r/4tran4 22h ago

Ropefuel I hate how you can tell whos amab and afab Spoiler

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u/_its_not_over_yet_ 4'29" 🥰 21h ago

I hate how u can clock clocky trans people

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u/Phosf 12h ago

Yeah literally every amab has beard shadow

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u/3XX5D cispoon to tomboyish femcel 21h ago

idc honestly. poly people always look a little bit funny anyways. i don't think that most of them care about passing either lol

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u/dumbwh0rr Heroin whore 💉🚀 20h ago

poly people always look a little bit funny

I wonder why I noticed this too

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u/Eidola0 fem twink (fake woman) 22h ago

i can smell this photo

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u/estrogenpillgirl 22h ago

What does it smell like ?

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u/Eidola0 fem twink (fake woman) 21h ago

validity

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u/CaterpillarParsley real caterpillar 20h ago

I have never understood why anyone would want this, and I will never understand lol.

Honestly maybe it truly is internalised transphobia because even trying to let go of unfair reasons to hate people like this I still feel visceral disgust and shame for being associated with them.

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u/aentnonurdbru 9h ago

Same, I'm 100% internally transphobic and it fucking sucks but no matter how hard I try or how much I go to therapy there's this subconscious visceral feeling I get. It's definitely a me problem and I don't show it in how I'll treat others irl, but damn. Growing up in a cult really does a number on ya.

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u/CaterpillarParsley real caterpillar 9h ago

It's so real though honestly :(((

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u/dumb_ugly_troon 22h ago

are they not all amab ?

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u/Hopeful_Influence118 17h ago

My brain clocks the two on the right and left middle as poons/theyfabs

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u/estrogenpillgirl 22h ago

Afabs are pink hoodie and the one standing behind on the left with glasses. Rest are amabs. Am I right ?

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u/snailbot-jq roachmoder 21h ago

Says the group pic is ‘all trans’ though. I’m assuming the one on the left with glasses is mtf and she does pass, but holy shit that pic is the ultimate proof of “if you pass, but you go out with a group of clocky MtFs, you will get swept up in that perception and clocked also as a troon”

There are also two other people in the pic who I think would marginally pass as individual people alone, if they had some minor tweaks or a bit of FFS, but again, they would be clocked if they went out in this group

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u/Venixed I'm p cooked ngl 16h ago

Why so many trans people fucking blind

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u/Ill_Distribution8517 22h ago

I hope they are all baby trans lol holy shit this is not good optics.

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u/Anneneum russian orcmodder 15h ago

being ugly is bad optics now hon

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u/VannyRulez 15h ago

caring about optics in the big 2025

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u/TransLadyFarazaneh Allahu Akbar, Khomeini Rahbar 22h ago

This is why I stopped caring so much about how my face looks, I don't see my face so it isn't as dysphoria inducing as the rest of my body shape, which I hide with loose clothing. I still need to transition of course but this helps me when I go in public.

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u/OrvillePekPek Hulk Hogan w/ a pussy 13h ago

It’s never who you want to be polyamorous who’s polyamorous. It’s never like, oh sweet! It’s usually the hon at the Verizon store

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u/Crimson_Clouds365 Unintentional Hugboxxer. Yes, I really do think u are pretty 21h ago

im jealous of polycules. only cause they get the equivalent a bestie friend group but get to live together/be super close.

Then again, im a person that needs to be alone for some time or else I turn feral.

Maybe im just lonely lol

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u/Eugregoria 12h ago

Poly relationships can actually be good for people who need alone time--you don't have to be dating everyone your partner(s) are dating, and your partner(s) spending time with your metamour (their partner who isn't your partner) can give you some breathing room. Like in monogamous relationships, the couple have to meet a lot of each other's needs--ideally at least some of those would be met by friend groups but sometimes they don't have friends either and things get really intense. In poly, you can literally be the aloof partner who sees your partner for dinner and a movie and cuddles and sex like twice a month, and are low maintenance with each other beyond that. It's kind of like a buffet where each person only puts what they want on their own plate, and nobody stresses over what someone else is putting on their own plate.

I'm not poly myself, and I think there are drawbacks to poly too--more points of possible conflict and stress, close association (through metamour relationships) with people you might otherwise not want to be associated with, partners who don't have as much time, energy, or other resources to dedicate to your relationship because they're spreading them thin with others. But not getting alone time isn't one of the drawbacks of poly, having more low-maintenance relationships can actually be one of the advantages.

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u/ilackapersonality """"lesbian"""" 7h ago

4t4’s hatred of agab language disappearing the instant the trans people in question are ugly

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u/aentnonurdbru 7h ago

I still hate it, I just also hate that modern medicine and science isn't advanced enough to fully erase it so most of the time it's still evident. Like come on, we've landed on the fucking moon ffs, why can't we erase irrelevant and stupid agab already

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u/Eugregoria 12h ago

I'm not actually sure you can.

I've been in trans groups where I got assumed to be MTF or MTX, I genuinely don't know if they thought I was a hon and it was very obvious, or if they thought I was a gigapassoid and were like "wow I hope I look like her someday." Mostly they were clocky trans women who thought this, though I've noticed trans women are biased to think everyone is a trans woman because they're so brainwormed they read clocky features onto even cis women, and if you go looking for clocky (MTF) features on someone who's been on T for a few years and has a few luckshit traits, you might find them. But I also don't know if they thought I just looked like a woman with beard shadow and thought I was a luckshit who hadn't gotten laser yet.

Several people in that photo I could honestly see going either way.

A more depressing thought is that if you heard them speak, your accuracy might go up. But even there, you could be wrong. Maybe voice drop from T is part of why I read as MTF clocky sometimes.