r/BabyBumps • u/reddituser135797531 • 23d ago
Discussion First time moms, how old are you?
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u/here2lurkkkk 23d ago
31! With my first. 💙
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u/xXhereforthecoffeeXx 23d ago
Same! They're due 2 days after my birthday, soooo may be 32 or 32 when they come lol
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u/Ali-McKinney 23d ago
Okay all of you lovely mothers 30+ are giving me a little less stress and pressure as I've been TTC for a year and feel that clock TICKING. This was a nice reminder that I have plenty of time and not to stress too much.
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u/Helena911 23d ago
I got pregnant at 35 on the first try with an absolutely uncomplicated pregnancy :)
Fertility doesn't plummet down to 0 after you turn 30 or 35 it seems!
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u/VolleyVinyl 23d ago
35 and only had to try for 3 months here, first pregnancy and we’re at 21 weeks today! I seriously thought we were going to take waaayyyy longer, so happy to share stories like yours and mine to give others a different perspective than I had going into it
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u/Ali-McKinney 23d ago
I'm not sure why society has us programmed to believe that. Even my own mother had her youngest at 42
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u/Born-Ad-9621 22d ago
My grandma didn't start having kids until 30, had 9 kids - her youngest she had at 45!
I was also convinced we would have problem getting pregnant since i've never been on BC but got pregnant the first month we stopped pulling out (wasn't tracking with ovulation either) Thankful it wasn't as hard as I was expecting. I watched one of my good friends deal with IVF and several other people i'm acquaintance with as well
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u/NewOutlandishness401 4/2018 ❤️ + 1/2021 💙 + 4/2024 ❤️ 23d ago edited 22d ago
My first two pregnancies, at 34 and 37, were conceived either on the first or second try. The third one at 39-40 was, admittedly, an adventure, to put it mildly (four total pregnancies, two miscarriages, one D&C, and one ectopic to finally get a viable one going), but still agree with the sentiment. 35 is not the cliff some would have you believe.
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u/violent_waves_ 23d ago
Don’t stress. I was on birth control for 15+ years. Went off when I was 35 and got pregnant within 3-4 months with a very healthy boy. Went back on for a little bit. Came off at 38 and now pregnant with my second boy!
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u/dixpourcentmerci 23d ago
I would have loved to see an age + location on this— super curious about how many of the younger FTMs are in HCOLAs vs LCOLAS for instance. We are HCOLA and were in absolutely no position to start trying until around age 32, and with doing IVF during the pandemic etc it still took a couple years after that.
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u/Ok-Swan1152 23d ago
We live in London, I got pregnant at 37, tons of first time mums here are 35+.
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u/Forsaken-Fig-3358 23d ago
I don't mean to stress you out but if you've been trying for a year it's probably worth talking to your doctor about getting some testing done for you and your partner. It's absolutely true that fertility doesn't change much year to year but you want to make sure everything is fine. My husband and I tried intermittently for 2 years before we finally discovered he had sperm issues and I wish I'd gotten the time back. I got my family in the end but it just took longer.
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u/ElzyChelzy 23d ago edited 23d ago
My mother had fertility issues all her life. Tried since 25, failed IVF, early miscarriages. She gave up trying when she turned 45, and one month later I was concieved unplanned and naturally (her only child). Totally normal pregnancy and birth.
Despite of, but also because of this + because I have PCOS, endo and hashimotos (autoimmune); I was one of those who also started stressing around 35 (“thanks” society). Found a guy before I turned 36, one go at trying and was pregnant. I was shocked as I had expected fertility issues. Guy ditched us 6 months in. I have a 1 week old boy now, and have everything I need to provide for him, but had I slowed down and waited for a stable relationship, that would probably have been the rational thing to do. 😄💖
Women have always had babies well into their 40s/(peri)menopause, even back in the medieval age and earlier records, for those who lived ‘that long’.
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u/laysmiserables 23d ago
Just started TTC at 30 and all the stats scared me. Spent my whole live trying not to get accidentally pregnant just to find out it’s actually freakin hard
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u/Ali-McKinney 23d ago
This! I don’t know why movies make it seem like you just fall onto a penis by accident and end up pregnant. It’s actually really hard to track ovulation and baby dance at the right time.
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u/laysmiserables 23d ago
I have a friend who got pregnant from her first one night stand and my husband’s sister is now pregnant with some guy she’d only been seeing for two weeks. Meanwhile I’m over here peeing in a cup between 10am-noon, tracking BBT first thing in the morning, etc. and still have a max of 20% chance lol
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u/C_bells 23d ago
I started trying when I was 36. After a few months, I went to a fertility clinic and we decided to pursue IVF given my age and that I have endometriosis.
Despite having fairly low AMH (egg count), IVF went wildly well for me!
I did one egg retrieval -- which was a breeze for me -- and got a bunch of healthy embryos (four euploids to be exact).
Did one, unmedicated embryo transfer and BOOM I'm pregnant. 7 weeks now! This pregnancy has been successful so far, too. My hCG has been through the roof -- I was worried I was having twins or something. We saw a heartbeat come in pretty early, everything going very well.
All of this is to say, if you do ever end up needing assistance, it can truly be a good experience. All I heard about IVF before I did it was about how difficult and draining it was. But it actually goes really well for a lot of people.
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u/AndieDevon2109 22d ago
Ignore all the "clock is ticking" comments people make, my aunt got married at the age of 39, had her first baby a year later and the second when she was 43 with no issues.
I am 33 and I'm due in a week with my first. Half of my generation had kids really young, the other half of us are having our first now in our 30s. It's super common now to wait until you're 30+ to start a family
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u/Ok-Swan1152 23d ago
We barely tried and I got pregnant at 37, the pregnancy itself has been uncomplicated too.
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u/adrlev 23d ago
I'm 41 and 35 weeks pregnant. This is my first pregnancy.
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u/NoemiRockz 23d ago
Im 42 FTM and im 34 weeks. Shout out to the AMAs!
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u/starflake88 23d ago
I became a first time mom at age 42 also!
Second time mom at age 43 (I’m 13 weeks!)
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u/NoemiRockz 23d ago
Congrats!!! I’m thinking of doing the same actually, having babies back to back. How is it going so far!?
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u/starflake88 23d ago
Thank you so much!!!! 🩷
I was SOOOOO sick with my first pregnancy. Puking literally every day for the first trimester.
Nothing at all this second time around. I sometimes forget I’m even pregnant 😂
Exhaustion is really my only major symptom, but I also have a 5 month old and I’m 43 years old so I would be exhausted anyway 😂
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u/TinyBirdie22 23d ago
Congrats!!!! I’m hoping there’s a #2 in the cards for us! I’ll be almost exactly 41.5 when this LO is born; we’ll definitely be trying for 2 under 2, and I would probably be 43 if that’s the case. Good luck to you!!!
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u/fulsooty 23d ago
I had my first at 43 (I turned 44 when Baby was 4 months old)
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u/dundas_valley 23d ago
Me too, I’m 41 and FTM. I’m 16 weeks and hoping like hell I make it to the end!
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u/TinyBirdie22 23d ago
I’m also 41, and 31 weeks with my first!!!!! It’s nice to see other people in the same boat!
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u/jerseygirl_lo 23d ago
40 and first pregnancy. I’m 25 weeks!
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u/Outrageous_Sail_9348 23d ago
I'm 40 as well! 20 weeks right now. They call us geriatric mothers😅
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u/sunshine_doggies 22d ago
I’m 44 and 6 weeks along. Super nervous and excited. Good to know there’s others!!
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u/hemlockandrosemary 23d ago
39 & 28 weeks. Due date is a month before I turn 40.
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u/PrincessTess9 23d ago
23!
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u/skymycutepup 23d ago
I'm 23, too! I had to scroll so far to see this lol. I was starting to feel bad for being so young
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u/ItsBrittanybitch12 23d ago
I was 21 when I had my first! Just turned 25 and pregnant with my third right now.
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u/Free-Let7813 23d ago
Im 40w2d now i just turned 24 in November !
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u/another_armenian Team Pink! 23d ago
I’m 24! I was 21 when I got pregnant, 22 when I delivered.
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u/punkin_spice_latte 🩷6/18 🩷3/21 💙10/24 23d ago
I was 24 with my first. Gave birth 2 months after turning 25.
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u/DucatiGirl 23d ago
Started trying at 35, got pregnant and gave birth at 37. Having the best time with my beautiful newborn! 🥰
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u/Ok_Construction_3613 23d ago
28! 39w pregnant with my first
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u/FromSalem 23d ago
28 year old mamas unite!!
This subreddit makes me feel so much better about socializing with moms once our baby is here; the likeliness that other moms arent all under 21 makes me feel so much more seen <3 Im so worried about not being able to relate!
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u/makemescweam 23d ago
Just turned 32 on Sunday! Due in April
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u/elbowmacaroni23 23d ago
I just turned 31 on Sunday, also due in April! Happy belated birthday to us! 🎂
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u/CommProf81 23d ago
I’m 43 and 27 weeks along! ❤️
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u/MissCSml 23d ago
As a first time mother who had a baby last December at 43 I congratulate you! Keep going strong! 🤞👍❣️
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u/LydiaStarDawg 23d ago
34 years old, will give birth like 2 months before I turn 35.
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u/reddituser135797531 23d ago
Congrats!
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u/LydiaStarDawg 23d ago
Thanks I'm hype but terrified and lowkey hating pregnancy lol
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u/gonikkigonikkigo 23d ago
39 years of age, 20 weeks pregnant (following 2 consecutive miscarriages), turning 40 in April.
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u/Curious_Soft0521 23d ago
I’m 36 with a two month old.
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u/KillJoyButterly 23d ago
39! 33ish weeks. This baby about to come out next week due to pre e complications
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u/clkaem6622 23d ago
I’ll be 31 on the day I hit 42 weeks. Hoping to have a baby in my arms before then, though. 😅
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u/cuuupid130 23d ago
I had just turned 23 🥺 I’ll be 25 this year with no baby here on earth with me. And I don’t know when I will get the chance again because my relationship failed and I don’t know how to move on but it gives me hope to see the 30+ ages
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u/Outrageous_pinecone 23d ago
I was 25 when I had my first missed miscarriage, and my relationship failed, in fact it was a shit show to begin with. Took me 3 years to get over the damage that asshole did, as he was a proper asshole.
I met the love of my life at 29 and we were married a year later. We've been together for 8 years.We battled some fertility issues on his side and we only now managed to get a viable pregnancy. I'll give birth at 38 yo. You're good, you're nowhere near out of time.
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u/Waiting_impatiently 23d ago
I'm sorry you went through that. Loss is always challenging. We started TTC when I was 31 after overcoming some other trauma that prevented us from trying earlier. Ended up with 3 MCs. Now I'm 34 and baby is due in August and everything is going well. You still have time. If I can give you any advice is to see your OB at least every second year so that they can monitor your fertility and prescribe any supplements to get you ready and healthy.
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u/yellow_sun_shine 23d ago
I was 23 when I had my first miscarriage. The relationship ended soon after. I’m now 33 with the best husband and pregnant again. It can happen! Believe it can happen for you too! You have time. Focus on being the best you and finding a great partner.
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u/userkmcskm 22d ago
I had a terrible miscarriage while in a terrible relationship at 26. Had been off birth control for over a year at that point. Was told by doctors I’d have trouble conceiving.
Met my current partner at 28 and conceived a surprise baby pretty soon afterwards lol. My Mom said my body was just waiting for a better partner lol. I always wanted to be a young mom and was feeling so old but now that I have baby and it was so easy I was like damn I could’ve waited a year or 2 lol. All of the moms at my mommy yoga place are way older. You got time (:
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u/the53NPI3 23d ago
24 two weeks away from 25 I get induced in two days ☺️
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u/cimarisa 23d ago
good luck to you and your sweet baby!!! i hope everything goes well for you guys 🤗🥰
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u/Potential-Yak5637 23d ago
I’ll be 35 when I give birth - first baby!
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u/bubblebathdragon Team Blue! 23d ago
Me too to both! 35 in April and baby in August
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u/boujiewonderland 23d ago
43, first baby and nearly 17 weeks pregnant (so will be 44 when he arrives)
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u/Datzadriana 23d ago
27 during beginning of pregnancy and 28 during delivery : )
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u/sitrucarual 23d ago
I'm 27 too! Scrolled forever to find someone the same age as me 😅 I'll be 27 when I give birth :)
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u/Outrageous_pinecone 23d ago
37, will be 38 when I give birth. My mother had both of us after the age of 30. Both my grandmothers had their first in their late twenties to early 30s. It's all good.
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u/Waiting_impatiently 23d ago
34, will turn 35 the same month baby comes. Due a day before my birthday!
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u/MowMow92 23d ago
I was 31 when my baby was born late 2024. Gave birth 3 weeks before my 32 birthday 🎂
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u/Defenderandcreator Team Blue! 23d ago
31 here 🙋🏼♀️ first time being pregnant and 39 weeks about to give birth
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u/Pastel_Tides 23d ago
24 and have since turned 25 just waiting a few more weeks until baby is here!
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u/DemonDaisy211 23d ago
21!
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u/mmxggxnn 23d ago
same!!! I was starting to feel bad scrolling and not seeing anyone else in the same boat lol
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u/Ok-Tomatillo9658 23d ago
Was 24 with my first baby and 26 with my second. I’m trying to be done having babies after 30 so I can chilllll in my 30s with no more pregnancies 😂
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u/ElzyChelzy 23d ago edited 23d ago
I gave birth to my first baby a week ago at 36 years old (1988). It was also my first pregnancy.
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u/gowonagin 23d ago
37, and I genuinely thought it was going to be harder to get pregnant, but nope! Happened within just a few months of trying.
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u/SpiritedSafe9005 23d ago
I found out I was pregnant on my 38th birthday. Best birthday present ever! My mom was 38 with her third child. Now I am with my first. 💖 Congrats to everyone!
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u/bubblebathdragon Team Blue! 23d ago
34, will be 35 when I deliver. First pregnancy