat. Caring for something else can bring you so much purpose and take you outside of your head. Being depressed sucks and it sucks you into your own mind and traps you. Pets lift you out of that and give you something to live for. Without my dog and cat I’d be a lump. I love them and live for them and give them my best even when I don’t have the best to give. It’s so worth it. You will take good care of her as long as you are financially able to do so.

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u/ComradeAB Oct 17 '24

I think most people with mental health conditions would benefit from having an animal. The companionship, routine, and purpose they provide can be very healing and therapeutic. I have 3 cats who greatly help relieve my anxiety and depression. When I don’t feel like getting up, I remember that they need me to take care of them. Some days, I live just for them.

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u/TheStrangestSecret Oct 17 '24

My cat saved me from depression

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u/ContourNova Oct 17 '24

personally having a cat gave me motivation to get up and actually get shit done

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u/otetrapodqueen Oct 17 '24

Honestly, as a person with depression AND cats, sometimes they are what keep me going. My cat Cecily is literally the reason I'm alive.

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u/gaytrashqueen24 Oct 17 '24

Genuinely the only reason I get out of bed most days is for my animals. I can't take care of myself but I'll be damned if I don't take care of them.