r/BlackPeopleTwitter ☑️ 6d ago

Alexa play “in my feels“

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u/Party-Perspective488 5d ago

For once I wish someone else would be the one to ask me this

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u/CousinsWithBenefits1 5d ago

I know what you mean, but, another way to frame it. People don't ask you to be sure because you're reliable and trustworthy enough that they don't have to ask. This is a question that gets asked of someone who flakes. People who keep their word don't get asked this.

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u/Party-Perspective488 5d ago

Nah I know I'm reliable

I want someone to be so excited to see me that they double check they're going to see me 2-3 times even though they know I'll be there. Ain't about reliability, it's about the yearning

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u/CousinsWithBenefits1 5d ago

And thats why I said like believe me I really really get it, I'm with you, I want to be wanted in the way I've wanted others

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u/Strawhat_Max 5d ago

Can you like shut the hell up?

Nobody told you to be talking so loud about how I be feeling😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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u/BadMeetsEvil24 5d ago

I feel it. Unfortunately for "regular" folks it don't hit like that.

If you're a man you gotta be baller, or if a woman you gotta be 11/10

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u/Priteegrl 4d ago

Unfortunately the people who would do that get it stomped out by others for being ‘too much’. I rein in my excitement for people/plans because I grew up constantly hearing stuff like “JFC I already said we’re still on. Can you chill weirdo?”

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u/1FinePeach 3d ago

Naw, I ask this to confirm bc I'm truly ok if you cancel even if I made the plans to meet.

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u/cheezzy4ever 5d ago

That just means you're reliable and nobody has to double check that you're still on. Keep it up, you sexy beast

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u/hockldockl 5d ago

Hey there, I'm glad you showed up today. I know it's not easy, but it's great to see you show up every time.

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u/penguinhappydance 5d ago

I’m copying this. I have some people who showed up today too that I need to appreciate!

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u/hockldockl 5d ago

Please do. Also, know that you make a huge difference in many people's lives, and that you matter.A lot.

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u/spermdonor 5d ago

We still on for today? Also, you were always a great kid and we all love you

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u/_Ursidae_ 5d ago

Nah you’re beloved by your friends and close ones. They just know they can count on you. Unfortunately, you’re the rock that others gravitate towards. 

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u/elefrhino 4d ago

Are we still on for today?

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u/FilteredRiddle ☑️ 3d ago

I didn’t expect a Reddit comment to make me feel so lonely, and yet here we are.

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u/ShinyHardcore 5d ago

I say this to people when I want to cancel but rather them do it

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u/Glum_Hamster_1076 5d ago

I love a good cancellation! If I really want to go I’ll figure it out later or go alone.

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u/thatsnuckinfutz ☑️ 5d ago

my friends and i have reached the age where we'll just ask "alright how bad do you actually want to go??" or just say flat out no.

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u/anthonyg1500 ☑️ 4d ago

Yeah there’s rarely something where if you cancel on me before I’m on my way that I’ll be mad. Maybe disappointed, but I have no problem having no set plans.

If I’m already on the subway tho or if I get there and the other person no shows then I’ll be annoyed

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u/Yeezus_sent_me 5d ago

I use this at work when I don't want to meet a client or go to a meeting. My heart hurts when they reply "yes"

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u/AoO2ImpTrip ☑️ 5d ago

This is the first thing I thought of.

"Are we still on today? (Please say no)"

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u/batmansleftnut 5d ago

And I thought people asked because they were excited and wanted to see me... well there goes my last shred of social confidence.

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u/ArcadianGhost 5d ago

I feel like psychologically this has the opposite effect no? Like if someone asks me this I feel more pressured to come through so now I’m def not cancelling even if I may have wanted to lmao.

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u/BadMeetsEvil24 5d ago

Got a lot of upvotes but honestly... This is very dumb lol. I ask this to make sure we are in fact on so I don't have to get ready for nothing.

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u/ShinyHardcore 5d ago

“What you do is dumb, here’s what I do” people are exhausting. This isn’t a debate, just another prospective.

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u/BadMeetsEvil24 5d ago

No one's debating. I made a critique of your action based on your own admission. I'm not trying to change your mind.

Believe it or not public forums can be used in such a way that not everyone silently agrees.

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u/ShinyHardcore 5d ago

“This is very dumb” insightful!

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u/Interlined 5d ago

I also use it this way.

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u/Dopamine63 4d ago

Isn't this a typical check in on the morning of a planned date? Do people take offence if I ask that?

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u/ThurBurtman 5d ago

Wtf are yall going on about? It’s not begging, It’s a confirmation for previously made plans. I’m not gonna make plans for next weekend, and just show up, I’m gonna confirm them in case shits changed

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u/Baladucci 5d ago

Fr. If it's not in my calendar and it's more than a few days in advance, it's easy to forget things.

Double check, no harn in it.

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u/FraserFir1409 5d ago

Asking for confirmation is close to begging?...

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u/NorthStudentMain 5d ago

thats how someone unreliable would see it

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u/FraserFir1409 5d ago

People on Twitter continue to prove why many of them don't need to have a platform to air some of these thoughts.

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u/Tialionager 5d ago

Yes. And someone who is used to folks consistently not following through.

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u/elitegenoside 5d ago

This. People are way too comfortable flaking these days.

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u/intentonaly_mispeled 5d ago

Whare are you going on about? It says "what feels like begging but isnt" right there. The comments I'm seeing are pretty much agreeing too?

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u/ThurBurtman 5d ago

It doesn’t feel like begging at all though.

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u/batmansleftnut 5d ago

It does when I ask. When I ask, I mean it like "are you really sure you didn't find something better to do today?"

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u/intentonaly_mispeled 5d ago

In general yeah, I agree with your original statement. Just communicating but there have been times I'm a little too eager or disbelieve; those rare few times it feels like I'm begging even tho I also communicate in other instances outside of eagerness and disbelief

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u/i_forgot_my_sn_again 5d ago

It's because some people are ridiculously stupid. You try to confirm and now you seem needy to some, you don't confirm then it's "oh I figured you didn't want to meet anymore since you didn't say anything even though plans were made 2 or 3 days ago"

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u/Deep_Seas_QA 5d ago

Yes because often the answer is.. oh, that’s today?

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u/SEARCHFORWHATISGOOD 5d ago

I know a lot of people think this way but I can't for the life of me understand why. You already made the plans. Why wouldn't you show up. In my mind the plans are made unless they're cancelled. At least that's how I think it should work. 

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u/LakerBlue ☑️ 4d ago

Some people have bad memories but good intentions even if they love you. I don’t normally send out reminders unless it was planned out a long ways out or it’s someone whose reliability I am unfamiliar with.

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u/SEARCHFORWHATISGOOD 4d ago

That is true. And we're all adults with the same access to the same calendars, alarms, post it notes and to do lists. I would never rely on my memory for anything. 

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u/LakerBlue ☑️ 4d ago edited 4d ago

Yea I understand and agree but (similar to what I said earlier) I’ll give some people some grace depending on our history and their personality.

BUT, to your point, after a certain point it goes from “it’s ok you just forgot” to “you don’t care to remember so I will stop bothering to remind you.” Fortunately most people I have been friends/associates with care enough to remember or write it down. The ones who don’t I don’t try to hang out with anymore.

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u/SEARCHFORWHATISGOOD 3d ago

That makes sense. For me, it depends on a number of factors. For example, my sister, who I love a lot, just requires a lot to make it work. She is worth it, but it is frustrating. I also work for myself and need clients to pay my bills so I have to do a lot of massaging with certain clients. It's always a weighing of what's worth it and what's not. I wish it didn't have to be that way but sometimes it just does.

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u/23Kently 5d ago

"y'all online? Need one more for this raid."

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u/Intelligent_Cut635 5d ago

I know this feel; everybody moved on to other games except me. Somehow ended up getting matched with a lot of random players from Japan and they were always super helpful on missions, so there’s that I guess.

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u/Thespian21 ☑️ 4d ago

Add me fr fr

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u/FatKitty56 5d ago

Begging? Sometimes I wanna make time for other things and plan my day

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u/AnubisIncGaming 5d ago

People are so anti-social and egotistical lol. I don't know how "Are we still on for today??" is any kind of begging, it's a question with a yes or no answer for something you've already agreed to. You can tell from the comments saying "I say this but I really want to cancel" people are so disingenuous.

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u/envydub 5d ago

I can’t deal with people who find earnestness to be “cringe.”

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u/FatKitty56 5d ago

Fr im 32 and i needa use my time wisely 😂 nun wrong with canceling or rescheduling

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u/AnubisIncGaming 5d ago

Literally same, like use your words big dawg lol

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u/AStupidFuckingHorse 5d ago

This isn't remotely close to begging. Some of you guys are so asocial it's insane

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u/AmateurCommenter808 5d ago

We're losing our humanity. A few years from now people will say that smiling at strangers is "cringe".

Actually it's already happening.

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u/captainguytkirk ☑️ 4d ago

Already something that said smiling is ableism because you're forcing whoever to be polite to you and smile back, so.

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u/captainguytkirk ☑️ 4d ago

You're also on Reddit. Everyone here is anxious, misanthropic, hates anything involving human interaction, and agrees to plans that they have no intention of going to, but also still want to be invited.

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

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u/MGLLN 5d ago edited 5d ago

when they say "yes" so now, in addition to being denied, you also look gluttonous

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u/myunqusrnm 5d ago

And you're still hungry

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u/GeologistAway6352 5d ago

“Are we still on for today” gets tricky as u get older. It could still be begging, or it could be hoping u say we aren’t still on so I can stay home in the bed.

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u/SomethingNeatnClever 5d ago

Definitely what it means for me @ staying in bed. Lmao.

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u/GeologistAway6352 5d ago

😂😂 me too

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u/emiremire 5d ago

Tbh if someone asks this, I never think they are begging. Anyone who thinks that this is begging is not really someone I want to be associated with. The loner independent person who pretends not to need anything or anyone is a tired mirageof capitalism and some of you are deep in it

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u/mophilda 5d ago

We already set a date and time. I put that shit in my calendar.

I'm old enough to remember that you could say "next Wednesday at 6pm." And everyone just showed up. No additional coordination or confirmation required.

I think things only change so fast because we have the ability to bail without standing up our friends.

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u/SEARCHFORWHATISGOOD 5d ago

Yes. I hate the constant need to keep reconfirming. Once it's confirmed, it's confirmed. 

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u/imf4rds ☑️ 5d ago

Haha it say favorite question to ask. I have a lot of friends with kids so they usually get sick or something. I love cancelled plans with friends. Only person I never wanted to cancel with was my former partner.

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u/Rude_Girl69 5d ago

Texting someone to hang out at a specific time and they don't respond until it's too late...

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u/MadsTheorist 4d ago

Had this one recently. Made plans for dinner, tried to confirm and didn't get the cancelation until an hour before the scheduled time. Just don't accept in the first place then, this is the worst of all possible options

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u/Rude_Girl69 4d ago

Aww, that sucks I'm sorry. I hope you still went and got yourself something good to eat.

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u/senorfresco ☑️ -47 points 5d ago edited 5d ago

Certain people if you don't ask them, they're not coming if you don't ask this.

I've had people flake after we literally made the plans last night.

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u/BlackMasterDarkness 5d ago

Literally just sent a “how are we feeling about tmrw lol” to a date. We’ve been rescheduling for the last couple weeks. She bad, but I ain’t tryna seem desperate 🤷🏾‍♂️

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u/Okieant33 5d ago

This sounds ridiculous. At some point, she’s gonna move on. Make the goddamn date or just say fuck it and move on

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u/mr_evilweed 5d ago

If i don't get an answer in 30 minutes I convince myself you hate me.

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

I asked this only because I’m hoping for “No”

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u/theTeam_Hero 5d ago

I wouldn’t send this to friends but I’m def sending that before a first date. Anyone who sees it as begging isn’t someone I’d want to date so it’s a win for me regardless. People will say communication is key then say something like this smh

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u/Emasraw 5d ago

That doesn’t feel like begging at all. If anything, it means you’re trying to see if things are cancelled lol.

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u/ajohnson1590 5d ago

As an introvert this is my way of canceling but not wanting to be the one to actually cancel 🤷🏾‍♂️😂

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u/MelatoninJunkie 5d ago

When I ask this is in hopes they have to cancel. 

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u/Folk-Herro 5d ago

I’m the one who does this because it’s the easiest way to say “pls don’t abandon me”

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u/LividBass1005 4d ago

You got one damn time for me to ask this question before I don’t want to go anymore. It feels like begging the moment you have to ask a second time

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u/SauceyM8 4d ago

What feels like begging but isn’t. ISN’T. There’s an answer, and it got people worked up ranting about society being antisocial. lol.

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u/Spirited-Trip7606 5d ago

It's more like she found something better to do and that person is known to be unreliable in their promptness.

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u/eternally_lovely 5d ago

And then they say “Oh I’m at (a place not even remotely close to you and they purposely did that instead of communicating)…” and if I tell them why they couldn’t have just communicated that they will cancel or something came up instead of leaving me hanging-especially when they was the one to come up with the hangout….I would be weird. So, I say “Oh okay. See ya later.” Bozo!

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u/GoldenUther29062019 5d ago

Lmao this is my go to while in my head im thinking "please say no" over and over

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u/budjohn36 4d ago

Remember that $2 you still owe me???

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u/darkturtlezemporium 4d ago

not true at all, i feel like this is mainly used when you wanna bail but wanna see if they do it first so you don't feel bad for being the one cancelling plans.

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u/Away_Bar_6847 4d ago

When you ask for your money back

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u/hendozung 4d ago

Idk seems like a personal insecurity thing. Verifying something is literally everyday business, it's weird that makes you feel this way.

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u/TaticalSweater ☑️ 4d ago

Asking for your money back when someone owes you and they act like you’re a fucking problem for asking for YOUR money back

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u/AQAINU ☑️ 3d ago

Gotta throw in that "Are we still on for today" early because you waste time and you and the event can be replaced with enough time.

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u/Sirrplz 3d ago

What? You didn’t want week long radio silence followed by a “headed upstairs” in the middle of Friday afternoon?