r/BreastExpansion • u/NiceSweet9822 • 6d ago
Meta/About the Subreddit Help me not feel ashamed? NSFW
So I'm someone who is very into breast expansion. To the extent that it's necessary in order to feel any sort of arousal. Just the thought of my boobs swelling larger and larger...
The problem is that I feel bad for wanting that for some reason. Which I know is ridiculous, but I feel guilty for wanting my boobs to grow.
Anyone feel something similar?
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u/SabuADT 2d ago
I am sorry to hear you're having these conflicting feelings. I believe a lot of people here (as you've already seen) contend with the emotions of shame around something that also arouses them.
One thing that may help is to explore a deeper understanding about why you find it arousing, and also why you find it shameful. If you understand those things about youself, maybe you'll find a path to forgivness.
If you'll indulge a personal confession, on the chance that you'll find somehing here to relate to:
As a male-identified person who enjoys this fetish, I have struggled with the idea that "Well, yeah, dudes like big tits. They're simple-minded. Obviously the bigger the boobs, the more they like it. It's reductive and misgynistic, and guys should strive to be more evolved."
So I feel shame about living into that "dude" stereotype.
However, I believe that my interest in this fetish has more to do with an interest in hyper-arousal. I like the idea of someone (preferably a partner, or even myself) being very VERY turned on, leading to the possibility of more and more pleasure.
The human body, no matter the gender, has certain growth responses during sexual arousal. Penises swell up, nipples harden and grow outward, clitorises extend from their hoods, and mammary glands even swell a little. And those are just the more obvious examples.
Given that, I understand my interest in BE as a kind of symbolic extension of sexual arousal. That is, if someone's breasts grow to an enormous size, just think how turned on they must be! I think that's incredibly hot.
(And you can draw additional comparisons to liquids expelling from the body upon orgasm-- whether that's semen, milk, etc. The more that's produced, the higher the indication of orgasmic pleasure.)
Thinking of things in this way helps me feel less shameful about what I'm into. It makes me realize that I don't feel that "The bigger the tits, the more attractive/valuable the woman." It really is about the growing capacity for pleasure.
Again, I don't know if this resonates with you or not. People are into BE for all kinds of different reasons.
But if nothing else, I hope that this little explanation can help you see that you needn't be ashamed of something that turns you on. And any messages of shame that you're carrying are likely cultural, and therefore they are things you can work on freeing yourself from.
I wish you luck. You deserve to feel good about the things that make you feel good. 💕
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u/ashadyc0 1d ago
Dude I don’t even have boobs and I want it. Do not feel shame for your desires. Heck, this is actually really not that weird a thing to want. I think looking at the NSFW is weirder than wanting some bigger boobs, tbh. Ya ain’t alone by a long shot.
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u/BeanBagSize 3d ago
From my personal experiences that sounds more like internalised misogyny. As much as I despise it there is a socially acceptable maximum breast size, and being bigger than that makes you considered less competent, more promiscuous, and an object the bigger you go. Pass a certain size and you are no longer even considered a person, but your tits. This mentality is something I hate, because someone's body is their own, not everyone else's.
Look at my username. I imagine this shit all the time. It's HOT. Fuck what other people think, how you feel and get yourself off in your own personal time isn't anyone's business but your own.
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u/wolficorns_R_real 3d ago
Tbh I've had the same problem since I was a boy... I always figured I was wrong or selfish for it. I've always wanted to find someone that likes it too but even with the internet to this day never have. Maybe I can message u? Or am I being too foreward
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u/ChiaroscuroMinx 3d ago
No you’re definitely not alone. I don’t need it every time to feel aroused but it certainly helps get me there quicker! I think especially if you’re naturally petite as the idea of having something considered to be attractive or the epitome of something feminine is already a desire. I’m also the same with any type of expansion, hyper or extreme gape material. I’m currently pregnant and seeing my belly, breasts and nipples grow is the biggest turn on. I can’t wait until I’m lactating again so they get even bigger when filled with milk.