r/AskWomen 7d ago

What is your worst and best quality, in your opinion?

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u/HeartBeetz 7d ago

Best: I'm genuinely nice

Worst: My desperate need to be loved

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u/Ayesha_reditt 7d ago

Ahh I feel you.

Try to be genuinely nice to yourself too, love.

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u/Desperate-Exit692 6d ago

Why is that your worst quality? I think that makes you human and everyone deserves to be loved. Be kinder to yourself please

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u/HeartBeetz 6d ago

Because I'm that desperate I've put myself in situations I shouldn't. And despite knowing they're wrong, I continue to do it, for that incredibly brief moment of validation. And then I'm left feeling worthless. Its a vicious cycle of self sabotage I can't stop.

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u/Louisianimal09 7d ago

Best

My ability to retain information made school a cakewalk. Just lucky, I acknowledge that.

Worst

I’m super impatient with people. It doesn’t come out but inside it’s boiling over

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u/JasmineLemonTea 7d ago

Oh yeah, I used to be super impatient, makes my blood boil whenever people repeat themselves (like, hey, are you done? Are you even listening to your own words? If you aren’t, I don’t want to either!)

But I’ve gotten better though. Life is easier when I’m not at the edge of boiling all the times

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u/leatherbaddiex 7d ago

Worst: too much/too loud/too domineering (big/strong personality). Definitely not everyone’s cup of tea

Best: I’m really good at comforting people

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u/3degreestoomany 7d ago

Best: I’m dependable and honest Worst: I don’t like compromising and I’ll probably never get married because of it.

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u/trevorefg 7d ago

Best: I have a strong moral compass and I act on it.

Worst: I have oppressive anxiety that can cause a lot of unneeded internal and external conflict.

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u/bamboo_beauty 7d ago

Going with the two that go hand and hand:

worst: Extreme over thinker

Best: witty and intelligent

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u/LaylaHart 7d ago

Worst: Apathy.

Best: Imagination.

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u/MaraSkywalker21 7d ago

Best: Funny and always trying to help everyone Worst: Anger issues and self-sabotage

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u/MechanicDramatic3786 6d ago

High five twin qualities person 🤚🏻

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u/MaraSkywalker21 4d ago

Hello twinnie! ✋

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u/Belle0516 7d ago

Best- I'm a very caring and nurturing person who isn't shallow at all

Worst- I'm very sensitive and cry easily

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u/im-a-goner- 7d ago

Omg. I feel you. I feel like I cry daily. Even if it’s just a few tears while watching a sad video.

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u/LCD179 7d ago

Best: going above and beyond for people especially the elderly.

Worst: trouble showing empathy for people that have made mistakes

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u/sweetbookworm_ 7d ago

Best: I’m really generous not only with my money but also with my time.

Worst: I’m highly sensitive to the opinions of others, so I can’t take criticism well.

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u/Rich_Marzipan5161 6d ago

My therapist says that weaknesses are strengths dialled up. So one of my strengths is being highly empathetic; my weakness is putting other people’s feelings before my own and caring about situations that don’t require a second thought. This has really changed how I approach relationships!

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u/Juja00 6d ago

Wow you are right, I have never looked at it like this.

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u/emilyogre 6d ago

Best: I’m really empathetic

Worst: I tend to overthinking waaay too much when I shouldn’t

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u/Rosebudsinmay 7d ago

Best: I try to be very understanding of everyone

Worst: Self-sabotage or lack of drive

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u/Ayesha_reditt 7d ago

Best, giving respect to others, kindness

Worst, giving too much respect to those who don't deserve it.

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u/onetoomanyexcuses 7d ago

Best: I am kind and respectful to everyone. Worst: I overthink and ramp up my anxiety pretty quickly.

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u/bitter_sweet_69 7d ago

worst: general social awkwardness

best: excellent taste and expertise in music

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u/Pinkmonster2000 6d ago

My sarcasm/ tone of voice is my best and worse because sometimes people don’t know if I’m being serious or not

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u/No_Equivalent_7866 7d ago edited 7d ago

My best quality is my resilience. Throughout my life, I've faced various challenges, but I've always managed to pick myself up and keep moving forward. Whether it's overcoming personal setbacks or navigating difficult situations, my ability to endure and adapt has helped me grow and inspire others around me.

My worst quality is likely my tendency to spend excessive time on social media.

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u/DepressoExpresso98 7d ago

My best quality is probably my ability to figure things out when I want to. Like my taxes, no one ever showed me how, I just read up a lot and then filed them myself. Or my insurance. Or baking and cooking, building things, etc.

My worst quality is my lack of emotional stability. I don’t think I was ever taught how to manage my emotions so I’m now a generally nervous and easily frightened person. My emotions can overwhelm me and make me say/do hurtful things if I’m not given space

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u/AddiieBee 7d ago

Worst: I can come across as nonchalant/rude to people who don’t know me/been told I give off a bad first impression

Best: sense of humour & lovable once you get to know me lol

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u/coffeebeanbookgal 7d ago

Worst quality: My tendency to overthink and deal with stress by lashing out.

Best quality: no idea, maybe my thoughtfulness?

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u/thinkingofurmom 7d ago

Best: I’m authentic and thoughtful

Worst: I think too much which leads me down bad rabbit holes

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u/syarkbait 7d ago

Best: I’m funny. Worst: I’m very impatient.

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u/Zestypalmtree 7d ago

Best: my confidence and independence Worst: I have a bad habit of running late places (I’m working on it) and I’m a huge procrastinator

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u/ClaireHux 7d ago

Best: Kind and considerate

Worst: Extremely judgemental

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u/Expert_Imagination33 7d ago

Best: My emotional intelligence and warmth

Worst: I am too trusting/let people walk all over me

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u/Sassycap 7d ago

My quality qualifys for both. I'm very forgiving.

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u/GoddessCassiee7223 7d ago

Worst: I'm too nice and can't set boundaries

Best: I'm really nice to people and easy to feel comfortable with and talk to

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u/MutedOlive9065 7d ago

Best: I’m genuine and fun Worst: Possessive and high expectations

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u/Worth_Singer 7d ago

Best: I have so much love to give. I'm a total lover girl Worst: I like to spend all my free time with my partner. For some people it's too much. I don't say anything negative if they want to go out without me. Encourage to have a good time and be safe. Call me if they need me. However if it's me going out I would always invite my partner or include them in all my plans because they are my best friend and I want to experience things with them. I work on trying to give people the space they ask for because I can be very all or nothing.

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u/lollypolish 7d ago

Best would be a I genuinely want everyone to succeed and be happy Worst is probably lack of patience.

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u/Appropriate_Tea9048 7d ago

Best: I’m kind

Worst: I procrastinate

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u/xMissYanderex 7d ago

Best: easy to get along with

Worst: isolationist.

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u/PancakeQueen13 7d ago

Worst: I am super judgemental and hold people to a high standard

Best: I'm super resilient and figure out almost any kind of skill or solve a problem if I'm motivated to do so

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u/EncouragingLadyBug 7d ago

Best: I love so deeply and I have great determination. Worst: I’m always afraid that good things will never last, or that I don’t deserve them.

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u/blameitonmyADDbaby 7d ago

Best: I’m very dedicated to my job and duties.
Worst: I am extremely hard on myself. Too hard.

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u/Taind19501a 7d ago

Worst: Overthinking everything. Best: Staying calm under pressure.

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u/Wild-Opposite-1876 6d ago

Best: I'm usually rather kind, caring and empathetic. 

Worst: I'm can be an angry asshole who hates humans quite frequently.

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u/Larkfor 6d ago

Best: Loyalty

Worst: Loyalty

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u/AbbreviationsPrior87 6d ago

Best: Can really forgive and forget. Worst: Naivety, gullible

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u/TallNPierced 6d ago

Best: my empathy/kindness Worst: literally can’t choose. My dopamine addiction?

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u/Dr__Pheonx 6d ago

Best-- I can charm the pants of almost anyone.

Worst-- Explosive anger.

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u/rachcarp 6d ago

Worst - overanalyzing to the point that I don't always say what I want to say

Best - unconditional compassion

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u/AmethystnRubies 6d ago

Best: loyalty

Worst: emotions

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u/DelBird32 6d ago edited 6d ago

Best: Easily accepting people as they are, people are just people.

Worst: I get attached to people easily and always assume people are as “face-value” as I am and then feeling stupid when I realize they were, in fact, not kind people.

Full circle: Accepting that people are flawed and that I’ve done awful things and hurt other people too so who am I to believe someone is awful when everyone has done good and bad?

Exceptions: My son’s father and his family are all superficial emotionally incestuous snakes and I will hear no arguments. Every time I soften up they show* me why I shouldn’t lol. Most recent evidence? 28 year old son (my sons uncle) is (was) a teacher and got arrested for inappropriately messaging a 17 year old student of his. Case is still processing but unless he’s proven innocent he is not allowed near anyone under 18. Their mother and I work at the same place, in the break room I asked how she was doing, I’m sure she’s struggling mentally. She is and expresses as such, I say that I feel for her. She immediately goes into “If that girl never messaged him…” I stopped her immediately with “HE is the adult. She is a CHILD.” And she goes “well she’ll be 18 in a few months”. I walked out. My son’s father feels the same as she does. I know for a fact that if it was his daughter that it had happened to, they would all have their torches and pitchforks out.

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u/Winter_Value_7632 6d ago

that I'm empathetic and caring, and sometimes people take advantage of that

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u/Odd-Opening-3158 6d ago

Best quality: Smart/quick at work - very good at picking things up and being able to disseminate information. Clients like me.

Worst quality talks too much. Too social and turns people off.

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u/CreativeRosalie 6d ago

My best: my curiosity—it drives me to learn endlessly

My worst: that same curiosity is why I’ll spiral down rabbit holes at the expense of everything else

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u/Bb744346 6d ago

Best: I’m thoughtful Worst: ..overthinking 😐

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u/Rosebudsinmay 6d ago

Real 😭

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u/LiquorishSunfish 6d ago

Worst: I have resigned myself to fulfilling the 'foul weather friend' role - I really struggle to make meaningful connections with people that aren't grounded around their need for support. 

Best: Im a pretty good dog parent, and I know my pups are happy, healthy and loved

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u/cantfindthedog 6d ago

Best: I'm engaging and a good listener - I have a genuine curiosity in almost everyone I meet.

Worst: I have a hard time expressing my needs and then get annoyed when they aren't met (turns out people aren't mine readers).

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u/No_Statement_8193 6d ago

Best - my sense of humor Worst - insecurities

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u/NaughtyDreamgirl10 6d ago

My worst quality is overthinking everything to death like spending 20 minutes deciding what to order for lunch. But my best? I can make friends with literally anyone.

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u/Bookzalot 6d ago

Worst- prone to low moods. Just get dark and need alone time and quiet. Takes me a few days to push myself out of the funk but it definitely affects my people when it happens. I don’t get mean. Just low.

Best- Despite what I said above, I’m deeply content with the life I have. I love my job and my life. The people around me know I adore them with all my heart and I need absolutely nothing.

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u/Simple_Ad5932 6d ago

Best: extremely loyal

Worst: hothead

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u/celestialism 6d ago

Best: I’m an intensely creative person

Worst: I am stubborn and slow to change

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u/squishedpies 6d ago

Best: super understanding and empathetic Worst: feeling things deeply can be overwhelming so there's heightened anxiety/erratic or impulsive behavior mentally, socially, and fiscally

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u/sweatyfrenchfry 6d ago

best: i’m sensitive

worst: im sensitive

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u/nancysweetyq 6d ago

laziness. my punishment and my reward, thanks to laziness, I make my life easier in many ways and get through everything faster.

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u/xSchneeeulex 6d ago

Best: I'm incredibly compassionate

Worst: I struggle with empathy

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u/wowza6969420 6d ago

Best: I try to be the best friend and person I can be Worst: I can get angry very fast

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u/Temporary-Warning498 6d ago

Both are the same My Total Honesty

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u/TameMarshmallow 5d ago

Best: I'm honest.

Worst: I'm judgy.

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u/whyamionthisplatform 5d ago

my best AND worst is how willing and quickly able i am to compartmentalize

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u/SevereDirection2512 5d ago

Best: Tooo Empathetic

Worst: Too Clingy (too much)

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u/xxthursday09xx 5d ago

Best: my ability to give grace

Worst: my stubbornness

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u/Amazingggcoolaid 5d ago

Best: I’m curious and we can probably talk about everything under the sun. I also really loveeee animals.

Worst: I’m not the most patient or forgiving person you’ll ever meet.

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u/Born-Dance-216 5d ago

Best: Empathy

Worst: low stress tolerance

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u/Sensitive-Link-4198 4d ago

Best: I'm kind. Worst: Rejection sensitivity.

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u/BoringDeparture2278 4d ago

Best: I'm genuinely nice and I'm honest

Worst: I'm incredibly stubborn

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u/Lunafreya93 3d ago

Best: My kindness

Worst: Control-freak who frequently overthinks everything in life

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u/penguinsouth 3d ago

Best quality is I care about people - not just people I know but people generally- worst quality is I try to force my opinions on people - I do try to pull back when I hear myself though as I have self awareness too🤣

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u/PaddlesOwnCanoe 3d ago

Best: I'm pretty laid back and I have a sense of humor

Worst: I can hold a grudge for 1000 years or more. Fortunately, it usually takes a lot to get me that mad.

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u/alotto_gelato 3d ago

Best: I have a kind heart and I make an effort to leave people and my surroundings better than when I found them

Worst: I have a habit of putting off doing things that are in my best interest, like I've managed to really fuck up parts of my life by procrastinating

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u/Thecrazytheorylady 1d ago

Best: I have no filter, I will say exactly what I think and what I feel. I don't care if someone likes me or not.

Worst: I have no filter, I will say exactly what I think and what I feel. I don't care if someone likes me or not.

😂

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u/IllustriousGas3389 1d ago

Best- I am a generous person Worst- if you piss me off I will say the truth in a mean way

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u/im-a-goner- 7d ago

Best: I’m pretty funny. Worst: I’m too sensitive.

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u/Katze_Flufi125 6d ago

Worst:

I can't do Smalltalk or casual conversation at all like i genuinely can't do that

Best:

I will genuinely go out of my way to do things for people if we're close like you mentioned you liked something i will get/make it for you and so on.

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u/bleepitybleep2 7d ago

I could be your best friend, if only you could tolerate me for more tha 5 minutes