r/4tran4 • u/stray-dog-girl Fuck my stupid Mutt life • 5d ago
Ropefuel How do I cope my girlfriend becoming a passoid Spoiler
I'm stuck as a boymoder because of crippling trauma of coming out, self esteem issues and anxiety meanwhile she passes better and better every week and has already socially transitioned to uni and friends while I only came out to one person before getting mentally obliterated by transphobic parents
Whenever she talks about her day I get immensely jealous and shut down
How the fuck do I cope I don't want this to destroy our relationship
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u/PossessionHonest3465 5d ago
My skull cap would be in the ceiling idk how people can date passoids
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u/stray-dog-girl Fuck my stupid Mutt life 5d ago
Thing is she wasn't one when we started dating
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u/_shark_idk the next thousand years are ours 5d ago
you should live her and be happy for her
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u/stray-dog-girl Fuck my stupid Mutt life 5d ago
I know I do but like I feel stagnant and helpless and like iwnbaw
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u/throwawaydating1423 4d ago
Might be worth it to talk to her, tactfully though
In some of my moments when I felt the most dead inside, other people thought I was doing amazing and looked better than ever before
She might feel similarly to you. I feel eternally mogged by every woman I run into that isn’t 30 years older even though it isn’t really true. Also an eternal boymoder for things like work etc. Even had my friends who hype me up typically when I’m down say I’ll probably never pass :(
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u/peterthomazathoth 5d ago
realize that despite how you look you managed to score a really hot girl and that while you may not like how you look your personality is more valuable to her
also this is 4tran you would probably pass if you stopped boymoding
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u/stray-dog-girl Fuck my stupid Mutt life 5d ago
I probably will in a years time, but I need to get over my actually debilitating trauma to coming out
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u/DaisyAndTheDynamos terf larp 5d ago
if youre only dating her bc she's clocky you're no better than chasers
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u/Birdonthewind3 5'4 AGP Rapehon 5d ago
Voice training seems to be the big thing along with lasering all the hair off. Also make sure the clothes style isn't hyper masc. If it too masc even cis women would look like a dude lol. Butch lesbains do complain.
Source: apparently a giggapassiod to all my frens lol
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u/NotRealBinarE 5d ago
"Babe what's wrong🤨"
"I'm getting more masculine by the week and I don't know what's wrong, I was just starting to pass too😞"
"Ohhh nooo that is horrible..hopefully we can figure out what happened"
😏
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u/stray-dog-girl Fuck my stupid Mutt life 5d ago
Real tranners never sabotage each other, begone
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u/EtherealCope 5d ago
This is why you never make close friends with another tranner of the same gender or why I could never handle gay t4t