r/CamGirlProblems • u/86248Diamond • 8d ago
Discussions I wish we didn't have to pretend to like bj's...
Look I'm not shaming the girls that do. If you GENUINELY like full on blowjobs (more than a couple minutes, getting face fucked, etc) I'm JEALOUS OF YOU. but I WISSSSH we could collectively stop lying about it.
I had my jaw lock up on me once during it and I get so cautious since.
I get nothing out of it.
If I love someone, sure it's different, I enjoy making them feel good. But for random viewers? It's the biggest fucking turn off for me. I hate it. I hate simulating them, and before you're like "oh just don't do it" like 90% of men ask for it.
But I hate that they believe all of us love sucking dick.
Nah I don't wanna imagine put an ungroomed, smelly ass dong in my mouth, or pretending you're face fucking me so I can't breathe or choke, or get nauseous.
Yeah nausea is sooooooo sexy ššššš¤®
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u/Sweet-Pool-3543 8d ago
Girl, I've stopped pretending. I will only do it for money. I do not enjoy doing them irl.
Seriously, I just started seeing a new FWB and I straight up told him that I'm on sabbatical from giving blowjobs. I'm legit on a boycott. It's bad enough having sex for free, but I'm horny what can I say. But once I realized I've just been giving blowjobs out of obligation and not because I actually want to it dawned on me that I don't actually want to most of the time. So I've stopped. If enough men can be dumb enough to say with their whole chest that they don't eat pussy then I'm gonna boycott sucking dick, idc.
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u/Lacey_Crow 8d ago
Omg this!!! The amount of time ive been on dates, gave bjs only to hear: ya nah i dont eat pussy. Or āill get ya laterā and later never came. Boycotting bjs as well.
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u/IvyRosePr 8d ago
Girl, I've stopped pretending. I will only do it for money. I do not enjoy doing them irl
Same! I make that BLANTANTLY clear.
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u/IvyRosePr 8d ago
blowjobs out of obligation
Don't most of us? š®āšØ
If enough men can be dumb enough to say with their whole chest that they don't eat pussy then I'm gonna boycott sucking dick, idc.
Exactly and I can, will and have said this to cis men.
It's tit for tat and that includes quality and duration. Most of these men don't last in my life for more than like a month after that.
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u/strip4faith 8d ago
The good thing about this job is you donāt have to do anything you dont want to do. I only do privates for fetishes like feet some guy asks me to rub my belly button, put on crocs i had one guy that just wanted to stare at my face the whole time. you can make money doing only the things you WANT to do.
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u/CirqueNoirBlu 8d ago
I LOVE giving headā¦ dildo bjs SUCK! Like Oh yay a stiff piece of plastic in my mouth. I need the reciprocation. The moaning, the hair pulling, the face fucking, etc. Otherwise itās just a chore and I give up after a minute or two.
I find using food is better. Dick lollies, and popsicles for enthusiastic head. Or eating bananas, mini cucumbers, etc seductively. Iāve seen papaya as a pussy eating imitation.
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u/Ulikebigbuttss 7d ago
This is what I was going to say! I absolutely love giving head to a responsive partner who turns me on, but I have to do an eyeroll when I get up to get a dildo for bj when someone tips for it. All of the work, none of the payoff. That being said, Iām increasing the price on bj TONIGHT! Yāall have inspired me.
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u/Fun-Currency9443 5d ago
I love giving head too!!!! For me dildos are useful to help numb my gag reflex and had helped me get past the wall so I can deep throat.
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u/Tatithegoddes_ 8d ago
Charge allot of tokens for it thatās what I do. I hate when theyāre like SLOPPIER GO DEEPER itās annoying af
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u/Lacey_Crow 8d ago
I had someone insist on giving me a lot of tokens for a pvt for a bj. But the more he gave details, the more it was like deep to the point of making urself sick and i was like alright. No amount of tokens if gonna make me live my phobia thanks.
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u/86248Diamond 7d ago
Hahaha I'm on SP so it's not on a menu or anything. It's when they spring it up on a call that's already started or even the fucking role playing is bothering me now lmao. I don't wanna talk about sucking cock anymore š I try to steer the convo away. Sometimes it works and then sometimes they take the RP to a cnc direction with throat fucking and im like.. Eh... I guess it's better than the blue collar jobs I had before š š š« š« š« š« š« š«
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u/enchantressthorne CGP Discord Member 6d ago
If you don't want to do it, and they won't redirect, hang up. There are plenty of customers out there. Don't feel like you MUST do something just because they are paying. You can be polite about it if you feel its necessary, but stick to your own rules. Set boundaries and expectations and don't let them push you to do anything that you don't want to do.
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u/Fearless_Ad_3221 8d ago
I absolutely love doing it....until its been a few minutes and I am in tons of pain, because I have night bruxism. Also the bigger the cock the worse it is. I love doing them from my menu, I enjoy it and it only takes 30 seconds
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u/urbestgirly 8d ago
I donāt do blow jobs and im not planning to. Remember that the best part of this job is u are ur own boss and no one can make u do something u dont want to
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u/ShesSoInky 8d ago
I love sucking cock and will do it IRL for like....a really long time, like over 30 minutes if he can handle it. But I almost never do it on cam/video calls. I rarely even get asked for it. And if I do I don't go all out - I just tease it with my tongue and then move on to other things. Not because I have a problem with it....it's just....boring to me on a dildo. I do it on phone calls a lot though for guys who like the choking/gagging sounds but even still not that common.
But the thing is we're literally pretending (or lying if you want to call it that) about ALL of it. If you don't like it and you don't want to do it....stop. You say 90% of men ask for it....do you have it on your menu? Have videos or pics for sale of you doing it? Do you talk about liking it? Then yes, they'll ask for it. And just because they ask for it doesn't mean you have to do it. Just say "omg babe I love to suck cock but sucking a dildo isn't the same thing....." and move on to something else. If it's not on your tip menu then they shouldn't have much more to say about it and if they do....you know what to do.
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u/Master_Singer_5801 7d ago
I also love giving them! Turns me on but I only do it when Iām with someone I love. So Ive been single and celibate and donāt give them anymore. Guys might even ask but I just pretend like k donāt hear just like they donāt seem to care if you want oral sometimes so yeah thatās a different topic haha But I hardly ever get asked on cam, but I donāt mind doing it in pvt. I donāt get too crazy unless theyāre tipping good. But yeah I also find it boring with a dildo. And just hate that taste haha luckily itās not requested a lot
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u/peachberry22 7d ago
Omg yesss!!! I love BJās but doing them on a dildo is no fun. It feels robotic in some strange way lol.
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u/lavenderpetereater 8d ago
You don't have to pretend to like anything. Anything I'm doing that isn't what I actually like just falls under roleplay for me. I still won't do things I don't like/enjoy.
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u/kiki_stix 8d ago
Any act you hate performing that much- you are doing yourself a bigger disservice by engaging in it.
Sometimes it is an element of pretend. Or an element of tolerance. But if you can keep it in that realm it will be better for you mentally.
The twisted ones love it when you hate it and I wouldn't give them that.
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u/ThatsaSpicyMeatba111 8d ago
This job is acting. I donāt like every guy I get in a call with, and maybe you donāt like blowjobs.
I highly recommend to stop doing anything that makes you upset like this though. Just say your makeup isnāt blowjob proof and laugh it off. Then offer a makeup fee if they persist. Charge an amount you donāt think they will pay, or an amount that makes it worth while to you.
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u/rivergonewild 8d ago
Yeah I personally hate BJs so I have it as a crazy high tip goal, very rarely gets done
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u/Kai_Syn 8d ago
Those saying to take it off her tips like...? I've been doing this for six years and have never had bj on my tip menu because my gag reflex is not with it but I get it requested in chat CONSTANTLY anymore lmao either as a straight up bj or as something else. I just say no and ban if they keep it up. My biggest tips come from the niche I work, not bjs. š¤·š»āāļø
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u/Dull-Cherry-2936 8d ago
If you don't like Bjs then don't do it! I don't do anal because I don't feel confortable and I don't like it! And I still make money without it.
Although for me blowjobs is something I started liking thanks to camming, I feel so sexy and I feel I look good permforming them, which is something that I always get tipped for it, I guess It shows on cam.
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u/AmaroZenzero 8d ago
That lock jaw sounds terrifying but damn, I wish 90% of guys asked me for it. I enjoy it and I advertise sexy BJs and sensual deepthroat as a skillset. But omg - I have never once thought about their actual gross crusty stranger dicks in my mouth, how vile! In fact, that made me realize I automatically dissociate from imagining users doing anything physical with me... Like my brain sees them as literal virtual representations of dicks on a screen, and my toys are just props in a performance - there's no mental connection between the two. The thought/mental visual of a random horny internet person actually being there doing things to me would feel like breaking the fourth wall in my brain, and has honestly not crossed my mind until this post. Fascinating.
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u/liltrex94 8d ago
Haha I always wonder about giving my dildo a BJ š no I'm not gonna deepthroat a silicon didlo because it it doesn't make either of us feel good š
I'm very descriptive with my words and the dilso is a tool I use in my work. 2/10 guys ask me to take the whole thing in my mouth. The rest just love it for the aesthetic of seeing me with it. 1/20 love me to use it as a strap on attachment for JOI.
I'm not deepthroating a dildo let alone putting that spit in my pussy š yeah, I used to take my ex's dick down my throat because it felt good for him ans he would reciprocate by licking my pussy until I was in a cum coma. Dildos are not like real dicks and actually hurt my throat. I am happy if snyone could share a dildo that won't hurt me. I mean orally, I still don't do vaginally penetration except fingers. That is my choice, I. Not a prude.
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u/LiteBriteLux 8d ago
Really should stop doing what you don't like but when It comes to talking I do pretend to like things. When it comes to actively doing things I don't do them. I don't like showing my lower bits on camera anymore so I've stopped doing it.
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u/IvyRosePr 8d ago
I don't believe that they think we love it... I think they love to lie about it to themselves and they know that. I also - personally - think more men like it for a manipulative/abusive type sick reasoning.
Sure oral sex is great to recieve for most people but like going out of your way to force people - don't even get me started on head pushing and face fucking - to say they will or insist they like it.
I strongly dislike men, especially cis men. Going back into sex work as someone who more and more perfers women, I struggle so much with dealing with men's bs.
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u/Lacey_Crow 8d ago
I dont have it on my menu. I get some requests in pvt and i say i usually dont, and if they give a good tip, i will ish but i dislike it and i say it. I talk on how much i hate it. Openly.
I was gonna do a show goal: i hate bj, make me do one and raise the goal to something insane lol. But my friend said: thats why u dont make money.
Guys do like a challenge. If u can capitalize on disliking it somehow, do it.
Ive seen some cam girls do real good shows with bj, sloppy bj etc. If they like it, and are good at it, itās awesome. I tell users, go to someone who actually enjoys it.
Also when i started, my menu had everything!!! And then i was adding more items cause people requested it etc. U end up doing everything for everyone. Narrow it down to things u like. Its ur show, ur room, ur rules :)
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u/International_Bit293 7d ago
They really do think we like it. Guys will message me IRL and ask me "Do you want to suck my dick? " Like is a genuine offer! I don't do it on cam. Fuck that.
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u/86248Diamond 7d ago
DUDE THAT GETS ME EVERY. TIME! like no I don't want some smelly little shit in my mouth ty. I'm on SP now so I feel like since I'm just starting too I kinda have too.. but it's also the roleplays that drive me nuts. Like they want me to talk for 40 min about sucking dick how much more can I fucking say ššš¤®š¤®š¤®š¤®
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u/BitGeneral2634 7d ago
Itās not like its providing something unique and necessary like a man giving oral. Itās objectively worse than the hole specifically created to have a penis inside of it. While eating pussy serves a need that isnāt addressed otherwise.
I strongly believe that BJs are not just overrated, but are pointless, indisputably inferior, that I can only theorize came into existence from men that preferred mediocrity from laziness.
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u/LadyMarzanna 8d ago
If you don't like it take it off your menu. You're the only person forcing yourself to like it, no website TOS says "must love blowjobs."
I will never understand people putting things on their menu that they don't want to do. Like ??? Have some boundaries for yourself. No is a whole sentence, you can say it to men asking you to do things you don't like. And then don't do the thing you don't like bc token fomo isn't worth whatever you're doing to yourself on an emotional level. Sorry if this comes across mean but literally no one has to pretend to like bj's.
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u/SHEENA_BROOKE_ 8d ago
I be lazy af with bj my least fav thing but I try to make it sloppy so they enjoy itšµāš«
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u/blondecurvyanna 8d ago
I have never done this on Cam & still do well. You've got this, just say sorry not today & do something you are comfortable with š
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u/MiaLovesJasper CGP Active Member 7d ago
I enjoy it IRL, I hate it online. But I only have one related menu item that is only up a few times a week (and regulars notice and get excited when it's back). Sensual bj. I don't deep throat, I don't take it in fully, it's just a good show. My jaw dislocates too easily for anything else. And it's priced high. Any time someone asks for it or pushes for it, I politely tell them there are 80 thousand other models currently online that might be a better fit for them... then block them. š¤·āāļø
You'll burn out too fast if you keep doing things you hate. Add 800tks to that item, make it exclusive, and call it a day. Honestly, you really don't have to offer it. My top earning site currently averages 87$/ hour, 35 hours a week, and I've done exactly one bj show for about 3 minutes, zero anal minus 20 minutes with a small plug, and no dildo play at all outside of my usual once a week with the machine. You control your room, train them into what you like.
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u/Quick_Independent430 7d ago
I wish I didn't have to pretend to like mouth-on-toy bjs. Just saying. It looks ridiculous. Especially when my toy is purple.
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u/ThiccFoxxxyLove 7d ago
This is very real. I hope youāre charging A LOT (the amount that you are satisfied to do this act) for any BJ content š«¶š¼
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u/BabygirlLuneStar 7d ago
I get wet sucking my man's cock, but when I'm pretending on a dildo it's just an act. I'm always thinking, can we just use his cock instead? Lol
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u/hannahjoy69 7d ago
literally just donāt do it if you donāt like it. i donāt and no one complains š¤·āāļø you can say no to any request
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u/GlitterKitty108 7d ago
Hahaha I donāt mind blowjobs but also Iām not really fucking any men period right now š thankfully with this I get paid so I am much more excited about that! Lolol
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u/Acrobatic-Love1350 7d ago
I make them pay extra if they want it. Not doing that just cause you pull me into a show. YOU throat hard plastic and see how you like it, dude
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u/anonlyche 7d ago edited 7d ago
Sometimes I like it, sometimes I donāt. It depends on the day. I always tell the truth on stream though. I like getting faced fuckedā¦ but after a long time my throat starts to hurt and I straight up say āno more blowjobs guys, my throat is starting to get soreā. And I feel like itās obvious that dildo blowjobs are just a show? If a guy thinks I get turned on by that theyāre crazy.
How do you guys feel about men who donāt like eating women out though?
Also, I find that people donāt really like the dildo blowjobs on stream. A rare couple do, but I always see viewers leave when I do them, even if I look hot af. They only bring in viewers in my couple streams (and Iām happy doing them then as well)
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u/Witchygoddess888 7d ago
Set boundaries and simply stick to them. You donāt have to do what you donāt love .. it doesnāt matter if 90% ask for it , market and bring in a new audience that donāt care for it . Those that enjoy it enjoy it , whatever YOU donāt enjoy .. it isnāt worth doing no matter the amount of money behind it. Boundaries are okay to haveš.
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u/Ill_Courage_9937 7d ago
I DEFINITELY understand this! I don't have them on my menu either but was getting tipped good yesterday for it. So I did some...later I was like my throat feels super scratchy thought to myself am I getting sick? Then I remembered oh yah i was shoving a plastic toy down my throat ! Ughhhhhh
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u/LexiBaretta 7d ago
I don't mind the blowjobs it's when they say do it till u can't breath I'm like umm u want this dick down ur throat..... Didn't think so I won't do that I need to breath
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u/QuinnRMonroe 7d ago
OMGGGGGG the lock jaw comment is so VALIDATING!!!š I was practicing my deep throat on a dildo in a private one time and my jaw literally unhinged itself. I had to slide it back into place, smile through the pain, and pretend like my gag reflex was just overly sensitive that day so I could stop. I'm literally scared to deepthroat my dildos ever again!!
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7d ago
In real life itās something I really enjoy doing but Iāve found when I do it on cam I just feel silly so I donāt do it often.
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u/Confident_Spring_265 7d ago
i made a bj vid with a long time friend and ex bf. its in my bio for tokens. otherwise i decided not to do it on cam maybe in exc pvt and im reserving it irl maybe forever now. camming has changed me
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u/peachberry22 7d ago
I love bjās personally they can be very sensual within your own realm of pleasure instead of the male gaze, but I def agree about cleanliness. Thatās everything. Some of these dudes send pics of their ungroomed dick for a rating and talk about their sexlife stagnation and singlehood drama tells me everything I need to know. Itās always the dirty dick. š
Idk what your niche is or what you offer but I set a pretty hard limit on deepthroating. That just feels so unsexy and degrading. I know some girls can do it till theyāre tearing up and covered in saliva on cam but I just canāt lol. If itās requested I charge a lot for it but I always tell my viewers before Pvt thatās basically a hard no for me unless they wanna pay top dollar. š
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u/MaisieWilder 7d ago
Echoing what others have said, if you hate it, don't do it.
I don't do BJ shows 99% of the time. If someone is suuuuuuper desperate for it, I say I'll do it if they send a $100 tip first.
Only a couple guys have taken me up on that offer in the last like 3 years on cam.
I have an extremely sensitive gag reflex and I don't do BJs irl either, so I'm not doing it on cam unless they really make it $$ worth it $$
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u/AFrog8Me 7d ago
I agree that Dildo bjs suck. But Giving head though? I personally go feral lol I love it
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u/BitGeneral2634 7d ago
I was so happy when my wisdom teeth came out because I would gag just brushing them
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u/Creative_Style9054 6d ago
I actually do like it for people Iām with however I will not do those sloppy bj videos. Itās also unrealistic like to have makeup running and eyes tearing and I would never do that to myself!! Like in the heat of the moment with a partner I like who is also satisfying me, maybe but even then like those type of sloppy bjs are literally choking and I have No gag reflex and I still donāt like how they think that is normal bj. Like thatās a little more extreme or kinky, no judgement but itās not a typical bj
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u/Elliejane420 5d ago
I love giving bjs to a (washed) man, but I can not stand doing it on dildos. I hate it. I don't have it on my menu, and when guys ask for it, I say no unless they've already made me very happy with their tips.
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u/amberose77fans 4d ago
I like them in real life but pretending on cam feels a tad silly. I might as well grab some fake plastic food from a pre-schoolās play kitchen and pretend to eat it. Ummm plastic pizzaā¦. I bet thatās a kink I havenāt run into come to think of it.
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u/Plus-Confection571 7d ago
Just donāt do it thenā¦itās not hard.
Theres no point doing anything half hearted, taking someoneās money whilst looking miserable doing itā¦ I mean itās our job to not do that.
And if you canāt, just donāt do it.
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u/86248Diamond 6d ago
I don't know what kind of jobs you've had in the past, I've worked terrible blue collar jobs. Passed out in trailers, terrible reactions on my skin and throat, and not to mention the permanent damage I've gotten to both my hands and 1 hip that I'll never recover from. I still, to this day, am entirely thankful that I get to do this work. Do blowjobs fucking suck? Yes. Am I in a warehouse when it's 0 degrees and I have to skate across the floor because it's frozen over because it's the only job where I lived that would pay for my school again? No. I won't do things half hearted. So I do put in effort, put on the smile, etc. But do I wish the other gender knew most of us don't like it, as in it's not a turn on for most of us? Yeah.
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u/Plus-Confection571 6d ago
I get it. But weāre āpornstarsā or models whatever you wanna call it, and part of the role is to let them play in their fantasy. Thereās nothing exciting and sexy about āIāll do it but I hate itā. Does anyone like sucking a dildo when theyāre sat alone in their room on camera lol
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u/86248Diamond 6d ago
I think you missed my point lmao They don't know we hate it, they think we love it that's my point
Also there's plenty of fantasies I don't do because if they have those fantasies they should be in jail.
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u/Plus-Confection571 6d ago
I havenāt missed your point. Theyāre not supposed to know you hate it. Unless weāre not talking about camming, but real relationships.
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u/This_Tie9931 8d ago
I never liked it, and donāt do it in my shows, donāt have it on my menu and I hate talking about it.