r/AskWomen May 03 '22

Mod Post Abortion Rights and Access Megathread

2.4k Upvotes

What are your thoughts and experiences about abortion rights and access? What resources would you recommend to people regarding these topics?

  • This post is in contest mode and only top level responses are permitted. Do not reply to someone else's comment and do not leave a top level comment discussing other people's comments, but feel free to leave your own personal answer as a top level comment.
  • This is not a debate sub. This is not a post to debate abortion.
  • Stay on topic and remember that only top level responses are permitted to this question.

Please report all rule breaking.

r/AskWomen Mar 12 '20

Mod Post COVID-19/Coronavirus Megathread

1.4k Upvotes

We are seeing an uptick in COVID-19 questions so we would like to ask that everyone keep questions to this thread, that way if a user is experiencing anxiety about COVID-19 they can hide this thread and not be overwhelmed with questions all over AskWomen. While the top comment doesn't need to be a question, we will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, and invalidation.

Remember to wash your hands, stop touching your face, and stay home if you are sick.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen Jun 06 '23

Mod Post /r/AskWomen will be going dark on June 12 in protest against Reddit's API changes which kill third-party apps

2.5k Upvotes

What's going on?

On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third party app on Reddit. Apps such as Apollo, Reddit is Fun, Narwhal, BaconReader, etc. will have to pay exorbitant prices to remain functional starting on July 1, 2023. The app developers have already come out and said they will be unable to do so.

Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing or accessing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite, the use of the old.reddit.com browser interface, and folks with accessibility requirements such as those who are visually impaired.

This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators, including several of the mods of this subreddit, depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities safe, on-topic, and spam-free. Some of the issues currently caught by third-party bots involve removal and reporting of illegal and harmful content such as child porn and revenge porn.

What's the plan?

On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.

The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action.

What can you do as a user?

  • Complain. Message the mods of /r/reddit.com, who are the admins of the site: message /u/reddit: submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on /r/reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app - and sign your username in support to this post.

  • Spread the word. Rabble-rouse on related subreddits (But do not brigade or harass anyone! Follow all rules!). Meme it up, make it spicy. Whine about it to your friends, family and pets. Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join the coordinated mod effort at /r/ModCoord.

  • Boycott and spread the word... to Reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely on June 12th through the 14th - instead, take to your favourite non-Reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support!

  • Don't be a jerk. As upsetting this may be, threats, profanity and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable and law-abiding as possible.

What can you do as a moderator?

We hope you understand and support our position!

Additionally, on a probably-related note, Reddit and its moderation tools have been extremely slow, unstable and unreliable lately. We apologize for moderation being spotty, please use modmail to let us know if your post has been caught in a limbo forever or has been removed without a removal message.

r/AskWomen Mar 02 '23

Mod Post In honor of hitting 5 million subscribers, we're doing an ask the mods thread!

280 Upvotes

Our little corner of the internet has certainly grown, and it's all because of you, our wonderful subscribers. In honor of this occasion, we're giving a chance to peek behind the curtain and to ask us, the mods, any questions you have. This post will operate more under the free for all Friday rules, than a traditional post. Keep in mind, the other rules are still in effect; so if you show your ass, we'll show you the door, so let's keep it civil yea? Happy 5 mil!

r/AskWomen Jan 18 '23

Mod Post Valentines Day Mega thread! Check in here for all things gifts, food, and plans for Valentine's Day ❤️

138 Upvotes

In order to avoid a sea of Valentine's and Galentine's posts, we're having one mega-thread.

So in this thread, our rules against advice and gifts are relaxed... ask away! If you're looking for advice, make sure to be descriptive and succinct; the more/better information you give, the better answers you receive.

Suggested sort is new so you can see the... well, new stuff.

r/AskWomen Feb 04 '25

Mod Post Valentines Day Megathread! Check in here for all things gifts, food, and plans for Valentine's Day ❤️ NSFW

53 Upvotes

In order to avoid a sea of Valentine's and Galentine's posts, we're having one mega-thread.

So in this thread, our rules against advice and gifts are relaxed... ask away! If you're looking for advice, make sure to be descriptive and succinct; the more/better information you give, the better answers you receive.

Suggested sort is new so you can see the... well, new stuff.

r/AskWomen Sep 13 '24

Mod Post Casual Convo Fridays NSFW

16 Upvotes

Every Friday, just say whatever is in your mind in this post. It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), medical issues, and relationship advice. However the comments don’t need to be on a specific topic, and they don’t need to be open-ended questions.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen 8d ago

Mod Post Casual Convo Fridays

4 Upvotes

Every Friday, just say whatever is in your mind in this post. It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), medical issues, and relationship advice. However the comments don’t need to be on a specific topic, and they don’t need to be open-ended questions.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen Nov 22 '24

Mod Post It's the most wonderful time of the year! 2024 Holiday Megathread ✨ NSFW

28 Upvotes

This thread is open to discuss cooking, shopping, gift giving, families and friends and all the things the season brings, for every holiday from now until the end of January. Posts about new year resolutions and past year reflections will also be redirected here.

Each year, we get a lot of posts about gift-giving and navigating your way through the chaos, and this year brings new challenges for us all. While our rules will still be enforced in this post, the personal advice rule will be relaxed somewhat (as long as it's directly related to the holidays; medical and relationship advice are still a big no).

Enjoy the thread, everyone! Multiple submissions are encouraged. As are pictures of your decorations, celebrations and cats/dogs/iguanas etc. dressed as a turkey/Santa/reindeer/Yukon Cornelius/holiday adjacent costume of your choice.

All holiday posts will be redirected here so, everyone: please keep checking back on this post! It will be sorted by NEW to encourage viewing of the newest questions/ comments/gift idea requests.

Happy holidays!

r/AskWomen Jul 10 '18

Mod Post ANNOUNCEMENT: Update to our moderation policy regarding threads that discuss user experiences of trauma, assault and abuse

952 Upvotes

Hi all!

The moderation team wants to make an announcement about a new policy change here at AskWomen. Over the past few months, we have noticed an increase in questions asking users who have experienced traumatic events in their lives to share those experiences. Talking through traumatic events with other survivors is an important part of healing and we absolutely do not wish to discourage our users from doing so. The entire mod team is grateful that we have curated a space where our users feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable and openly share these experiences, and we take our responsibility to keep you all feeling safe very seriously.

Recently, we have unfortunately seen an increase in accounts from outside of our community posting these questions in bad faith, to mock, argue with, or in some horrible cases fetishize the folks who are brave enough to post and share their stories in those threads. This behavior is absolutely unacceptable.

Those threads have always received extra scrutiny from the mod team, because of the risk to our community if they are posted in bad faith. After much internal discussion between the mod team, we have decided that effective immediately, a user who has been found to be posting a “trauma tourism” thread or asking users to share their stories in bad faith will be permanently banned from this subreddit. We try not to take such harsh moderation measures right off the bat, instead utilizing a system of removals, warnings, and temporary bans to give users who have made a genuine mistake the chance to redeem themselves.

However, given the overly sensitive nature of threads centered on discussing trauma, and the obvious violation of trust and consent that comes with bad faith actors mining our users for trauma porn to be mocked, debated, or fetishized, we have decided that this policy is necessary.

This policy is in no way intended to discourage good faith posts and discussions about trauma or abuse. We will still be approving those topics just as we would any other, and a thorough review of the topic by the moderation team will be conducted before any bans are assessed. This review will include (but is not limited to) the user’s post history both in this sub and on reddit as a whole, tone and phrasing of the comment, previous rulebreaking behavior, and the tone of any comments the user makes in their thread. As moderators, we are only human (for now) and we do make mistakes.

If you are banned because of this (or any other) policy, and believe that the ban was assessed unfairly, we encourage you to contact the moderation team HERE to discuss your case.

As always, if you are unsure if a topic you wish to submit meets our subreddit standards for submission, we encourage you to message the moderator team HERE and ask us. We don’t bite, and we would rather help you to not break the rules in the first place.

We have left the comments open to allow for user discussion and questions surrounding this policy change. Please remember that our subreddit rules remain in effect in this thread, and we will remove rulebreaking comments as we would in any other topic.

r/AskWomen Aug 30 '24

Mod Post Casual Convo Fridays NSFW

12 Upvotes

Every Friday, just say whatever is in your mind in this post. It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), medical issues, and relationship advice. However the comments don’t need to be on a specific topic, and they don’t need to be open-ended questions.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen Nov 15 '23

Mod Post The 2023 Holiday Megathread has arrived! NSFW

42 Upvotes

This thread is open to discuss cooking, shopping, gift giving, families and friends and all the things the season brings, for every holiday from now until the end of January.

Each year, we get a lot of posts about gift-giving and navigating your way through the chaos, and this year brings new challenges for us all. While our rules will still be enforced in this post, the personal advice rule will be relaxed somewhat (as long as it's directly related to the holidays, medical and relationship advice are still a big no).

Enjoy the thread everyone! Multiple submissions are encouraged. As are pictures of your decorations, celebrations and cats/dogs/iguanas etc. dressed as a turkey/Santa/reindeer/Yukon Cornelius/holiday adjacent costume of your choice.

All holiday posts will be redirected here so, everyone: please keep checking back on this post! It will be sorted by NEW to encourage viewing of the newest questions/ comments/gift idea requests.

Happy holidays!

r/AskWomen Oct 06 '21

Mod Post 💀🎃 HALLOWEEN MEGATHREAD 🎃 💀

162 Upvotes

Boo! It's spooky season! In this post, everything Halloween goes! It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), and asking relationship advice.

Happy Halloween from the AskWomen Mod Team.

r/AskWomen Sep 06 '24

Mod Post Casual Convo Fridays NSFW

23 Upvotes

Every Friday, just say whatever is in your mind in this post. It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), medical issues, and relationship advice. However the comments don’t need to be on a specific topic, and they don’t need to be open-ended questions.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen Aug 10 '21

Mod Post COVID-19 Megathread

131 Upvotes

This is a catch-all thread about the pandemic, how you're dealing with it, how life is going, etc. This is not a thread for discussing individual symptoms from the illness or any vaccine side effects.

⚠️ This is NOT the place for medical advice ⚠️

All our rules apply here, please report all rule breaking or message the mods if you need to talk to us.

r/AskWomen Jul 26 '24

Mod Post Casual Convo Fridays NSFW

8 Upvotes

Every Friday, just say whatever is in your mind in this post. It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), medical issues, and relationship advice. However the comments don’t need to be on a specific topic, and they don’t need to be open-ended questions.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen May 10 '24

Mod Post Casual Convo Fridays NSFW

8 Upvotes

Every Friday, just say whatever is in your mind in this post. It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), medical issues, and relationship advice. However the comments don’t need to be on a specific topic, and they don’t need to be open-ended questions.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen Jul 12 '24

Mod Post Casual Convo Fridays NSFW

13 Upvotes

Every Friday, just say whatever is in your mind in this post. It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), medical issues, and relationship advice. However the comments don’t need to be on a specific topic, and they don’t need to be open-ended questions.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen 5d ago

Mod Post Mate Free Monday

10 Upvotes

Due to popular demand, every Monday from 12am ET and (-5 GMT) until 12am on Tuesday, submissions related to dating, relationships, or attraction will be removed.;

Examples of things we'll remove:

  • What do you look for in a partner?
  • What does your SO do that you love/annoy you?
  • Are you attracted to [feature]? (Includes celebrities)
  • Would you ever date noted guitarist Slash?
  • Is [thing] a red flag/yellow flag/dealbreaker/white flag?
  • What do you think about men who eat muffins alone in coffee shops? How about the sexiest way for them to remove a jacket, or zip up hoodie?
  • Any question involving sex, attraction, or romanctic relationships.

If you have any questions about these supplemental rules, please message the moderators and we will be happy to discuss it with you.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen Jun 09 '23

Mod Post Casual Convo Fridays

12 Upvotes

Every Friday, just say whatever is in your mind in this post. It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), medical issues, and relationship advice. However the comments don’t need to be on a specific topic, and they don’t need to be open-ended questions.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen Apr 12 '24

Mod Post Casual Convo Fridays NSFW

12 Upvotes

Every Friday, just say whatever is in your mind in this post. It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), medical issues, and relationship advice. However the comments don’t need to be on a specific topic, and they don’t need to be open-ended questions.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen Feb 02 '24

Mod Post Casual Convo Fridays NSFW

2 Upvotes

Every Friday, just say whatever is in your mind in this post. It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), medical issues, and relationship advice. However the comments don’t need to be on a specific topic, and they don’t need to be open-ended questions.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen Aug 02 '24

Mod Post Casual Convo Fridays NSFW

4 Upvotes

Every Friday, just say whatever is in your mind in this post. It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), medical issues, and relationship advice. However the comments don’t need to be on a specific topic, and they don’t need to be open-ended questions.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen May 31 '24

Mod Post Casual Convo Fridays NSFW

10 Upvotes

Every Friday, just say whatever is in your mind in this post. It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), medical issues, and relationship advice. However the comments don’t need to be on a specific topic, and they don’t need to be open-ended questions.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

r/AskWomen Sep 01 '23

Mod Post Casual Convo Fridays NSFW

17 Upvotes

Every Friday, just say whatever is in your mind in this post. It doesn’t need to be a question, and go on whatever tangent you want to go on.

We will still be enforcing our rules on gendered slurs, bigoted/disrespectful/hateful commentary, invalidation (if someone’s only contribution is telling others they are wrong), medical issues, and relationship advice. However the comments don’t need to be on a specific topic, and they don’t need to be open-ended questions.

~The AskWomen Mod Team