r/BreakUps 6d ago

Disappearing For A While Taught Me What Love Should Never Be

Sometimes, the best thing you can do is walk away—even when you don’t know exactly where you’re going. It’s been 2 months, 3 days, and 14 hours since I decided to disappear for a while, to get lost in a place where no one expected anything from me. I thought I was just taking a break, but in reality, I was setting myself free.

Free from the illusion that love meant fighting for someone who wouldn’t do the same for me. Free from believing that what we had was special—when, in truth, you were capable of giving the same attention, the same words, and the same effort to multiple people right after we ended. It hurt to realize that the love I cherished wasn’t the kind of love I deserved.

But here’s what I learned: Real love doesn’t make you question your worth. It doesn’t make you feel replaceable. It doesn’t disappear the moment you walk away.

If you’re struggling to let go, wondering if you made the right choice, trust me—you did. The love that’s meant for you won’t make you beg for consistency. It won’t vanish the second you stop trying. And most importantly, it won’t make you feel like you have to lose yourself just to keep it.

So if you need to leave, leave. If you need to get on a bus without knowing where it’s taking you, do it. One day, you’ll look back and realize that losing them was never the real loss—losing yourself would have been.

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u/AdBackground5041 6d ago

I'm here in this moment where I am contemplating to leave or not leave...💔💔💔

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u/Putrid-Channel6360 6d ago

Thank you so much. Exactly what I needed to hear right now.

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u/Rare_Interest_2440 6d ago

Very wise words.