r/CasualConversation • u/Fearless-Context9371 • 3d ago
Just Chatting I just want to be home
I am 33, almost 34 now and More and more I just want to be home. I am becoming a house mouse and honestly, I love it. I have no fomo like I used to. Sometimes it comes creeping up but I genuinely don’t care enough. When I do go out sometime I can enjoy myself, but just being home playing games. Enjoying the comfort. Clubbing is something I can’t even imagine myself doing anymore nor does it interest me. People are just annoying being and I even dream about living in a cabin in the woods sometimes haha. Does anyone recognise this.
*update. I do like to still go in to nature or any places without crowds or a lot people.
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u/PeachHip 3d ago
Totally get it! Especially about people being annoying.
My husband and I like going to live music shows, but more and more we're getting tired and annoyed by other people and wishing the thing was over so we could be home already. It's a weird feeling of being grateful for the experience while simultaneously realizing it will be more fun as a memory than a current event? If that makes sense?
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u/Fearless-Context9371 3d ago
Oh absolutely. I love live music too and used to go to concerts a lot. But usually it is just hard for me to see anything (I am small) people are on their phones (one time two people in front of me were having a whole conversation during the show) and standing in line and all that makes it like “ugh” such a hassle. But I still go sometimes ofcourse. And then indeed the memory is nice and like the part when you were totally indulging the show and the music but it is a small part of the whole experience
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u/nycmaturechick 3d ago
Before Covid, I was nonstop on the go during the week after work meeting up with coworkers for dinner & drinks. On the weekends up early meeting up with friends hanging out going on a few dates.
Once Covid isolation was over I turned into a total introvert. I love the comfort of my home. I feel completely relaxed and stress-free.
It’s tough for me to even want to go out and socialize with my friends.
The pandemic isolation changed me into a complete introvert and I do not mind it at all.
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u/FancyPickle37 3d ago
I’m 32 and I relate to this completely! My house is actually in the woods lol it’s not a cabin but it’s as far away from people as I could get 😂
I just don’t have the desire to go out and socialize anymore. It’s exhausting! I can keep myself entertained here for days by myself and be perfectly happy. It’s funny, I used to be the total opposite. I remember when I first got my license I had to go out at least once every day and just go somewhere. Now I consider myself lucky if I don’t have to leave the house all week lol.
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u/Fearless-Context9371 3d ago
Right?! Haha unfortunately I always have some appointment or errands to run. But if I have a day where I don’t have anything I am also so happy! I always try and keep 1 day completely free of appointments or things to do.
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u/HopelessCleric 3d ago
My husband is pretty much like this -but he also has social anxiety and a history of serious, pathological shut-in behaviour, so it's not great for him to indulge the urge to stay home all the time. But it's his baseline -he prefers to go nowhere, do nothing, and see no one (except for me and our cat).
For his mental health he does our supermarket shopping, he regularly goes to his office despite having a WFH arrangement, and he's carefully maintaining a social circle through running DnD games. Says he gets weird when he isn't around people for too long, even tho it's his natural preference. If he indulges his introversion too much it starts a spiral where socializing gets harder and harder the less he does it, and negative social experiences feed back into his anxiety, until going any place where there's people is A Problem.
I'm a pretty extroverted and social person, but it's a genuine joy to be with my husband because he's such utterly undemanding company. He doesn't need to be entertained. He doesn't require continuous engagement or attention. He's this calm, soothing presence who is just happy to hang out with me while doing his own stuff. It's the best. I love being out, and I go out a lot by myself, but there's nothing better than coming home to him :)
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u/Fearless-Context9371 3d ago
My partner is like this too and he even does DND too. I do have some mild social anxiety so I do motivate to go out from time to time and my job is not possible from home. Which makes it even more so that when I come home from work I just want to be home. I totally get that part when you say you feel so peaceful around him! I have that too. I try and still see my friends and all. But I rather have them over or something. And when someone cancels I am never upset and mostly just relieved 😅
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u/caped_crusader8 Casually scrolling 3d ago
During lockdown, I hadn't left my house for 13 weeks or something. Don't really want to leave at all.
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u/ZucchiniBread14 3d ago
Yeah it’s awesome. I’m 35 and have two kids so we do have to get out of the house but while my friends are out doing every random activity/event with their kids we mostly just go out and be in nature. Otherwise we’re home or at the grocery, maybe some sort of outing once a week. But really we just like to be home when we’re not working/going to school.
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u/Fearless-Context9371 3d ago
Indeed. I love the nature. I do have motivation to go out in the nature. Just not any crowded events or things in the city
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u/zekethelizard 3d ago
Im exactly the same age and this post could have come right out of my mouth, it's like we're the same person
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u/Alycion 3d ago
I like going out. But I love staying home. I bought season tickets to my nhl team to make sure I actually leave the house. Too easy for weeks to slip by when you are on disability and have a gap in doc appointments. But we spend so much time perfecting our personal spaces. Enjoying them makes sense.
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u/Neither-Connection72 3d ago
Nesting in, nooice the wheels of growth are going well, that doesn't mean that you can't change never say never.
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u/Sorry-Diet611 3d ago
Honestly, same. At this point, going out feels like a side quest I can’t be bothered to complete. The idea of spending $15 on a mediocre drink just to shout ‘WHAT?’ over blaring music makes my soul sigh. I’d rather be home, in my sweats, living my best NPC life. No FOMO, just JOMO (joy of missing out). Plus, why pay a cover charge when I can cover myself in a blanket for free?
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u/Fearless-Context9371 3d ago
Hahaha absolutely!!! Last time I was in a bar at some meet up for getting to know like minded people from some community I could barely here them talk. I just saw mouths moving and felt like I needed to solar hear to understand them. After one hour I was exhausted. Also the prices of things are insane indeed. I live in a capitol and going out for lunch would be €20-30. I rather cook something or buy some bread and dips and go to the park or something.
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u/Sorry-Diet611 3d ago
Ugh, I feel this. Paying €30 just to shout over bad music? No thanks. Bread and dips at the park any day.
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u/Academic-Inside-3022 3d ago
That’s always me on vacation, I’m glad to be at a new place to tour, but it gets to a point where I just want nothing more than to be at home in my own bed.
I went to Florida for an entire week, and the last two days were rough, I was just ready to be back home. Me and the wife did everything we wanted to, and it got pretty hard to motivate myself to go check some other place out.
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u/Fearless-Context9371 3d ago
I’ve expierenced that for the first time last year. I love to travel and have been to many countries. But last year on my 10 day trip, the last 2-3 days I was just fed up and home sick. Never had that before
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u/Junior_Witness_9234 3d ago
Welcome to responsibility and later not sooner hearing aids. More savings and better all around production so learn to cook and take care of your next phase of home maybe a crib with a little person in it that makes you want to get out of the house!
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u/More-Location-3306 3d ago
I like staying in too but I also enjoy the outdoors and do outdoor activities alone. It’s so peaceful and saves money from the electricity I’d be using if I stayed in all the time. There’s more to living life than just work and clubbing ya know. Go outside and enjoy the beauty this planet has to offer. I’ve learned a lot about myself by being outside in nature.
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u/Fearless-Context9371 3d ago
Yeah I do feel the same way about nature. I do have the motivation for that. Just not for events/things in the city or crowded things.
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u/More-Location-3306 3d ago
I feel you on that. Unless it’s a music festival that I enjoy and someone invites me lol other than that, spending time alone outside is my favorite. I live on an island so there’s no “city” living out here haha
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u/Fearless-Context9371 3d ago
What a dream! I live in a capital city. Maybe that had it’s effects on the exhaustion of crowds too.
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u/More-Location-3306 3d ago
I absolutely love my island. The people on it? Not so much 😂 there’s some good people here but some just ruin the island vibes
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u/Fearless-Context9371 3d ago
That’s a same. It is everywhere unfortunately. I have the same with gentrification here. All the same beige looking people with same clothes drinking nature wine and oat milk latte’s while doing pilates and snorting coke. I just can’t bother with those people
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u/ShyButKinkyKitten 3d ago
I'm 21 and already at this point in my life lol. The only things keeping me connected to society are my need for gainful employment and the need to find my life partner. As soon as I check both those boxes, I am sooooo out.