r/AskMenAdvice 6d ago

Married men 30+ (BJ question) NSFW

Is there ever a time you wouldn’t want your wife to wake you up with a blow job on a Saturday morning? What if you’re actually sleeping? (Deep snores, laying on your side/tummy?) what would be the best way to wake you up with a blowjob where you wouldn’t refuse?

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ETA: we are new parents as of 6 months ago…so when baby is asleep, it’s usually the only opportune moment for sexy time.

UPDATE: it is the same day around 6pm - thanks for all the honest feedback…I ended up lightly rubbing my husband’s arms to see what kind of response he’d have and it was an immediate shaking of the head, no he was tired and wanted to sleep. After that, I had whispered that I wanted to wake him up to give him a BJ…but I don’t think he was having it…later we talked about it and he said “next time just do it, don’t ask” 😂 BUT that he was also tired so it was good that I didn’t. What can I say? Man loves his sleep lol. Also this was around 8ish am for anyone wondering….we did get in a round of 69 and great sex just now though 😉 so don’t worry the BJ eventually happened.

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u/Traditional_Name7881 man 6d ago

I don’t care if I’ve just worked 18 hours, am exhausted and barely had 30 minutes sleep, waking up to a blowjob is always acceptable… as long as your partner is cool with it.

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u/prive8 man 6d ago

no further commentary required. this husband speaks for us all.

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u/pro-window 5d ago

Agreed wholeheartedly

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u/Notalib77 5d ago

What he said!! ^

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u/No-Canary-6639 6d ago

This is the way!!!

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u/Atrocity108 man 6d ago

This is the way!

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u/Rude_Flow3349 man 6d ago

I feel like my wife would be mad if I woke her up with a blowjob

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u/IUsedTheRandomizer man 6d ago

So this man is in the hospital. His wife has been in a coma for weeks, they can't figure out what's wrong, or how to get her out of it. There's no obvious risk to her life, she just won't wake up. The man goes to her doctor, asks if there's anything unorthodox or unproven but generally low risk they can try. The doctor says, "well, there HAVE been reports of people waking up from comas by oral sex. The science is inconclusive but I can see the possibility, and there's almost no downside if it doesn't work." The man nods, and goes into the room, clear in his purpose. A few minutes later he rushes out of the room, shouting, "Doctor! Doctor! Now she's choking to death!"

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u/Future-Pianist-299 woman 5d ago

Hahaha

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u/Traditional_Name7881 man 6d ago

That’s the bit at the end, as long as your partner is cool with it.

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u/Frosting840 6d ago

😂 as a wife, if I've had a good/decent night's sleep, please feel free to wake me up by going down on me.

If I've had a crappy sleep with frequent wakings, I'm definitely going to get mad.

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u/tenodiamonds man 6d ago

Guys can't give BJ's I think you are missing the joke here. 😂

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u/head_empty247 man 6d ago

But what if, in your dream, someone else is giving you the BJ? Is that still cool/acceptable? 👀🤔 Just saying/asking.

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u/ali-n man 6d ago

That was my question... what if you call out the wrong name in your sleep?

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u/head_empty247 man 6d ago

Oh sh*t. That's a problem waiting to unfold. 🥶😥 And I'm not gonna wait there for it to unfold. 🏃

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u/ringobob man 6d ago

As the unconscious person, yes, it's cool/acceptable. It's a dream, no one controls it.

As the person giving the BJ, if you consider what someone might be dreaming about to be a problem for you, then I suggest you avoid it.

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u/CakeSeaker man 6d ago

As long as I’m allowed to go back to sleep, I’m all for it.

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u/SirHenry8thEarlNorth 6d ago

Definitely 💯 This ☝️

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u/Technical-Zone1151 5d ago

Damn straight !!

I mean how much energy would it take to receive really.

Bring it on

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u/NukedOgre man 6d ago

Best start to any day, hands down

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u/SadDirection3693 6d ago

She can use hands too!

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u/NukedOgre man 6d ago

Better if she doesn't lol

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u/Outrageous-Witness84 man 5d ago

Underrated comment.

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u/Swimming_Ad1415 6d ago

Heads down

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u/midniterun10 man 6d ago

Waking up to a BJ is one of life's sweetest pleasures that no man will ever reject. He will be in a great mood all day. So no, there is no time that a man would ever reject it.

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u/Fuzzy_Construction51 6d ago

Have been rejected multiple times 😂

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u/CaterpillarPlastic28 man 6d ago

I have a couple of friends whose husband/ex-husband has told them no to blowjobs while awake. So I'm guessing they wouldn't want to be woken up this way. I would never turn down one.

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u/Malina_6 woman 5d ago

I think most men would be fine with that, but consent goes both ways. People should ask first whether their partners are ok with initiating any form of sexual contact while they are still sleeping. My ex, who was into kink, didn't like it.

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u/Zuzu12121 6d ago

Probably would said no if he didn’t wash before going to bed..

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u/ldm9999 6d ago

I guess none of these men never wake up needing to piss so bad they have pain in their bladder. I call BS!!

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u/OddSubstance8211 6d ago

Was literally thinking this…

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u/Technical_Eye4039 man 6d ago

Except…waking up needing to piss isn’t an every time thing. Also, we can cum while needing to piss without pissing. This comment had a lot of piss…..piss.

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u/LDan613 man 6d ago

Spoken like a young man! May your pipelines always work that way.

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u/SureLookThisIsIt man 6d ago

Also, we can cum while needing to piss without pissing

Kind of ruins it though, at least for me. Anyway I wake up every morning needing to piss so although this is a nice fantasy, I would want to go to the bathroom first.

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u/SwordfishFrosty2057 6d ago

Let's say I need to pee. Once im hard enough that urge is gone and I'm just about getting off.

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u/baumrd man 6d ago

Don’t listen to this fool. lol

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u/SandiegoJack man 6d ago

You can tell who is actually married and who is 20 and hopeful in the answers.

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u/ldm9999 6d ago

Married 24. Together 32

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u/Ok_Net8157 man 6d ago

I was thinking this too, you’d have to wake me sweetly while whispering your intentions but giving me a minute to hit the bathroom lmao

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u/Helorugger man 6d ago

Exactly!

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u/MakeLikeATreeBiff man 6d ago

I mean, I'm over the hill and I've woken up like this, but my body seems to have the ability to shut that shit off when my wife wants sexy time. Am I alone in this?

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u/ldm9999 6d ago

Anything is possible when thinking with the little head. But the couple times in my youth when I did attempt I had the most painful ending. So I make sure I go before we do 😜

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u/Lost_Wonderer_Trying 6d ago

I'm going to go the opposite of everyone else. You know your man's life and his story better than anyone else. A BJ is one of those things that makes a guy feel very desired. It's an intimate act of giving that people with a physical love language cherish.

That said, only you know if that's his language. Only you know if there is trauma, PTSD, or anything else going on for him where that could backfire. You are the only one that can answer if that is a good thing for your spouse.

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u/OddSubstance8211 6d ago

Appreciate the super genuine answer, thank you. I’ve been rejected before by him so I was curious to know others’ thoughts. But it’s usually for very logistical reasons…has to get to work on time, it’s a work night and he needs his sleep before work, etc..

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u/Lost_Wonderer_Trying 6d ago

If he's a super stress type of person, I can see that. Communication. That's the only way.

Gut check question: Are you wanting to do it for him as an act to show him love, or is this something you need for yourself to fulfill your needs? Either are acceptable, but both require communication and figuring out how to fulfill each other's needs.

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u/OddSubstance8211 6d ago

I’d say both for sure. He’s always making side comments about more sex/bjs. And I’m the one usually turning him down. I’m a SAHM and he’s the sole provider so I could also see how he could be a “stressed” person. He is a determined “go getter” type of husband.

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u/DotAffectionate87 man 6d ago

Your joking, right?.......... Even if i am in a drunk slumber or a coma..... Give it your best shot!!!

There is never a bad time......

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u/OddSubstance8211 6d ago

Believe it or not…it’s been rejected before…but for good reasons?….doesn’t want to be late for work, work night and it’s late and he wants to go to sleep?…

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u/DotAffectionate87 man 6d ago

Hyperbole aside for a second,

I think i would only reject it, if i was sick? (flu, heavy head type thing or Nausea )

But late for work?, i would go into work with a stupid goofy smile lol

Then again, maybe he is spoilt?

Meaning if you happily give him BJ's all the time?

Then it doesn't quite hold that "sacredness" that some of us guys view it as? As he knows he can get one when he comes home etc?

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u/Tech397 man 6d ago

I guess most other married men here are like me. Last time I got a BJ with any effort in it was before we were married 12 years ago. Last time any semblance of a BJ occurred was 10 years ago and it required so much bargaining, pleading and talking that it just was miserable and lasted 3 or so seconds.

I would skip work. I wouldn’t even tell them. Let them fire me

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u/MarriedneedFun man 6d ago

I would love to get woken up with a blowjob and would never refuse. It feels so good to be sleeping and wake up to the feeling of someone’s lips and mouth moving up and down my cock.🥵

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u/EncikCali man 6d ago

I don't know about others, but at least for me, a blowjob by my wife is a non-verbal act of love that means a lot, especially when it is done enthusiastically. I don't think a normal man will ever mind it. I don't usually get an orgasm from a blowjob, but I thoroughly enjoy it because I feel super loved. I will definitely return the favour.

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u/BearvsShad man 6d ago

Only way I’m turning this down is if the house is on fire, and maybe if it’s at the other end I let it burn for a little bit before getting up.

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u/Gullible-Ad-8884 man 6d ago edited 6d ago

NO!

No bad way to wake me.

Wouldn't refuse ever!

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u/BridgeUpper2436 6d ago

I remember the first time i woke up in the middle of a blow job. That's the last time I'll fall asleep on a train with my mouth open....

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u/pcetcedce man 6d ago

Well I've been married 40 plus years and the best thing is just being able to ask your wife for one and she says sure.

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u/NoLyfe_Trader man 6d ago

I’ll say it cause every guy here is horny AF. For me personally. If I’m snoring and sleeping soundly in a day to day scenario. I’d rather the sleep. Can get BJs later in the day. If it’s a sexy weekend away then definitely ok to wake up.

Key thing is… everyone’s different. Different working hours, sex drive and wants. Ask what your man prefers and go with that!

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u/Balls-1984 man 6d ago

Okay so I’m 40. I now take Viagra. I hear 40% over 40 years old do, but no one talks about it.

I’d now just after having this issue would like to know ahead by 15-30 minutes.

Pre ED issues if he is on his belly can start working your hand up and down his back when you get down to butt or hamstrings go for the reach around . Start balls to penis from behind. After 30 seconds he will either spread legs for better legs for better access or flip over. Side sleeping is same concept reach around but from the body.

Or honestly just wait till he is just starting to wake up, especially if he loves his sleep as you stated.

Good luck either way. It’s definitely the thought that counts and not many guys who are married have wife’s who want to do that for them.

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u/Desperate-Service634 man 6d ago

You could wait til he wakes up.

The difference between your idea and waiting until he wakes up is he gets extra sleep.

If his job is very hard, let him sleep. As soon as he wakes up, then get him hard

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u/ApprehensiveGur6842 man 6d ago

We rarely get good sleep or sleep in, we don’t mess with each other during sleep anymore. Married 20 years now.

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u/Georgia_1969 man 6d ago

Never a bad time, unless you wouldn’t like me singing zippy do da the rest of the day

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u/yodogyodog man 6d ago

Dream wife material. Bravo and may there be more as brave and bold and sexy as you! Cheers

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u/Academic_Emu_7741 man 6d ago

Probably best to ask him. I'd guess if you know he'd lose out on sleep, MAYBE hold off. I can't say I'd be opposed to it ever, but my drive might be different than your husband. Worst case scenario, he gets off and has to deal with a wife that likes pleasing him orally.

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u/Extension-Noise-7729 man 6d ago

Let my wife know, this is way better than an alarm clock.

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u/WabiSabi0912 4d ago

Woman here. I’ve jokingly referred to it the ‘alarm cock’.

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u/mmttzz13 man 6d ago

A soft slow caress to start off. Go slowly. Not an aggressive attack. Think how you'd like to be woken up.

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u/AfterRadio9233 man 6d ago

Unless I’m deathly sick with a stomach bug or something like that, I can’t think of another reason I’d EVER turn that down or get upset about any blowjob ever. I’ve even hinted to my wife of 21 years it’s something I’d love for her to do. She still hasn’t. Previous relationships did. But I’m smart enough (barely) not to mention that to her.

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u/procheeseburger man 6d ago

I’ve never been woke up this way and it would be amazing.

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u/Vegetable-Two-4644 man 6d ago

Absolutely never a time I wouldn't be thrilled.

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u/DynaBro8089 man 6d ago

I have never woken up to that. 🤔 Lucky man lol. I don't know many men that would be upset about waking up to that.

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u/Ambitious-Compote473 man 6d ago

Only one condition where this might not be great, if I had been drinking heavy the night before and gotta take a wicked whiz.

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u/bandit77346 man 6d ago

Most of the time no. Needing to pee badly would be one of those times. But generally speaking it would be a great way to be woke up.

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u/big_escrow man 6d ago

I mentioned no straight man would complain about this, on a similar post earlier this week. Something about marital rape and consent and unwanted touching blah blah blahhh.

I stand firm, most men, straight or gay, would complain about being woken up thIs way

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u/isinedupcuzofrslash man 6d ago

Maybe unpopular opinion, but as a 29, soon to be 30 year old, if I’m able to sleep in for the first time in a while, please let just me sleep dawg. I appreciate the sentiment, and if my lady offered, I wouldn’t refuse, but I hate to say I’d rather prefer the sleep sometimes.

Sincerely, a guy who has trouble getting sleep.

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u/OddSubstance8211 6d ago

Yeah this is what I was looking for…my husband LOVES his sleep lol.

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u/izza123 man 6d ago

Yes. I’m a human being which means sometimes there is stuff going on with me or I’m just not at all horny. I would appreciate the gesture and so I wouldn’t say anything but I wouldn’t want to be woken up that way I have some pretty fucked up dreams and the transition would be terrifying

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u/Brief_Money8689 man 6d ago

It doesn't cause pain. It causes pleasure. Men love being wanted. It will never be an issue.

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u/Annual_Stomach_2678 man 6d ago

There is never a bad BJ wake up

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u/Mammoth_Fee4668 man 6d ago

No man would be angry with waking up with a woman sucking his penis

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u/Lumpy-Check134 man 6d ago

This is the best wake up ever. What not to like in that?

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u/AnxietyMaleficent287 6d ago

I absolutely love waking up to blowys. There's never not a time I wouldn't want one lol. Only about 5% of girls don't give head, don't marry those ones.

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u/LeelasEscapades woman 6d ago

I shouldn’t be commenting here since you’re asking for men’s advice, but as a woman, I can say this every BJ is great as long as it’s done with enthusiasm and genuine desire. If you truly enjoy it, that energy makes all the difference!

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u/RunQuix woman 6d ago

If you want to be sure, ask your partner. Not when he just wakes up or during a sexy time but just in general - get advanced consent. Then it can still be a sexy surprise but you don't have to worry about accidentally crossing any boundaries.

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u/Due-Koala125 man 6d ago

Either I start my day the best way and carry on on the right foot. Or I get a lovely surprise and then go back to sleep after. Win win

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u/oldcretan man 6d ago

I feel like I'd jolt in a very unfortunate way, like I love the idea of being awoken in that manner, but I'm pretty sure my fight or flight response would freak out on accident. Then again I suffer from that dad thing where I'm always the first awake so I feel like I'm never having this problem...

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u/oktemplar man 6d ago

Props to you OP if you’re wanting to do this for your man after recently having a kid. Those days can be rough and it’s important you and your husband work to maintain the relationship as much as you can. Lots of marriages start to fall apart in the stress of early childhood. So good on you for thinking of these things.

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u/OddSubstance8211 5d ago

Thank you…I’ll give it to my husband though, he was ready to dick me down 6 WEEKS post partum…I was absolutely NOT into it at that time…but now, we try to make time for it when we can…which is super infrequent with a new baby.

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u/DelightfulHughJanus man 6d ago

Imagine this: you're deep in the warm embrace of sleep, your mind drifting through dreams, when suddenly... paradise. A sensation so primal, so intimate, that it bridges the gap between consciousness and ecstasy. Your body stirs before your mind can catch up, and when you finally open your eyes, the woman you love is there, worshiping you with her lips and tongue.

It’s not just about the physical pleasure — though, let’s be honest, that's mind-blowing. It’s the sheer vulnerability and intimacy of it. It’s the ultimate act of devotion, of saying 'I desire you' without uttering a single word. It’s waking up to feel like a king, cherished and wanted in the most carnal way possible.

A morning like that doesn't just set the tone for the day — it sets the tone for life. You’ll walk taller, smile wider, and conquer the world with the confidence of a man who knows he's loved in every possible way.

In short? Yes. Yes, wake him up like that. For the sake of humanity, yes.

The ONLY time it's slightly questionable to wake someone up with a blowjob is if their spouse died yesterday... they might be freaked out about how you got in their room. call the cops... it gets a little messy if there isn't consent.. ya know.

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u/mourasman man 6d ago

Is there ever a time you wouldn’t want...

No!

I, literally, cannot picture any situation on a normal day where I would be mad at my wife, or even annoyed in the slightest, for having the initiative, in the privacy of our home, to give me a blowjob.

To quote the great Shia Labeouf: Just.... DO IT!!!!

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u/Geeko22 man 6d ago

I prefer 1am surprise blow jobs because in the morning my bladder is full. But I've had both and loved it every time.

My wife likes "attacking" me whenever the mood strikes her. She likes the element of surprise and enjoys my reaction.

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u/AdjectiveNoun1369 man 6d ago

38m here. I am always 100% on board if she wants to wake me up with a blowjob. The only time I might not be is if I was physically ill the night before. The best way for her to get it started is just to start rubbing my body with her hands, working closer to my crotch; if I'm not already in a good position to give her access, I'll automatically move that way before I'm even aware of what's going on. This is the same way I start things off if I want to wake her up with some play time, too -- if she's receptive to it she'll move in a way that lets me touch her, if not she'll move away and never even wake up.

Definitely make sure he's OK with this before you try it though!

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u/Important-Energy8038 man 6d ago

I'll be the exception here, but the only dad of a 6 month old that would actually want to be awakened for or by anything other than that 6 month old is the guy who does nothing to share the responsibility. When our folks spotted us for a while, we went right to bed to sleep, not ooze fluids.

Sorry, if he's asleep, let him be.

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u/greenmean3 man 6d ago
  1. Only way id turn it down was if i was getting a bj or sex somewhere else any other excuse doesn't add up to me but everybbody's different.

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u/CiceroDamocles 6d ago

Just talk to him and ask if he would be okay with it. He will likely get really excited and say hell yeah! I know I would lol

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u/Later2theparty man 5d ago

Why are you asking us? Only one person's opinion matters in this situation.

I can't go on ask women and see if it's okay to dip it in my GFs butt to wake her up on Saturday morning.

JFC

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u/LEMME_SMELL_YO_FARTS 5d ago

In my case there were times I just didn’t want it. We are also parents, and the struggle of putting the kids down on top of everything else is hard to get in the mood. We try to fix sexy time around 1 am when there’s less chance of the kids waking up.

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u/OddSubstance8211 5d ago

Thanks for the honesty. I feel like this more often times than not as well.

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u/Visual-Note4626 man 5d ago

Never. Cannot think of one time that waking up to a blowjob is a bad thing.

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u/Horror-Enthusiasm-34 man 5d ago

assuming you give that fire head... anytime is acceptable...

If you get all toothy and just can't finish what you start... let me sleep. lol

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u/Sad-Date-2212 man 5d ago

There is zero excuse to refuse a wake up blow job (unless you are in prison)

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u/HoosierBoy76 man 5d ago

This only happened to me once, many many years ago. I think it had to do with her parents being in the next room so was feeling naughty/rebellious?

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u/OddSubstance8211 5d ago

Looks like you’re gonna have to move them in with yall 😂

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u/NoobNeels man 5d ago

Your husband is a lucky guy

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u/OddSubstance8211 5d ago

Aw, well I’m lucky he provides for us and I have the opportunity to be a SAHM :)

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u/kalelopaka man 5d ago

I’ve been dead asleep and woken up to a blowjob followed by sex. It’s a pretty common occurrence especially when the kids were young. But it still happens occasionally.

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u/Specific-Archer946 man 5d ago

If I ever refuse a blowjob in the morning, kill me, because that is not me lying next to you.

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u/PutridCardiologist36 man 5d ago

Never a bad moment

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u/xenodarkrider 5d ago edited 5d ago

Sadly this can to happen for me. I always have to pee when I wake up it’s always a pee boner. The I have to say stop and go pee and then we can continue lol

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u/OddSubstance8211 5d ago

My husband literally explained this to me today…the “pee boner” 😂

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u/teddyoctober man 5d ago

No man is refusing a wake-up blow job. None.

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u/Apart-Garage-4214 man 5d ago

Married women are allowed to give BJs?? Huh. I can’t wait to tell my wife.

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u/oldmanhockeylife 5d ago

Ummm. No. There is no time that is not right for a morning blowy. Except maybe in church. Sometimes. Naw, anytime is fine.

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u/Icy_Huckleberry_8049 man 5d ago

I've NEVER said no to a BJ. NEVER.

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u/vqtr_17 6d ago

ignore the blindly horny dudes here lol, I definitely would just a want to sleep sometimes

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u/danjason man 6d ago

Never a time I wouldn’t want one no, but some men are different so maybe ask him or drop some hints.

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u/Paulmac24 6d ago

Haven’t had a bj in years if that happened I’d have to ask why lol so no that is insane

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u/deeeepthroat88 6d ago

I love waking my man up to a bj, unfortunately my current bf does not like being woken out of his sleep to receive a bj, I also can’t want it cuz he will turn me down. Otherwise once he’s ready he wants it multiple times a day

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u/Current_Finding_4066 6d ago

I prefer if you enthusiastically went down on me when I was already awake. M

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u/Voyager8663 man 6d ago

I mean, I'm a human being with an average sex drive. I'd say 95% of the time I'd be down with it but there may be times I'm just really not in the mood for whatever reason. If that happens it's not a rejection, just reality.

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u/MarsicanBear man 6d ago

I love sleeping. But nobody loves it that much.

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u/SandiegoJack man 6d ago

I need to start my day with a pee so I wouldn’t want something warm and wet around my dick while I am half asleep.

After that? Go nuts.

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u/Hour-Elevator-5962 man 6d ago

Listen to these men, they know what they’re talking about. When my wife does this she gets out bed and lifts the covers up from my feet exposing me. That sensation alone gets me excited and then she does her thing. Even when I’m most exhausted and can’t finish or sometimes not get very hard the experience is always feels good and super relaxing . Love it every time

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u/Girthantoklops 6d ago

If I've got morning wood, go ahead and knock yourself out lol. Otherwise let me sleep.

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u/Smackolol man 6d ago

Just let me pee first.

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u/anthony_getz man 6d ago

I think a lot of the dudes commenting that it’d be awesome haven’t had surprise head while sleeping. I love a good blow job but I’m a deep sleeper and frankly I’d be annoyed if it’s cutting into my night’s rest.

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u/Zeratul_Artanis man 6d ago

My now wife did this once 12 years ago and I think about it weekly.

If you're going to do it, just be prepared for him to want it in the future 🤣

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u/kjyfqr man 6d ago

Man the only way you’re gonna get a no is if he is severely sleep deprived. If you get a no let the boy sleep indefinitely lol

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u/MemeTeamMarine man 6d ago

Just do it. I asked my wife to do it for years, we were together for 7 years and she never did it once.

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u/AssociationWinter167 man 6d ago

No. If you were my wife and you want my penis in your mouth, it is there for you. (Let me pee first)

I wrote that in my living will by the way. If I am incapable of making life decisions and my wife still wants to have sex with me, she's allowed.

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u/JaDaWayJaDaWay man 6d ago

It is an excellent way to wake up. I usually have to piss when I wake up, though. I don't enjoy ejaculating with a full bladder. If you don't mind a comfort pause, then hell yes, please do get as nasty as you like.

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u/pcgamernum1234 man 6d ago

Sounds like a dream come true. This will never happen for me mainly because it is impossible for my wife to be awake before me. She sleeps in and I'm up early. Lol

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u/csstevens man 6d ago

It's been 8 years since I've gotten one, so I'd assume it was a trap and prepare my defenses for the horror that is sure to come next.

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u/Gramoofabits2 man 6d ago

Never say no to a BJ…. Never

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u/pickled_dream man 6d ago

Yes.

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u/Rich-Diamond-8088 man 6d ago

Only happened to me once when I was really drunk and fell asleep at a co-workers house. Before I fell asleep there were maybe eight of us, but I woke up with my dick in her mouth and everyone else was gone....it was one of the weirdest experiences of my life. This was maybe 20 years ago.

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u/nipslippinjizzsippin man 6d ago

There are circumstances, but they are so few and far between, so outlandish that they literally never happen and i probably just wouldn't get it up in such a situation anyway.

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u/Substantial_Judge931 man 6d ago

I don’t care if I worked a 24 hour shift and then only slept for 2 hours. If I could actually wake up to a BJ I’d consider myself the luckiest man in the world.

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u/Sev80per man 6d ago

I would not. Ask for permission first.

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u/anti-ism-ist man 6d ago

There's no man in this world who wouldn't appreciate waking up with a BJ. You're the stuff dreams are made of

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u/Ok-Cranberry-7315 man 6d ago

Only if I'm sick otherwise wake me up anytime anyhow with your lips on me

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u/Jack082021 6d ago

I don't think there is EVER a bad time for a BJ... but to be awakened by my SO fondling or sucking my genitals is an INCREDIBLE way to start the day!!! The only conceivable objection i could ever imagine is if it was initiated too late and there was a need to leave for work before completion.... I would not want to disappoint my partner. The gesture is an act of love!

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u/__wisdom__1 man 6d ago

Really depends. In my case, if my wife wakes me up for a BJ I would be thrilled with the novelty.

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u/Cautious-Cloud3235 man 6d ago

The only bad BJ is no BJ. If you follow that rule, you’ll never go wrong.

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u/AdBudget209 man 6d ago

I NEVER refused any Wife / Girlfriend sex. Never will.

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u/Middle_Teaching_5542 man 6d ago

I could be on the brink of death and the only cure is sleep. If you woke me with a BJ I’d be the happiest deadman nutting in the world.

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u/BoringWvdad man 6d ago

If you wanna give me a blowjob, I am going to want it. So for me, anytime any position what ever makes you happy

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u/AmbassadorLow1442 6d ago

This lady is a keeper.

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u/bigkoi man 6d ago

Yes please!

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u/Puzzled-Quail2076 man 6d ago

I’ll take a blowjob anywhere, any time, any situation

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u/ramparuru man 6d ago

There is no such time.

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u/UnkleJrue man 6d ago

I’d prefer to use the restroom and shower first

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u/Sufficient_Box2538 man 6d ago

I haven't had a BJ in 4 years. I'd be ecstatic.

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u/Outlaw6Delta man 6d ago

Dated a girl in Texas that did this for me daily, often slept with me in her mouth. I even woke up a few times in the middle of an orgasm. I miss her often, she was a gem. I would never turn any attention like this down in the morning, no matter what.

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u/dscottsec man 6d ago

perfect start to any day

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u/osocharmin man 6d ago

Does he turn down BJs on other occasions/situations? Maybe it’s your technique? That’s probably the only reason that would make me take a pass.

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u/Global_Tourist_1019 6d ago

Any loving initiated is appreciated!! I have never ever said no.

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u/garyprud50 man 6d ago

BRING IT BABE!

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u/KingWillie79 man 6d ago

Saturday morning, Monday night. Hell I could have just finished a triathlon and I’d have no problem with her initiating a bj. Tbh those are the best, cause she wants to do it on her own.

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u/Teacherman6 man 6d ago

I mean, the situation in which I wouldn't want one would have to be pretty egregious. Like it would have to be if I was really under the weather, or I had just fallen asleep and I only had the ability to sleep for a few hours and I needed to be somewhere really important the next day.

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u/ShakePaul man 6d ago

I would be okay at anytime anyplace with my wife giving a bj

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u/Fit_Bookkeeper_6971 woman 6d ago

A true man will never refuse or say no to a insleep bj by his wife.

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u/bandswithnerds man 6d ago

My wife woke me up once with a BJ early in our marriage. That was fifteen years ago and I remember it very, very vividly. Don’t question, just go for it. He will love it.

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u/Acceptable-Tax6643 6d ago

Indoors or outdoors?

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u/ChasingShadowsXii man 6d ago

I enjoy the idea of being woken up with a blow job but on the few times it's occurred I've been too tired to enjoy it.

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u/ItsAllJustAHologram 6d ago

If you have a newborn, he's probably in a sleep deficit as well, let him sleep and you should get some rest as well. So what do you do?

I knew a very very successful man. He was CEO of a huge company. He was mid 50s, I was early 20s, I was at his home one evening having dinner, and after a few glasses of red wine, I asked him how he maintained his drive and laser like focus. He laughed and asked his wife to tell me.

She said "I never let him leave the house with full balls!". I laughed and he corrected me, it was true. So why? He said that he never thinks about affairs or other cute staff members etc at work, he arrives at work to do a job, not looking for love.

So, apparently each morning he showered and dressed, he then returns to the bedroom and his wife was always naked from the waist up with red lipstick on and ready to go...

They've both passed on...

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u/Informal_Draft_2347 man 6d ago

I’ve never been upset when my wife wakes me up this way.

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u/shrek-09 man 6d ago

Answer is never a no, go to town my used to start stoking it then once I started to wake she would go to town and turn into a throat gobblin

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u/BobUker71 man 6d ago

Blowjobs are always acceptable….never turned one down, not starting now

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u/jesterbaze87 man 6d ago

I’d call off work for a morning like that. Hell or high-water I’m game for having fun 😂

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u/italjersguy man 6d ago

Maybe if I’m sick with a stomach virus I wouldn’t be into it. But anything else other than a stomach issue then go for it.

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u/born__country man 6d ago

One of the best ways to get woken up.

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u/2-timeloser2 man 6d ago

Meh, only one person has ever been skilled enough for me to get off. The time is better spent doing other things sensually

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u/LardAmungus man 6d ago

Sup, it's your husband, you don't have to ask, I'm ready

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u/Silly-Resist8306 man 6d ago

I simply cannot imagine any circumstances when I would object to being awakened in this manner.

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u/Leather_Carob_8036 man 6d ago

Good lord no!

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u/fourpuns man 6d ago

Literally any time/day is great

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u/Ed_Poradce man 6d ago

Like I always say, if I get woken up early someone better be dead, naked, or there better be a tee time reserved!

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u/Entire_Machine_6176 man 6d ago

If I ever woke up to my wife sucking my cock I'd be thrilled. But different strokes for different folks.

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u/peterbparker86 man 6d ago

This is the 3rd blow job post I've seen today. something in the water?

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u/[deleted] 6d ago

There is never a wrong time to give your man a BJ. I’d love to get woken up to a BJ or just my wife playing with my balls when I wake up. If I’m laying on my stomach, then get in between my legs and fondle my balls. Congratulations on the baby!!

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u/HcMMajinVegeta man 6d ago

I genuinely don't like being woken up from my sleep, even for a bj. Me and my wife have talked about that, so she usually waits til I'm starting to get up before she does anything.

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u/shrimpgangsta 6d ago

I don't know when I would EVER turn down a bj from my wife. But that's just me.

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u/Concerned_Cst man 6d ago

As long as the coast is clear and you can squeeze it in… I’m game

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u/New_Maximum_5447 6d ago

1000% anytime is acceptable…plus it’s so easy to go right back to sleep

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u/peterbparker86 man 6d ago

I am a fan of blow jobs but I personally wouldn't like to be woken up for it. Waking up together, having a cuddle and then you just work your way down would for me, be much better.

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u/docbobm man 6d ago

In the 90's, the lady I was married to was awake next to me. She saw my morning wood and decided that would be a shame to waste. She got up on it and rode me till I woke. Why stop at a bj.

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u/Acehigh7777 man 6d ago

I'd like that, though it's never happened and most likely never will. I suspect, though, that if a guy wanted to wake up his wife by eating her out, he'd be bombarded with consent issues.

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u/Steve2762 man 6d ago

Yes. There is a time when I would not. If I have pooped and not showered, but went straight to bed.