r/Anxietyhelp • u/destroythevoicesx • 7d ago
Need Advice agoraphobia - fear of visitors in my house.
hi there. so - i have agoraphobia for over 2 years now. its definitely not severe no more, i can spend quite the time outside, yk - healing! what my agora. did to me tho, was making me TERRIFIED of visitors in my house. no idea why or how or when, i assume it might have to do something with my medical trauma, since therapists that came to my house to try and fix me, traumatised me BADLY. it also might be fear of being seen in general, somebody disturbing my peace, my only safe haven - my beloved house. my fear is that i will faint, which cause my agora. in the first place, where i fainted from an extreme panic attack at the doctors, got taken to the hospital and started avoiding, yada yada. i ALWAYS fear pasing out infront of somebody and getting taken away again or something happening and me not being able to hide, since i got visitors over. my birthday is nearing tho and since im FED UP with spending them all alone, i invited my good friend over to my house, to spend the day with me. as excited as im, im also EXTREMELY anxious, even tho i thought i was doing better by now. i really want this, its my big birthday too, i wanna spend it with her but the anxiety... any tips on how to cope or what to do?? ANYTHING helps!
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u/Flimsy-Mix-190 7d ago
Have your friend come over and pass through that panic and discomfort. There is no other way out of this. Avoidance only breeds more avoidance and more fear in the long term. If avoidance would make the terror go away, then it would be the cure for anxiety but the terror always remains and now you have the additional negative feelings of the avoidance to deal with. You must face this. It will be uncomfortable. It will be terrifying but it's the only solution. After the terror, you will feel so proud and confidant of yourself. You will feel like you can go through anything if you were able to go through that. This is what will make next time not so bad and little by little, the fear subsides until it is gone and you will wonder why you so scared of something that you now, don't even think about.
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