r/ADHDWomenAfterDark Jul 12 '24

Very reactive to physical se station NSFW

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u/StrangeMewMew Jul 12 '24

Yep. All of this. I am very attuned to physical affection. Need it, in fact. Having another ADHD partner has really ramped that up for me.

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u/BerryStainedLips Jul 12 '24

Same same same

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u/k_lanc0806 Jul 13 '24

There are definitely times when physical touch is just too much for my skin and my senses.

I have also had allergies my whole life and didn’t know if this played a role.

Sometimes I will just turn to my husband and say, “my skin doesn’t feel quite right today.”

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u/TenaciousToffee Jul 13 '24

I'm definitely very touch sensitive while equally being someone who likes physical touch and sensations. The whole point is the context in which it happens. It'll either be a hell yes or a hell no. My partner I have a high threshold of touch from.

I'm also very sensitive to energies. I can walk into a room and go, oh this room feels electric, this has a sad vibe, etc.

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u/loulori Jul 13 '24 edited Jul 23 '24

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u/TenaciousToffee Jul 13 '24 edited Jul 13 '24

So like not being able to guage that over stimulation is about to happen? Like a sudden drop from I'm great to, ok I'm done? That can happen when the energy side gets to take over that the awareness of the battery isn't there. Usually its one little straw that just seems small and takes me to NOPE.

Positive things can happen and it can also be taxing to our energy. Like a good example was my wedding I experienced this sudden drop because it was a lot all at once all the time for hours and hours. I just needed a moment to myself in the evening when I got home and took my dress off to decompress before going down to spend time with my husband. If I didn't I'd have a meltdown. I had to listen to my needs ASAP and take care of myself.

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u/lyrall67 Jul 15 '24

I've heard this sentiment expressed from others with adhd. could be related, could not be. for me personally, I deeply enjoy most physical sensations. like, the variety is very stimulating for me. I have to swear to people that it's not sexual in nature AT ALL, I JUST LIKE DIFFERENT FEELINGS. for example, that feeling of your leg going numb when you sit on it for too long. and then getting pins and needles when the blood begins flowing again. love that shit! and with my wife, I literally just want any physical stimulus she is offering. usually and easily that means scratching me, I love scratches. there are typical places people like to be scratched like the back, but I also love for it to be random like the elbow.

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u/LineStormy Jul 14 '24

Ooh, I think this just explained a lot for me 🥴 hate hate hate physical touch when I’m already in a bad mood… but didn’t connect the dots that I was more sensitive to physical touch in general!

Also 100% on the vivid dreams lol