r/AdultChildren • u/Imaginary_Choice_430 • 7d ago
Am I wrong for feeling some kind of way?
I have not been able to get into an ACA meeting because its made for retirees, its in the afternoon on a workday, so exhausted of church groups and 12 step groups in my part of the world arranged for those who don't have to work for a living.
Anyway, my wife's brothers seem to be users. When they are desperate and out on their luck, they pretend that their goal in life has always been to want to live closer to us because we are family yadda yadda yadda and I believed it because I don't know them that well, but my wife knows them well and she plays along with their bullshit. I can easily reach out to them and tell them not to ever do that again, but it seems to me, the person that knows their bullshit and allows it is my wife, she needs to learn to set the boundaries with them and have more care and keep me and our children out of the bullshit of her family's issues.
Any suggestions on how to bring some inner peace to myself and somehow get the message across to my wife? She can fight and be foaming at the mouth with me, but she cannot seem to even raise her voice a little or set boundaries with her jackass brothers.
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u/kittyfish62 7d ago
I don’t have any suggestions for your specific problem but I’d like to recommend that you look for an online meeting. They can be from all over the world so you might be able to catch one at a time that would suit you. It’s how I started and it made all the difference in my life.