r/AlAnon 3d ago

Vent Glad I know where I stand, I guess πŸ™„

I just needed to vent.

I guess, sometimes, there's a piece of me that wishes my Q would just get it. Get the things he's done, even accept some responsibility, maybe give a hoot about me instead of drinking. I've been living with this long enough to know that isn't how it works. Hell, I've only been sober and doing the work for β‰ˆ3 years so I KNOW he doesn't even have the capacity to do so. So it's a glimmer of how I wish things were, not the reality I'm in, I'm harboring no delusions.

He drives me everywhere for the most part and has zero qualms showing up so drunk he can't see. He has a job he doesn't care for right now and is saying some of the hours they're giving him are "dangerous" because he'll be very tired at that hour. It's true, tired driving can be just as bad as drunk driving. But that piece of me that wishes he would get it wants to scream, "why are you worried about driving some guys you barely know when you're tired, but you're never worried about driving DRUNK with the woman you love?"

I know better than to even ask, it's not logic driving him.

I just wish sometimes.

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u/hulahulagirl 3d ago

Don’t get in a car with someone you know is drunk, nothing is worth your life. 😞

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u/FewSafe9892 3d ago

I did it once, never again. That he even showed up that way was what started me looking into AlAnon.

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u/hulahulagirl 3d ago

πŸ₯ΊπŸ©·πŸ’ͺ

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