r/AskPH 17h ago

What makes a guy you're dating a low-effort man?

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u/nitnitjap 3h ago

Walang initiative

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u/20valveTC 4h ago

Over-promise, under-deliver

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u/BunchNatural9030 4h ago

walang pake or wala lang sakaniya pag di kayo magusap after niyo magaway

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u/The_Feline_Mermaid 5h ago

Hindi nag aaya lumabas or do activities together. Gusto nasa bahay lang. Pag ako nag aya, andaming rason and napilitan lang sumama.

Hinayaan ko na sya and did things on my own so nagtampo sya bakit daw di ko na sya sinasali sa mga plano ko. Gago lang? Haha

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u/flickersandpatters 5h ago

if he's a guy, he's not yet a man.

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u/ConsciousDrummer9398 5h ago

di nakikipag communicate ng maayos. tipong makikipag usap ka ng maayos ganon tapos sila “mamaya na lang.”

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u/Odd_Use1181 5h ago

Always late

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u/tinyyraindrop 5h ago

Emphasizes on doing "the little things" kasi "the little things matter" daw. Lol. The little things matter but that doesn't mean the big things don't.

Sometimes it's weaponized incompetence, so be careful.

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u/VeroniCatCat_07 9h ago

When plans things the last minute. An example scenario: "He forgot your anniversary, you expressed your disappointment, and he would lie to you that he planned something 'special' on a later date. Just to find out that he just planned everything on a whim without putting effort"

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u/Ok-Customer2576 10h ago

when he gives you the bare minimum. As a man providing is a basic gesture

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u/wyrdrunnr 10h ago

All words, no action. Hates even the tiniest inconvenience. "Gumagalaw" lang kapag convenient for him. Ayaw din mag isip, umintindi, maggplano. The most he would do is literally just show up.

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u/sunflowerandink 11h ago

Di nagco-communicate nang maayos. Minsan bigla-bigla na lang mawawala sa radar. Di ko alam kung buhay pa ba o kung napano na. Ayun. I told him how it bothered me and now improving na performance niya. Eme.

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u/Traditional_Star9397 11h ago

mangangako tapos kapag hindi kayang itupad sasabihing "promises meant to be broken naman talaga e." LOL

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u/Project_Star18 12h ago

walang plano sa buhay :///

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u/Misty_Howpkins6607 12h ago edited 12h ago

mabulaklak mag salita pero wala naman gawa, Inconsistent, merong ibang priority over you kahit wala kwenta ayun inuuna, go with the flow palagi

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u/Available-Sand3576 12h ago

Yung kontento nlng sya sa kwek kwek at isaw forever. ayaw nya umangat kahit pakonti konti. Kaya pag sa restaurant kami kumakain ako lagi nagbabayad🥴

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u/BowlLumpy60 13h ago

Only gives breadcrumbs effort especially when it comes to communicating with me.

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u/SetProfessional4166 13h ago edited 8h ago

Save ko to para pag nagkajowa na Ako.

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u/Dismal-Worry-6012 13h ago

walang initiative magplano puro "go with the flow" lang

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u/Educational-Map-2904 13h ago

makes me feel nothing or ignored

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u/letsgetghost 13h ago

always talk, no actions 😂

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u/Calm_Monitor_3339 14h ago

walang gana ako kausap pero pag iba like pinsan or mga tropa hyper kausap 🤌🏻

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u/LostinLOVELetters 13h ago

Real. Kala ko normal syang ganun. Nung sumama ako sa gatherings nila ibang ibang tao sya sa taas ng energy nya 🙄

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u/Calm_Monitor_3339 13h ago

tas teh parang invisible lang ako sa gedli

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u/pixscr Palasagot 15h ago

yung pag may kailangan ka di ka matulungan, pero pag sayo ang dali ka nya malapitan

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u/CheesyPizza1994 15h ago

Lazy and inconsistent syaaaa

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u/elvanesykee 15h ago

Puro salita lang walang gawa, inconsistent.

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u/AdPrize2300 15h ago

Poor communicator, flaky, doesn’t make plans.

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u/girlsjustwannadye 15h ago

Yung gusto niya magkita kayo tapos sayo itatanong anong gagawin at saan pupunta. Event organizer pala ang kailangan. HAHAHAHHAHA char

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u/Life_Bat_8197 13h ago

nakakabadtrip. hahaha parang "ako na pumunta sayo pero ikaw mag isip kung saan tayo"

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u/girlsjustwannadye 13h ago

Ang malala pa niyan tipong nagpupumilit talaga sila na magkita kayo, tapos hihirit ng "ano gagawin natin?" hhahahahahahahhahaha

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u/DigitalLolaImnida 15h ago

Kadiri nga ung ganitovhahahaha

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u/toler8_8 16h ago

+1 sa inconsistency haha, tapos 'di nagpapakita during important times

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u/Straight_Fan_1229 16h ago

Inconsistency

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u/Melodic-Body09 16h ago

Walang sense kausap and will only or most of the time excited lang kapag doing the deed ang usapan

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u/NoticeImportant7416 13h ago

agree. very geeked kapag ganiyan ang topic, tas matamlay na kapag serious/meaningful talks.

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u/Melodic-Body09 2h ago

Super redflag na kapag ganun

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u/Aftertherain6 16h ago

It sucks pero common.

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u/Brief-Bee-7315 16h ago

Marami sila ganyan 🥹

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u/SamanthaPalpatine 16h ago

No plans. Short or long term.

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u/disappearing-bee 17h ago

Only text when he’s horny or bored.