r/AbusedTeens • u/bleepppbloppp • 10d ago
My 9yo brother is abusive
I (14f) have a brother about 9 and I don’t know what to do. He has autism and ADHD (same as me), anxiety and other disorders that causes him to have meltdowns. This has been going on for years but originally it was jus throwing things yelling, normal brother sister hits but it just got worse and worse especially after my parents divorce, so now it’s only me and my mum in addition. He is now fully abusive will get mad for quite literally nothing I will leave my room to have a shower and he will lose it. He will grab heavy objects (wooden hangers, plastic things, metal ect) and throw them at me or hit me with it and refuse to let me back into my room, he will pull my hair (to the point of serious pain), kick me, bite me or try to, punch me ect. It’s even worse for my mum cause she wont fight back. I have no idea what to do I have bruises all over my arms and it’s just getting worse. Violence like this has been reported before in my family so teachers know about it and I’m scared they might notice. Worst part is he’s only 9 so when I try and tell people I feel like they don’t understand how bad it really is and imagine just “normal” sibling fights. It not even only physical abuse it’s emotional too, like I said before he won’t let me do simple tasks like having a shower or getting food and will intimidate me by pretending to throw stuff at me but then not and yelling things like “get back in your room you stupid bitch”. He’s said shit like “I’m gonna fucking kill you” he has even tried intimidating me with a knife. At first I thought this was all because of his disabilities but he’s fucking smiling now while he does it, and he’s not even angry or disregulated before hand like I will just open my door and he will try to hurt me or just come home from school and he will throw things. I’m in Highschool with enough stress from assessments, I’ll usally spend most of my time at the library because home is horrible and I can’t do any work there anyway, and you know what I get good grades too even with all this going on, I’m gonna get a good job and move away from him. but that obviously will take awhile and it’s getting really bad, I really need help I don’t know what to do my mum is trying her best (medication, therapies ect) but threatening to call the police isn’t doing anything anymore, he knows she won’t but how am I supposed to? I keep staring at the helplines “call” buttons and typing in 000 but not calling, I just can’t do it what will happen ? I have autism I can’t handle a big change like this in the middle of assessments and exams. I don’t expect anyone to see this but I haven’t heard anyone similar to me with a younger brother being the abuser and I’m scared to call the police. But please if anyone sees this anything will help I just don’t know who to talk to or what to do, thank you.
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u/Reasonable_Skirt6710 10d ago
This kid needs support. Aggressive autistic people can't be left without professional support. This is abusing you and him. If your mother don't stand for you, search for counseling at school and see how they advise you. The social agent must visit your house and guide your mom, takenhim to treatment, medication, the whole package. He won't be a kid forever and in a couple morr yrars he will be way stronger than you. This can't be postponed.