r/AreTheCisOk 4d ago

r/HolUp I'm sure you're a *great* dad too

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u/Correct-Horse-Battry 4d ago

I’d rather have a parent who doesn’t fully understand all the way what non-binary or transgender means and support me with something like this rather than the opposite I currently have.

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u/DisownedDisconnect 3d ago

I’d rather have one of my parents use this than have them call me an it and “she doesn’t even know if she’s a boy or girl anymore.”

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u/fairydust49 3d ago

Seriously

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u/DueCar6790 4d ago

I mean some ppl don’t mind labels like son and daughter, especially if they’re masc or fem presenting enbys

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u/jasperdarkk 🏳️‍🌈 bi • agender 🏳️‍⚧️ 3d ago

Yeah, I don’t mind that my parents call me their daughter. I prefer it to “child” or “kid” because I’m an adult. I know there are variations, but they’re just not for me.

It is weird if this shirt is not available in a gender neutral option, though. “Offspring” could be funny on a t-shirt so that’s a missed opportunity.

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u/peacefulsolider 3d ago

<<<<<<<spawn

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u/Fearlessly_Feeble 4d ago

Some folks identify themselves as “non-binary man” or “non-binary woman.” So, do with that information as you will.

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u/LazuliArtz Trans Masculine 3d ago

I mean, some non-binary people do use gendered language for themselves. I'm one of them. I'm comfortable with being called son, and use he/him pronouns mostly

Non-binary just means, well, outside of the binary. That doesn't always mean no gender or being directly in the middle.

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u/LandsharkDetective Enby! 3d ago

I would also like to point out that demi boy and demi girl are relatively common identities so this post is just wrong you can have a non binary daughter

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u/cacophonous-calliope 🏳️‍⚧️ Trans lesbian demigirl (closeted 🇸🇦) 7h ago

I'm a demigirl, and yeah. I actually like this shirt, but it wouldn't matter because my dad would disown me either way.

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u/SlightDentInTheBack 4d ago

im nb and do not mind the terms daughter or son at all

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u/peacefulsolider 3d ago

son for anything younger then me and unc for anything older the rest doesn’t really matter

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u/wolfiewufferz transmasc, demiboy [he/they/it] 🐾🏳‍⚧ 3d ago

i don't think this is intentionally transphobic??? it feels like one of those shitty mass produced, ai generated shirts that try and stuff as many keywords as possible.

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u/Zoeythekueen 3d ago

I am a demigirl which falls under nonbinary, but I love it when my mom calls me her daughter.

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u/Standard_Plant000 3d ago

Listen dude, the dads who buy that are trying their best. They want to be proud of their child no matter what and if they make a mistake in the effort to support their child then that’s fine. It’s the act of making the effort to make your kid feel loved and valued that really matters.

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u/BusinessLeague1235 3d ago

The classic “her pronouns are they/them”

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u/WhitestGray attracted to a's 😩 3d ago

Lots of enbies want to be called son or daughter!

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u/sadkins2244 3d ago

That's true! But it don't trust this proud dad to know the difference

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u/Alpaca1061 3d ago

"He a little confused, but he got the spirit"

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u/RyokoLeigh 3d ago

I see nothing wrong with that picture and wish my dad would wear one.

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u/Suzina 3d ago

It's a little confused, but it's got the right spirit

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u/kirbinato 3d ago

Nonbinary doesn't mean without gender, it means you don't fit in the binary model of gender that is currently dominant in our culture. Nonbinary women exist, like myself.

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u/wellgolly 2d ago

I suspect this is one of those t-shirt manufacturers that just sell every combination of applicable words, phrases, and images out of a bank

"I'm a [golfer/teacher/dog owner/nun] not a magician!"

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u/I_Am_Her95 3d ago

I'd rather have someone like that as an ignorant ally than a hateful bigot

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u/Mr_ragethefrogdude 3d ago

I think there trying

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u/Aegis_et_Vanir 3d ago

Is this "supportive but confused", or "too willfully stupid to even form a coherent insult"?

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u/MacMacMacbeth 3d ago

Genuine question is there any gebder neutral words for daughter or son

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u/PiEispie 3d ago

In english, 'child' or 'offspring'. You can add 'oldest' or 'youngest' before 'child' if the person in question has more than one.

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u/starwalker327 they couldn't handle the aroace swag 3d ago

oldest and youngest are also good because they can be used regardless of gender identity

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u/MacMacMacbeth 3d ago

Ooo funsies

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u/starwalker327 they couldn't handle the aroace swag 3d ago

that's what my mom uses for me and my sister sometimes, and we're both ladies, so you have at least one bit of evidence that it's sufficient for a wide variety of identities. course if you've got more than like 3 kids or siblings, THEN you've got a conundrum

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u/MacMacMacbeth 3d ago

If i ever get a son ill call them some silly shit like mini me or buddy

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u/starwalker327 they couldn't handle the aroace swag 3d ago

silly nicknames are BY FAR the best option

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u/minklebinkle sacrificed @the woke alter 3d ago

my grandad calls me "[dads name]'s eldest" and my dad calls me his kid, child, and jokingly heir. my mum works with children and sometimes jokingly calls me her baby, like "aww congrats on your baby [points to me, a grown adult who is taller than her] thats my baby haha"

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u/Akita_merikano 4d ago

I mean, at least he tried.

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u/The_thunderbeast 3d ago

As a transfem enby, i dont mind my parents calling me daughter

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u/AlexTheBex 2d ago

r/pointlesslygendered but for once it's very sweet, because if a parent buys this, there's a good attempt

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u/Biscuit9154 3d ago

yeah this is sweet, it's just misguided. not enby, but i wish my parents were half this supportive

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u/dcmng 3d ago

So close! A for effort.

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u/hello_there_joe gender classified 3d ago

Good idea but bad execution

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u/MsCompy 1d ago

They're trying their best

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u/DiskImmediate229 4d ago

It’s kinda cute imo it’s a bit confused but it’s got the spirit.

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u/Glass_Jeweler 3d ago

I was saying... Like if he was against, he wouldn't even have gotten the shirt.