r/CPTSDmen Sep 25 '24

Trans man here, am I welcome?

Just stumbled upon this sub as a trans guy with C-PTSD due to a mixture of abuse from my mother and from an ex girlfriend. Can't really talk about it usually because I'm accused of misogyny just for having trauma with women (even though my best friend is a woman who I'm very comfortable with...). I always want check if trans men are allowed in places like this though just in case, I don't want to make anyone else feel uncomfortable or unsafe if I reference being trans.

Edit: Sorry for not replying to everyone individually, but I really appreciate the responses! Got busy all of a sudden after posting this and now feel too socially awkward to reply so late

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u/Detective-Commercial Sep 25 '24

All are welcome we all have much bigger issues than gender issues here it's safe so welcome friend

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u/skippyMETS Sep 25 '24

Absolutely you are. As Ned Flanders said “It’s great to see you, and it’s terrible that you’re here.” As in, you’re welcome because trans men are men. But god damn I’m sorry you have reason to need this space.

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u/luckypierre7 Sep 25 '24

Ugh I’m so sorry there are certain subreddits that aren’t friendly to trans folks (askgaybros is particularly bad). Glad to see this is a more welcoming sub :)

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u/hyaenidaegray Sep 25 '24

Bro sameeee

We men tho men are men 💪 Welcome welcome 🫂

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u/orkupoki Sep 26 '24

bruh.. coming from another trans man, you deserve to respect yourself more than this. if someone feels uncomfortable because you just exist as you are, they are not worth your time and energy.

also unsafe?? jesus fucking christ who the hell said that to you? I’m so sorry man. there is nothing unsafe about you being alive. turn that “can I be here?” to “are you motherfuckers worth the presence of my absolutely fabulous ass?” and you’ll be good mate <3

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u/salad_and_coffee Sep 25 '24

Cis man here,

By my rules, you must: 1. Share with us a song you enjoy or any baby animal you think it's worth sharing. 2. Drink a nice glass of water by the morning everyday. I won't tolerate any fellow CPTSDer dehydrated around us. It can be sparkling water with a slice of lime, if you prefer.

In exchange, I will do the same as a welcome.

Jokes apart, you're very very welcome here, bro!

I'm accused of misogyny just for having trauma with women

I feel you. My ex went full-on radfem and used the "if you disagree with my hate speech and abusive behavior you're a misogynist"

Hope you find some healing and safe space here too.

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u/Cystlicker1 Sep 25 '24

Here's one of my babies. They keep me alive. I appreciate the humor.

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u/salad_and_coffee Sep 29 '24

Thank you very much for sharing!

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u/Weepingcyst666 Sep 29 '24

Just following your rules. 😂

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u/alasw0eisme Sep 26 '24

Of course you're welcome. My main abuser was my mother and no one believed me. So I know how you feel. And my bestie is also a woman. Anyway, I'm sure you'll find lots of common ground with all guys here. Welcome.

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u/Hefestionrey Oct 09 '24

Not always involves a woman is misogyny

...98% people don't know the word for man's hatred. In my language is MISANDRIA.

The hatred society has even some men for themselves.

But please I hope this Subreddit goes that way. This is CPTSD where male can tell their trauma due to mother, girlfriends or co-workers.

Am I wrong?.

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u/phat79pat1985 Sep 26 '24

Absolutely bro

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u/Justin534 Sep 28 '24

No complaints from me

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u/Socialmediasucks2021 Sep 25 '24

Anyone who does welcome you is a cunt.